ItsTemporary Posted March 4, 2012 Posted March 4, 2012 So I have been with my boyfriend for three years and we've lived together for two. I love him, but I am convinced that our relationship won't progress from this stage. I don't see him as someone I could commit myself to for the rest of my life. We're too different. He's not interested in anything I do. I'm a student and very passionate about what I study. He sees his lack of interest in what I love as a personal limitation and not something he can change. I think he could at least try, or at least let me talk out an idea. When I try he just tries to be funny in response. He doesn't take me seriously. I always have to wait until he's ready to spend time with me, and then I need to drop everything or I'll lose my chance. He'll just shrug and go back to the computer if I don't respond right away. I've mentioned I don't think we'll last because we're too different and he disagrees. He doesn't see what's wrong with the situation. He's perfectly happy with the way things are. But I do love him, and while I'm not entirely happy with our relationship, I don't want to end it. Maybe I'm afraid to be single, that I'll regret it, or somewhere in my mind I think he could change (but I doubt that's it). Do I live with this till I'm ready to end it and move on? Do I try to fix what seems unfixable? Do I end it now and start over?
travelbug1996 Posted March 4, 2012 Posted March 4, 2012 Yea it sounds like you need to make a decision as to whether you love him enough to stay and sacrifice what you know deep down will make you happy.
Philosoraptor Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 You're obviously unhappy. If you can't see being with this person then you need to consider cutting the cord. Sure being single at the start isn't always the most fun, but you can find someone you are more compatible with. There are billions of people on this rock, you can find someone you connect better with. I'd sit down with him one last time and explain things to him. If he starts to make jokes then tell him you need him to be serious for a moment. Tell him you will not be able to continue the relationship like this as it makes you unhappy. If he is willing to work with you, as you both need to compromise some, then great. If not, then you need to explain to him that the relationship needs to end as you are not willing to spend your life unhappy. 1
strength-abounds Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 I understand what you're going through. It's hard to be in relationship where one half of the couple is like a sailboat, always pushing, trying to get further in life and the other half is a boat anchor, weighing you down and making you change your direction because he/she doesn't want to follow. My advice, dump the boat anchor and find a boat captain. 1
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