MarkV Posted March 4, 2012 Posted March 4, 2012 Hi eveyone,i just need a quick bit of advice. If you see my older posts you will know the story but here's the short version. My girlfriend of 6 years moved out two months ago and iv seen her twice in that time. Iv been getting on with my life and havent spoken to her now for three weeks. She told me she was confused about her feelings and what shwe wants in life. I know its a short time but I have found the days a bit easier already and i dont have an urge to contact her as she hurt me badly. I do still love her and miss her but am doing nc for me. Anyway, she sent me a text today saying 'hey,i hope you are well? Could you look in the loft to see if there are any pictures that my nan gave us as mum wants them back. Please be careful with them as they are precious,thanks x....i know these pics are important for her family but i dont want to reply as i feel it will take me back in my healing. Do I just give them to someone to give to her? Throughout the whole breakup iv kept my dignity, maturity and never got angry with her. I was obviously upset when she broke it off which is natural but my head is now saying that i dont want to reply,but I know that the pics are important and i obviously dont want to hurt her. What do I do? Thanks
TaraMaiden Posted March 4, 2012 Posted March 4, 2012 Do I just give them to someone to give to her? well done you. Bang on. this is exactly what you do. Throughout the whole breakup iv kept my dignity, maturity and never got angry with her. I was obviously upset when she broke it off which is natural but my head is now saying that i dont want to reply,but I know that the pics are important and i obviously dont want to hurt her. What do I do? Thanks Carry on. Get into the loft, find the pictures, bring them down, pack them carefully in a box, and get a friend to drop them round. No note, no message, no acknowledgement, nothing. She will in all likelihood reply with a 'thank you', and claim surprise you didn't include a note or something.... Don't reply to this either. Let it go, and let it go.
Numb79 Posted March 4, 2012 Posted March 4, 2012 Listen to the Maiden's advice. I did the same too.... I just sent all the Ex's belongings back to her. After that I received a txt that said thank you. That was it...... I never responded. Don't jeopardize how far you have come. I'm glad things are getting better for you..... I have been 5 weeks of NC. The urge to call isn't as bad as it used to be..... but I still struggle at times.
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