LK30 Posted March 4, 2012 Posted March 4, 2012 So, we're only into the third month of 2012 and my luck so far... 1) My car had a leak in Jan and costed me £350 to repair 2) I was told last week my job is at risk and I could be redundant (completely unexpectedly) 3) My tooth broke and my dentist said I need specialist treatment. I saw the specialist on Tues (just after my boss rang me about risk of redundancy) and the dentist said it'll cost me £500 as the tooth is more complex than expected 4) I'm single and my friend set me up on a blind date in Jan. We exchanged numbers and texting back and forth to arrange the first date but then she went quiet and I never heard anything back so it fell through 5) Due to my job being at risk I had to pull out of a group holiday to Florida, so in 2 weeks time they're all off (12 of them) and I'm left behind 6) A girl I was kind of seeing (admittedly 22 and I'm 32 so was kind of doomed) is thinking of going back to her boyfriend 7) My son was due to be moving back to the area from 4 hours away (me and his mum split up 7 years ago and she met someone from the west country and moved there 3 years ago so I don't see him that often) but she's now saying that it may be another year until they come back having originally said Easter. AND IT'S ONLY 4 MARCH!!! Ok, I know there's someone always worse off, and I'm not living in Africa, or have a terminal illness, but have I upset somebody because I'm starting to fear slipping into depression over this!! You could say number 6 was doomed and I should know better, but I just found myself wanting to feel special at the expense of the fact it was risky and in the end she wasn't that bothered about me at all. Any positive vibes from my fellow love-shackers would be much appreciated :-(coz right now I think I have the right to feel a bit moaney!!)
JJ72 Posted March 4, 2012 Posted March 4, 2012 happy new year?? blah! what's so fcvkkin happy about it? cheer up man, life always changes. just roll with the punches. I'm at a low point in my life right now. but I feel unusually optimistic this morning
coltsfan1 Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 (edited) It WILL get better trust me. 2011 went like this for me. 1. Found out ex had cheated on me prior to our breakup 2. all our mutual friends knew and kept it from me 3. Turned my back on said "friends" using this term loosely 4. dated a nice girl but didn't work out 5. got hit head on by an SUV while ridding my motorcycle 6. broke hand and foot as well as bike was totaled 7. Had no insurance so NO medical coverage 8. Lost two of my grandparents Now fast forward to 2012, it has gone like this. 1. Met a new girl 2. got a HUGE opportunity in my career which came with a 12k raise 3. Closing on a 2300 square foot home 4. buying a new motorcycle The point is when it rains it pours, but it wont rain forever. When your feet are put to the fire it WILL test your resolve. If you stand up and take the heat it will forge a better and stronger you. I have written 2011 off as a total loss in many aspects but so far 2012 has been a great year. It is like karma is making up for completely crapping on me all of last year. So keep plugging along positive things will happen just takes time. FYI- I am 32 as well, and have been in NC for over 18 months. I can see my ex and we don't talk or fight. We are like complete strangers now. Good luck my friend!! Edited March 5, 2012 by coltsfan1 1
CopingGal Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 Ok, I know there's someone always worse off, and I'm not living in Africa Huh? There are plenty of people in Africa that have money, nice homes, computers, electricity, etc.
BlindRage Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 Huh? There are plenty of people in Africa that have money, nice homes, computers, electricity, etc. Yes..
Philosoraptor Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 Change your focus here. When you look for the bad in life it's easy to find, it's the same with looking for the positives in the world. Bad things do happen, but spending time focused on them just extends our misery. Locate the positives in your life and keep them close in tough times as they will save you from much needless worry. Even if you've hit rock bottom you can always take solace in the fact that things have no where to go but up. Huh? There are plenty of people in Africa that have money, nice homes, computers, electricity, etc. And most of them seem to be related to me and leave me as their beneficiary. 1
Author LK30 Posted March 6, 2012 Author Posted March 6, 2012 Sorry I was being a bit stereotypical. I just meant I haven't got the issues that we hear many out there have such as poverty, poor health, no jobs etc. Apologies for this.
Author LK30 Posted March 24, 2012 Author Posted March 24, 2012 Well the good news is things have improved a little bit... 1) My son has just moved into my area so I will now get to see him lots after 3 years away from me 2) My job is safe and I have avoided redundancy - came in top 6 out of 24! 3) I have a date on Sunday and suddenly getting attention from several other girls 4) It's meant to be sunny at the weekend lol!!! So I suppose all in all things can only get better!! I don't know why or how but I'm just enjoying being on a high for a while... until my car breaks down or something!! 1
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