Emy Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 My exboyfriend and I had been dating for about 3 months before we broke up. That may sound petty, but we had a very serious relationship and I want to get him back. But do you think that the shorter the relationship, the shorter amount of time you should wait before getting back into contact? I have not contacted my ex since January 30th.
mike588 Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 My exboyfriend and I had been dating for about 3 months before we broke up. That may sound petty, but we had a very serious relationship and I want to get him back. But do you think that the shorter the relationship, the shorter amount of time you should wait before getting back into contact? I have not contacted my ex since January 30th. No...stay No Contact.
nick d Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 Well it depends.. Who broke up with who? And why did you break up?
Author Emy Posted March 5, 2012 Author Posted March 5, 2012 He broke up with me, but said that I had been wonderful in every way and had done nothing wrong. Here are the reasons we broke up: 1) Things got too serious too fast for him (he acknowledged that it was his fault for letting this happen). 2) He believes that being in a relationship on top of starting college would be too much to handle. 3) He's staying local for college but I want to go far away. He doesn't want to hold me back in life (he's a senior, I'm a junior). 4) We live 30 minutes away and go to different schools, so we only saw each other once a week. This was hard for him.
nick d Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 In my opinion, he needs space.. Do not contact him at all.. Let him start to miss you and let him initiate any conversation.. I know it's easier said then done. But that is what's best..
jus d'orange Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 You guys are young. I was in the same situation. We ended up being together for almost 4 years in a LDR. She's a wonderful person, but she never lost the doubts or the desire for space truly. Eventually, it ate her love for me. It hurt like hell to lose her, after all that time, believing that we were going to make it through the whole time together at college in a LDR and move in together, starting our lives together. You guys can stay in touch (after some months of No Contact), but I honestly don't recommend a LDR. If you're really great for one another, there'll maybe be another chance in the future. If not, you're going to meet lots of great people, and so will he, in the coming years. Take it from someone who has done this -- just let the relationship end this way and believe that you'll have another good one come to you eventually!
Author Emy Posted March 5, 2012 Author Posted March 5, 2012 Unfortunately I'm not the most patient person. :/ Do you think that after a certain amount of time I could initiate the conversation?
jus d'orange Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 Unfortunately I'm not the most patient person. :/ Do you think that after a certain amount of time I could initiate the conversation? Give it 2-3 months before you start talking again. You need to get over him, essentially. Again, I don't really advise trying to restart this relationship.
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