Author SJC2008 Posted March 5, 2012 Author Posted March 5, 2012 It seems to be 50/50 whether someone should tell you they are interested in you or not or just blow you off. I even gave the ladies a hall pass (remember this question was for both sexes) on the 1st 2 dates beause they may be afraid to get cursed out or whatever. Then some people got their feathers ruffled becase I used the word owed and said if it's not exclusive they OWE me nothing. Basically saying even if they have been dating for a month and not "exclusive" they could blow you off and not feel obligated to call/message him/her because they OWE you nothing because you're not exclusive. This turned into a word play thread and a comedy thread with the 8, 10 no 7.... It was a legitimate question. I know what I'll do. If someone takes time out of their life to date me and I don't like them I'm not going to blow them off, it aint me.
udolipixie Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 It seems that many men and woman won't respond to a text or call after a 1st date if they don't like you. It's rude in my book but it seems to be the norm and the consensus is it's to "avoid conflict". How many dates in does the person you're dating truly owe you a "Hey, I'm sorry but I don't see this going anywhere". Before I got into the habit of just bailing in the middle of the date when I'm no longer interested I did the no response bit. I'd rather not hear the whining and insults that most rejected men seem to dish out. It was amusing the first few times then it got boring. As well I don't see any obligation as for it's it's just non exclusive dating so there's no relationship, no terms were made beforehand that I must do this/that, and there's no commitment. Nor do I see something owed for effort as it's just a date not like he put more effort into it than I did. Perhaps he placed more feelings into it than I did as it seems to be my trend but effort..
johan Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 It was a legitimate question. I know what I'll do. If someone takes time out of their life to date me and I don't like them I'm not going to blow them off, it aint me. It was a legitimate question with no answer. It depends a lot on how much and what kind of interactions you've had. When people say, "dating is hard," this is one reason why. I agree. Do what you think is right. Worrying about what other people do is never going to get you very far.
dasein Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 I'd rather not hear the whining and insults that most rejected men seem to dish out. I doubt many men out there do the above, none of my friends do or would, and if you have experienced lots who do, then perhaps some adjusting of what kind of man you accept first dates from is in order. If men do this, it's a simple matter to say "sorry I have to go, good luck to you" and hang up the phone.
udolipixie Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 I doubt many men out there do the above, Your doubt doesn't equate the majority of my, my gals, and gals I know experiences. none of my friends do or would, Highly unlikely these were you or your friends. Plus recall most people behave differently. I don't expect the same behavior from others as I do my friends. I only tolerate and accept the same behavior from others as I do my friends. and if you have experienced lots who do, then perhaps some adjusting of what kind of man you accept first dates from is in order. That would mean gay men to have a better chance of such whining and insults from rejection not occurring. If men do this, it's a simple matter to say "sorry I have to go, good luck to you" and hang up the phone. Egh I just laugh as the whining from rejection is more of an in person thing. Like the fist approach or during the end moments of a date before we both head home. After all the whining most rejected men I don't give my contact information to a male that isn't family, gay, or a friend hence my habit of bailing on a date when I'm no longer interested.
veggirl Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 If it got further than a first date, I would break things off rather than do the fade. I would appreciate the same in return, but obviously many disagree.
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