faraim Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 (edited) Good evening, I've been dating my girlfriend for six months now, were are very committed to eachother and very much in love. She has mentioned a few times to me that she is worried that we are not as intimate as what we were a few months ago, we have sex 1-2 times a week versus the 4-5 times we did in the past. She says that she just isn't in the mood as much anymore. I am perfectly fine with it, I just love being with her all the time. We are both busy and stressed out about things outside of the relationship, and I feel that is why the sex has slowed down. She ensures me that she loves me and wants to be with me. I love her and do not feel like it is a very big deal. Is this a problem? Or is it just us transitioning into a new stage in our relationship/being busy? Any thoughts? Edited March 5, 2012 by faraim
make me believe Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 If I were you I would probably ask her if there's anything you can do to get her in the mood more often, and if there is anything new she'd like to try. Find out what gets her going, and how you can help to turn her on. In my experience the sexual honeymoon phase of relationships has always lasted at least a year before it started slowing down to a more sustainable pace, so I would be pretty worried if it was slowing down substantially after only six months. It could be that her natural libido is at 1-2x a week, and that's fine if it works for you guys, but I would just be worried that it might slow down even more and in six more months you're at 1-2x a month or something. But I think it's good that she brought this up to you, it shows that she might not be ok with stress, busyness, etc, affecting your sex life. So try to find ways to work around that stuff when possible. Plan a romantic mid-week date to spice things up and take her mind off of a busy day, stuff like that.
salparadise Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 (edited) It's the initial infatuation state, or limerous, wearing off. It's the beginning of a more meaningful stage, assuming you're both still in it completely. You'll now be able to discover if you have long-term compatibility. That's just the way it works. Your brain chemistry is normalizing. As far as keeping the bedroom activity hot, just be aware that the biggest erogenous zone is the one between her ears. Concentrated foreplay on that area for many hours prior will keep make it hot later on. Edited March 5, 2012 by salparadise
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