astronetster Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 When me and my ex-girlfriend broken up (due to some reasons), she immediately went back to her former boyfriend before me(which they dated for 10 mths compared to my 6 mths of dating). She was the one to fall for me in the first place before and now after our breakup, she started texting to her former boyfriend. He was a nice guy too. Despite that fact that she dumped him and came to me in the past. So he is giving her a lot of emotional support since she couldn't just be by herself. Does is also considered a rebound? It is hard to say but i kept wondering about it. If they get back together, I might be in rebound relationship in the first place. We were really committed during our relationship unlike her past with her former boyfriend. She treated me more special than him. Perhaps, she might want him as an emotional support?
veggirl Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 She is just not able to be alone. Insert ANY guy. I don't think you were a rebound, how soon after they broke up did you get together? A 10mth relationship probably wouldn't require a rebound.
Author astronetster Posted March 5, 2012 Author Posted March 5, 2012 She is just not able to be alone. Insert ANY guy. I don't think you were a rebound, how soon after they broke up did you get together? A 10mth relationship probably wouldn't require a rebound. Well, I knew this girl over a few months before we started feeling for each other. She was still with him when she started feeling for me in the first place. They broke up saying that she wasn't in love with him anymore and straight came to me. After 2 mths of her breakup then we found ourselves in love and started our relationship. It was too short.
Ninjainpajamas Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 Yeah that's not right, I'd definitely consider you a rebound. But that's not really the only factor here, this is the kind of girl that picks guys that are safe..she leaps from one to the other, and doesn't like to be alone. Needs the attention, and convince everyone around her that she is the poor victim, she is a victim of her own emotions and weaknesses, etc... And you're probably the exact type of guy she wants around, you're probably wondering what's going on, maybe even willing to forgive her and take her back If she decides she made a mistake. She's the kind of guy that sets up a fallback before leaving a man, she's either prepping a new one or no where's to find someone to give her that required attention she needs to feel important..she's probably to weak to be on her own. I wouldn't take her emotions as genuine and sincere, the person she cares about most is herself.
Author astronetster Posted March 5, 2012 Author Posted March 5, 2012 Yeah that's not right, I'd definitely consider you a rebound. She's the kind of guy that sets up a fallback before leaving a man, she's either prepping a new one or no where's to find someone to give her that required attention she needs to feel important..she's probably to weak to be on her own. I wouldn't take her emotions as genuine and sincere, the person she cares about most is herself. So this poor guy is also going to be a rebound for her as well? Needlessly to say, the pain he suffered when she dumped him and came to me in the past and right now he is suppose to be in the position of a fallback guy. I don't know if he still loves her but even so, he will continue to suffer as much as i do now for what had happened between this girl and me. I believe what she is trying to do is get his attention and make him feel for her again. In this case, if i were him, i would still love her but dare not to be with her again since her actions show that she is selfish for her own happiness. Now she had broken the hearts of 2 men and still trying to drag the other man's heart dragging for longer to get over.
Author astronetster Posted March 5, 2012 Author Posted March 5, 2012 in this case, we both are the dumpee and she was the sole dumper of both of us. I hate that i am still in love with that girl while i shouldn't
Ninjainpajamas Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 Essentially you're stepping stones in a pond she jumps from one to other when convenient, the guy that is going to screw her over is going to be a jerk that doesn't respond to her advances and her manipulation/sad stories. Then she's going to bend backwards for him and he's going to put her through the ringer and burn her ass. And then she'll just continue going back to back with what's safe, trying to avoid the ******* that did it, while leaving you guys in the wake. She has no acknowledgment for feelings but her own...you simply give her what she needs or needed at the time. And then she moves on.
Author astronetster Posted March 6, 2012 Author Posted March 6, 2012 so staying out of her sight is the best option while she is giving attention to him at this moment?
Ninjainpajamas Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 Drop her, ignore her, pretend she doesn't exist and you can live fine just without her. Don't let her lower your dignity by keeping you on the side, just put your hand up in the air and walk away, don't give her the satisfaction and show your affection and concern, this is what this woman feeds off of. Besides she doesn't respect you or your emotions, show that you do and you could care less what she does...especially If inside you are hurting. You need to have this kind of a self-respect for especially this kind of girl to respect you, she ultimately wants someone strong and willing to set her straight and put her in line, not a guy that is going to sit by her leg like a nice little puppy dishing out whatever she gives. You've got to be more of a "man" than that...being a man and walk away with your pride, you do not sit there and suffer, you'll never win the girl with that kind of an attitude. You've got to start raising your expectations for yourself and value what you bring to the table because you believe in yourself and what you have to offer and don't have to force feed that down someones throat in order for them to want you.
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