lifesupport Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 Dear all, Please help me.. Long story short... I have been married for 4 years now. And I am 29 and my wife is 28 I think I had made mistakes in the past (before 2 years) regarding finances (which I even can't think that it was a mistake or not), but for the sake of moving forward, I assume that it was my mistake and I am sorry for everything. My wife is taking these past facts in mind and behaving with me. Anything I want to speak to her, I have to think twice to see that those things does not affect what I want to say. So every time, I am cautious about what I want to say. And if anything negative happens now which is not related to anything in the past, she still brings all those stuff forward and blames me for everything. It looks to me like she has developed a habit of blaming me for every time. She clearly tells me on my face that she is actually going to blame me for whole of my life and that I have to listen to everything. I take this on to my face and every time beg her to remain calm so that I can do my work and move forward and bring happiness to her life. Bottom line, I take all her stupid talks, blames on me, and everything else she talks on my face so that I can move forward and do good things. But is this really the way ? I think that I am not worth this but still I take it because I think I have married her and its my responsibility to make her happy. But how is this possible if she disturbs my mind state and I am not able to concentrate. Anyways, due to this, we never have sex. It has been like 4 years now and I can count on like 8 time we had sex. I like it but because she blames and does this stuff, I kind of feel that can I really have sex with her. She is beautiful but I kind of can not get erection with her. And she as well blames me for that. I sometimes feel that am I really hopeless ? Because we are not having sex, I kind of feel to look at other women (only look) but then I as well feel that I can not do this to her. But then where would I find the solution. My life is spoiled at the moment and I can do anything to make it better. Please advise
dreamingoftigers Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 Time to separate and get counseling. MC as well as IC. She is very vindictive. Something is really wrong here.
wilsonx Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 (edited) Long Answer...Short! Quit being a b***h and act like a man. Figure out what the problem is and fix it Edited March 5, 2012 by wilsonx
Philosoraptor Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 You've taken a submissive path in your relationship and she can see your lack of backbone. You need to stand up for yourself to start with and talk to someone as it's probably the only way to fix your relationship dynamic.
Chi townD Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 Yeah, you two need marriage counseling in a bad way. Plus, you should go see your Doctor about your ED. There could be and underlying problem there that needs to be addressed. Plus, I don't know what kind of shame your in, but if you speed your metabolism, that could help.
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