water4150 Posted March 4, 2012 Posted March 4, 2012 So its been 5 months since my break up...she called it off. We had a lot of contact for the first few months then it went to limited contact...and now its no contact. Throughout all this I have been working out, and working on me. But yet...I still think about her and I don't want to anymore. I want to move on with my life and find some better girl. I'm tired of having these relapse. And I'm trying my best to avoid all stimuli. But there is just something that always pops up. For example at work, this random co-worker (older female that I never talked to) asked me if my ex still worked there....she hasnt worked there in over a year... And hearing that set my emotions off. I havn't had a full night rest since the break up...I don't want to continue having this pain...And it even sucks more becuase I hear things about her and it sounds like her life is unphased...her emotions are untouched....yet I'm still here fighting through the pain day by day, night by night. I am literatly trying to avoid everything about her but even still it does not work. Help, suggestions....ideas please
Numb79 Posted March 4, 2012 Posted March 4, 2012 It has 5 months since the actual break up but you did not start the actual process of moving on until you stopped contact. There really is no quick fix to this. My break up was a little over a month ago and I think I am getting a little better. However, it still gets to me. I did everything I was supposed to do when it first happened...... Kept busy, Removed triggers, cut all ties, etc. etc. It wasn't bad at first.... but then I broke my foot two weeks ago. Now I am forced to face the pain. I guess the point I am trying to make is.... eventually you will have to face the pain. Its not an easy taske.... but would you rather do it now or 6 months down the road? Just face it head on and let it all out! It will provide you with a little bit of relief.
Author water4150 Posted March 5, 2012 Author Posted March 5, 2012 It has 5 months since the actual break up but you did not start the actual process of moving on until you stopped contact. There really is no quick fix to this. My break up was a little over a month ago and I think I am getting a little better. However, it still gets to me. I did everything I was supposed to do when it first happened...... Kept busy, Removed triggers, cut all ties, etc. etc. It wasn't bad at first.... but then I broke my foot two weeks ago. Now I am forced to face the pain. I guess the point I am trying to make is.... eventually you will have to face the pain. Its not an easy taske.... but would you rather do it now or 6 months down the road? Just face it head on and let it all out! It will provide you with a little bit of relief. Don't get me wrong I have been trying to move forward. Been working on myself etc. But they were more like baby steps rather then a big leap forward. My progress was slow but its going somewhere. Thank you for your reply
mike588 Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 So its been 5 months since my break up...she called it off. We had a lot of contact for the first few months then it went to limited contact...and now its no contact. Throughout all this I have been working out, and working on me. But yet...I still think about her and I don't want to anymore. I want to move on with my life and find some better girl. I'm tired of having these relapse. And I'm trying my best to avoid all stimuli. But there is just something that always pops up. For example at work, this random co-worker (older female that I never talked to) asked me if my ex still worked there....she hasnt worked there in over a year... And hearing that set my emotions off. I havn't had a full night rest since the break up...I don't want to continue having this pain...And it even sucks more becuase I hear things about her and it sounds like her life is unphased...her emotions are untouched....yet I'm still here fighting through the pain day by day, night by night. I am literatly trying to avoid everything about her but even still it does not work. Help, suggestions....ideas please I agree with numb79..even though it's been 5 months the healing doesn't start until all contact stops....That's why N.C. is so important from the start of the b/u. Why drag it out with contact when he/she has decided it's over. My ex. dumped me 7 months ago....we emailed several times for about a week the I went N.C. I/we know the pain and those awful triggers that make you think of your ex. Time and N.C. are your friends now...it does get better..really
Author water4150 Posted March 5, 2012 Author Posted March 5, 2012 I agree with numb79..even though it's been 5 months the healing doesn't start until all contact stops....That's why N.C. is so important from the start of the b/u. Why drag it out with contact when he/she has decided it's over. My ex. dumped me 7 months ago....we emailed several times for about a week the I went N.C. I/we know the pain and those awful triggers that make you think of your ex. Time and N.C. are your friends now...it does get better..really NC was just so difficult to start at first but now its no problem at all.... =\
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