oaks Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 (I'm noticing alot of women stating the ol "if I don't respond, take no offense, but it means I wasn't interested). It's like they're telling you UP front that "hey, if I dont' respond, you have your answer" Yes, that's exactly what they are doing. Probably because some clueless/persistent guys send follow-up emails asking why they didn't get a response. But my main question is this, if a person's dating profile starts to sound like a seriously bitter lists of "Don't email me ifs...and actually you try to start an FAQ of commonly asked questions she's getting.....don't you think it's time to just not even online date anymore? At least for her? Not necessarily, but it is time for you to click on the "Hide" button for those profiles if you're using OKC so that you don't have to see them again. Or, at least, just click on the next one and ignore the ones you don't like. I don't think either of us find those profiles to be attractive, but you seem to let it bother you.
oaks Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 Many women, when they write their profiles, don't make it easy for a guy to email them. As in, they will post generic pictures of themselves-- a few pictures of them hanging out with friends, one of their dog, and that's about it. And then they will write text full of adjectives and cliches, e.g., "I'm loyal, hardworking, and I like to laugh." So the only thing that stands out really is their looks. So with this in mind, what is a guy supposed to write them? I used to think this, but now I think that if she can't write an attractive profile then she isn't really the sort of person I want to have a relationship with. 1
Emilia Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 But my main question is this, if a person's dating profile starts to sound like a seriously bitter lists of "Don't email me ifs...and actually you try to start an FAQ of commonly asked questions she's getting.....don't you think it's time to just not even online date anymore? At least for her? I think the key is not to allow online dating to be the only way you meet the opposite sex. If your expectations become enormous due to the pressure of it being the only way to find dates, it's a sure way to frustration and bitterness. I use it to chat with men. I reply to everyone who doesn't send me creepy/pervy messages and who has a decent profile, even if I know we won't end up dating. I don't mean I string them along, we usually exchange 2-3 messages and the conversation dies naturally. I go in with the view to enjoy interaction and hopefully meet a decent guy soon-ish. It's not my only avenue of meeting men though and I'm not in a hurry. I also word my profile that indicates quite clearly what sort of person I'm looking to date rather than whom I'm NOT looking to date. It's not that hard to be specific. People who get a lot of unsolicited unwanted emails keep their options too widely open I think - which can work but then you can't complain about the quality. This is one reason I don't have photos of myself up wearing a bikini
Author irc333 Posted March 5, 2012 Author Posted March 5, 2012 I used to think this, but now I think that if she can't write an attractive profile then she isn't really the sort of person I want to have a relationship with. "I don't sweat the small stuff" that's popular lately. "Hanging out with friends and family" "I like new adventures" or "I can dress up in a pair of jeans and a torn T-shirt, to the little black dress." They always seem to emphasize how they can dress casually to dressing to look like a million bucks int heir profiles.
oaks Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 They always seem to emphasize how they can dress casually to dressing to look like a million bucks int heir profiles. Hold the front page: women think about fashion!
Author irc333 Posted March 5, 2012 Author Posted March 5, 2012 Hold the front page: women think about fashion! LOL, yeah. ALso, some profiles they sound like they're giving some kind of philosophy lesson a bout life.
Emilia Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 They always seem to emphasize how they can dress casually to dressing to look like a million bucks int heir profiles. It's because they want to show that they can fit into a wide range of lifestyles. This is what I mean by proactively limiting your profile in a certain way that appeals to a specific audience. You may get fewer emails but they will be a better match. Cast your net too wide and you get the more superficial people.
zengirl Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 Wow, only 30 mins ? Pretty much limiting yourself, I'm assuming you live in a concentrated city? I have to drive AT LEAST 30 mins to meet someone to date, at LEAST. I live in a chain of suburban towns/cities/townships appx an out outside of the city. Where I live, it wasn't hard to find quite a few decent prospects in that area, so why would I go outside it just because the folks in the 'burbs had trouble finding people? That's essentially what happens. I was in the area where people my age most commonly live, and the people who have trouble dating nearby folks lived outside of the city. Their choice, and I never wanted to move to the suburbs of this city, so I had no reason to date them. Anyway, hubby lived 15 minutes from me when we met, and we met on that site, so it worked out for me. 1
El Brujo Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 Have you thought of the possibility that it is a fake profile.. maybe a student doing a paper on OLD on the type of men that hit on a certain type of woman ?? OLD is filled with such.. I agree. Three of them are mine. Those three fake women are STILL getting bombarded with emails from desperate men. One of them even showed up at a restaurant to meet "her" and of course she wasn't there. Fools. 2
Mme. Chaucer Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 I agree. Three of them are mine. Those three fake women are STILL getting bombarded with emails from desperate men. One of them even showed up at a restaurant to meet "her" and of course she wasn't there. Fools. That's not very nice to your fellow men. Not nice to the women, either. Now those guys are probably here on LS posting about "entitlement bitches" and "Femerica," etc. Stop it! I know it's funny, but still.
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