Don't you hate waiting for a return call

[henderson14]

Just writing a random post, but don't you hate waiting for a return call in the beginning stages where they can just blow you off? I met this girl on OLD and the first meeting seemed to go good. But I'm bad at reading women so it makes it worse for me. Anyways, I called her tonight and I'm already worrying about if she will call me back even though I waited the whole weekend to call her after the date. And they usually do call me back but I still worry. This is the first girl i've gone out with in years who I actually think there's a possibility of something more serious and some type of connection.

 

On another note. I met this girl 4 years older than me at a bar a two weeks ago. I then called her and left a message. She called me back and seemed interested and we agreed to go out, but she was going to be out of town for 4-5 days and she would call me when she got back. Well she never called be back and it's been probably 1.5 weeks. This one I wasn't really interested in though. But it just adds to my paranoia about how no matter how interested they seem they might not call you back.

Edited March 5, 2012 by henderson14

[salparadise]

Yes, asking for a callback puts you in an undesirable position, so never leave a message asking for one. Try to call when you know they're most likely to be available. This way you can try several times without putting yourself in weaker position. Of course they can see that you called, but that doesn't matter because you're not giving up the initiative. Alternatively, you could leave a message saying when you'll call back. If after several tries you get no answer you can assume... well, you know.

[riggs]

You aren't the only one that worries about that sort of thing. Don't want to deflate you but the girl you met online may have legitimate interest but she is likely chatting with other guys as well. Hope you hear from her!