volkl1996 Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 5 years dating, 9.5 years married, I moved out, little to no comminciation afterwards, mainly because of my desire to not communicate as I needed to move on. It's been almost 12 months since I moved out, no communication of any kind in 6+ months. I emailed her recently about taxes, no reply, so I will just do what the accountant tells me. I did hear from a mutual friend that her mother passed away from lung cancer recently. It intially bothered me that she did not contact me as I loved her mother; though I later thought on it and can understand why she did not.
Kamila Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 How long has it been ? We were together for 2.5 years, we split in July 2010. All conversation via text after that date was initiated by him. He was the one that had doubts about us and he had commitment issues. I stopped replying in January 2011, he kept contacting me till July 2011 (1 year break-up mark and last sign of him). He asked me how I was doing and that he understood if I didn't want to contact him again. He confessed he still thought about me alot and that he won't bother me anymore. Three months later, I discover on FB that he's seeing someone else.
youngster Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 The woman that I was involved with contacted me first via text after the BU. She said that it was hard to leave me and she wanted to talk about reconciling (now I know she was confused, or stringing me along) it never happened, and after that, all contact (2-3 times in a little offer 3 months) was in response to something I initiated. We have not been in contact for about six weeks.
Wesker Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 Nope. And I don't ever plan on hearing from her again. She dumped be last June after being together for over 7 years, for some idiot knob with a fancy house/car, etc. We work at the same place so I still catch glimpses of her once in awhile.
radiodarcy Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 he contacted me this past new years eve - - after close to 9 months of NC on my part (he dumped me) to gleefully report that his new gf is pregnant. needless to say - - i haven't had much to say to him since...
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 My ex contacted me 3 times in August. Nothing since then. His texts were very sweet, so I knew there was motive behind them. ONe of the texts said something like "It's going to storm and I am sitting here watching the wind chimes you bought me". The other 2 were asking how I was. Truth be told, that was just an easy 'in' to see if I knew why 2 people blocked him. I did not respond. Had he been a decent standup kind of guy, maybe I would have said hi. But his intentions were not honorable at all.
ctes300 Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 I was in an 8 year relationship. she broke up with me last year (summer 2010), then we got back together and were engaged. she again broke up with me in July 2011, but continued to live in my place until november 3, 2011. (big mistake) She started living this guy she worked with at starbucks who was going into the navy @ 32 year old at his mom's house within days of leaving my house. By the end of November she told me she is getting married , moving and will have his kids. About 2 weeks later I texted her asking if she wanted this set of tires i had for her car. no reply. since then I have maintained NC (over 3 months now). oddly, today I see her driving the new boyfriend's car but he is off in Navy basic training for the next couple months. i have nothing to say to her. i have the last of her stuff here and have been packing it up in boxes. within the next couple days its being dropped at her sister's house and its good riddance. i don't plan on talking to her again for any reason.
Author Gigi70 Posted March 5, 2012 Author Posted March 5, 2012 he contacted me this past new years eve - - after close to 9 months of NC on my part (he dumped me) to gleefully report that his new gf is pregnant. needless to say - - i haven't had much to say to him since... What an arsehole! 2
ThatDudeXO Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 She desreves to find her own happiness even if it means without me. I even told her that when we were still dating. I too deserve to find my own happiness as well. There are still times... more than I would like to admit, that I wish we were able to find happiness together. I loved this part. If couples were very happy before, what's to say they can't be happy together again?
rach24680 Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 Nearly 2 weeks of nc (after my humiliating plee for him back) and hes got in touch with me today seeing if i want to make another go of it, i really wanted to at first as we were together for 4 years but now im not sure, after getting used to the fact he didnt want me anymore im wondering if i really do want him back. Proof that nc is very powerful!! For the dumpees to see if they want to be with someone and for tge dumpers to realise they are stupid and shouldnt have dumped you in the first place!
mike588 Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 Nearly 2 weeks of nc (after my humiliating plee for him back) and hes got in touch with me today seeing if i want to make another go of it, i really wanted to at first as we were together for 4 years but now im not sure, after getting used to the fact he didnt want me anymore im wondering if i really do want him back. Proof that nc is very powerful!! For the dumpees to see if they want to be with someone and for tge dumpers to realise they are stupid and shouldnt have dumped you in the first place! Oh yeah agree N.C. is Powerful.. My ex. contacted me after 6 months of N.C. and it was sweet to hear her sorrys...regrets but didn't mention anything about wanting to try it again. Deep down I know it's for the best but there was alittle bit of disappointment too after months of hoping...wanting...praying that she would. It would have been even more of an ego boost...that the tables have turned....that I would have had the last say. Who knows...maybe that will happen later? but I'm not holding out ANY hope this time.
rach24680 Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 Oh yeah agree N.C. is Powerful.. My ex. contacted me after 6 months of N.C. and it was sweet to hear her sorrys...regrets but didn't mention anything about wanting to try it again. Deep down I know it's for the best but there was alittle bit of disappointment too after months of hoping...wanting...praying that she would. It would have been even more of an ego boost...that the tables have turned....that I would have had the last say. Who knows...maybe that will happen later? but I'm not holding out ANY hope this time. Its empowering to know your in control of whats going to happen, so thats why i think you want them back when they dump you, but when they come crawling back - because you know you have the choice - you get to decide if you want them.
JohnP82 Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 Yes, she has sent a few messages trying to be friendly. I suppose in the hopes that we'll be friends. Honestly I wish she would never contact me again. We will never be friends again.
fucpcg Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 Together for a year, very close relationship, she split with me 13 months ago, 12 months no contact by her. I was a great boyfriend to her, but honestly I f'd up with her which led to the split. We got into a disagreement where I totally lost my cool, and while I had a good reason to be upset, how I handled it was less than admirable. That first month we almost talked it out, but then she just kind of flipped a switch at one point and totally lost her cool on me and told me she'd never speak to me again. The aftermath: 6 weeks into NC, I delivered a very lengthy, very sincere apology, and some items left at my house, and anniversary present I never got to give her. 10 weeks no contact, I had to put down my dog that her and her boys loved, and offered them a chance to say goodbye plus the plea that hey we are missing out on life let's please talk. The lack of response, plus now hearing that she was speaking pretty horribly of me around circles, led me to go silent myself for 6 months (now 10 months post breakup), until I saw her out and we came face. She gave me a partial smile, said hello, almost stopped to talk, then kept going instead, then left the club in a hurry. This gave me motivation to try and reach out again. Later the next day, I texted her it was nice seeing her I wish we could talk. I wrote another very heart felt sincere letter for our 1 year apart. Last contact was actually today, I had a very vivid, very moving dream involving her sons that totally wigged me out (I was extremely close with her boys) and was really worried something was wrong with her son. I texted her early AM, said I had a dream that really freaked me out and concerned me, and could we please end the silence. The dream really did freak me. The fact that she can totally stay silent under any circumstance, including my dogs dying to concern for her sons, certianly doesn't give me much hope, and has led me to vowing with myself I will absolutely not contact her again. Its fustrating to know that you tried everything you could to salvage anything you could with someone you loved, and her kids that you loved, but I have and I can't even get a one word response. I just think its really sad, but I give up knowing that I manned up 110%.
NopeNah Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 Month apart...very limited contact,once or twice,as she was dating a guy..she called Thu..I didn't answer..she txt/calls last night to meet...now she wants to try again,cant keep me out of her head,ect..trying to decide what I want to do about it now..blah!
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