MickieJ Posted June 8, 2004 Posted June 8, 2004 Hi, I am new here. Like other posts that I have been reading, I just lucked onto this site while searching the web . . . for some sense of understanding LDR's. I am in a long-term relationship that has just become an LDR. Now for some history, LTR is 5 years strong, living together for 4.5 of those years. We are both older, 52 here and KJ is 50. We were both in long marriages that just didn't work out, so we have really taken time to work on our relationship. It has grown into a deep and caring relationship full of love, trust and honesty. And the sex is great! Recently KJ began the process for a new job that is 2.5 hrs north of here. His occupation is such that there aren't many jobs in the field, so you have to move around to change jobs. Back a couple of weeks ago, they finally offered him the job. It is a great opportunity for him, as his present retirement plan was just OK, nothing great. Plus this new position offers great benefits, and gives him a chance to really liked the job he does. I think it is common to get stagnant in your job at times. When he first started his quest, I wasn't thrilled, and didn't want any part of a LDR. My previous marriage cracked with a 9 month split; My ex left for new job, while I stayed to sell house, be a mom and work. When we finally moved back together, he had changed 180 degrees. I worked for 5 years to try and pull it back, but it takes two to make a marriage work. Also my daughter will be a junior in high school, and I won't move her now! KJ wanted to keep our relationship together so we ended up talking and talking about the ups and downs, how much work it takes, etc. Finally I decided to give it a go, and we made plans. Our plan is simple, visit regularly on the week-ends - trade off traveling, chat online in the evening, and maybe phone once or twice a week. Sounds good for now, but we are just starting! Long range plan, my youngest daughter will graduate from high school in two years, so once she picks a college and goes away, I will put the house up for sale. Once it sells, I will move and get a job. That is the dream, our hope. So I found this site today, and it looks like it will be a good outlet for me. Get advice, give advice, and read about others' adventures. Over the next 26 months, I am sure I will be sharing my trials and hopefully my accomplishments.
sportsloving Posted June 8, 2004 Posted June 8, 2004 Good luck to both of you and I wish you the best Oh, and welcome to LS!
KitCat Posted June 8, 2004 Posted June 8, 2004 Hello and welcome . I'm pretty new as well. Look forward to hearing more and hopefully being able to help.
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