GG3 Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 To guys or anyone who is friends with guys like this...any of you like to take it slow? What is your definition of slow? I haven't dated a guy like this since college. This guy and I have been talking a lot and claims he would would like to date me but wants to take it "slow." We have done lunch 2 times...an evening date once. No kissing yet. Lots of flirting. He texts me from morning until night almost every day and there is definitely romantic chemistry. He says he hasn't had s*x in 11 months. And he is a fairly attractive guy. I don't think he is lying or anything. He seems very conservative about dating...dating only one girl at a time and careful about who he sleeps with. He is 41 and an engineer. Anyone ever known a guy like this? It seems like he wants to be friends first or something. At the same time I don't want to be played or second fiddle or something. I really like the guy...but this is almost a little too slow for me.
SomewhatExperienced Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 I'm 25. Because of my personality I like to take it slow if I genuinely like the girl and want to develop a relationship with her. If I'm dating a girl and it's clearly just us fooling around and having fun things move along faster, but if I'm actually interested in really getting to know her then I prefer to move slow. Perhaps three dates and no kissing is slow, but I certainly don't think he's some kind of player mastermind. He may not have a lot of experience so it might require to to take the reins a bit to get things moving along.
veggirl Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 If it's a date, he's not trying to be friends first. His pace may be slower than you're used to but it doesn't seem too slow yet. I'd be a little at no kiss after 3 dates, but not overly concerned if I knew his "style". Now if it goes 3 more...then yeah. Only dating one girl at a time and waiting for sex sounds like major plusses to me!
volkl1996 Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 I am seeing a girl who is months ahead of me emotionally. We had sex on the 3rd date...yeah, probably not wise. I am now trying to slow things down and so far so good, though I know she wants to spend more time with me. I like her ai simply want to go slow based on my previous failed relationships and wanted to not lose myself again in a relationship. This guy sounds like he has a good head on his shoulders. No need to rush...no need to put a calendar on a relationship.
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