jassib Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 (edited) i want to thank every one here who is going to read this.. my story is very long but i will make my best to make it short. 6 years with her 2 1/2 of them engagement the last 2 1/2 years of course. we broke up 3 times first time... the reason was problems between me and her mom, she was the beginner she loved me first... she broke up with me but without telling me anything she just moved with her mom to another place in the same country. i was thinking for engagement her mom refused me coz i do not have a stable job for life. then .... i had a job after she moved we were forced to NC coz i did not know where she is or her telephone number. then i healed up but not so much i kept my self busy with my job. she is the one from the beginning crawled after me the main problem with her mom that i do not have a job for life. then... 3 months later a call from here. then we started all over again but things now different she told me what she had been through those days with other guy that she was forced to engagement with him coz of her cousin and she told me that she wants to end this and get back to me and she did she ended the engagement and we are back and she told me to talk to her mom and dont be afraid of any thing i said ok things are ok seems that she knew now that she cant be with another one. her mam was at this time abroad in a country called Oman working that's coz her mam broke up with her dad when she was a baby. so she is working to feed her and her sister. then i talked to her mom she started to be nice to me and she know that i got a job and she started to give me advices to understand her daughter... then i told her i want to be engaged to her daughter she told me ok when i come back we will do it. then we started to meet me and her. then her mom came 5 months later in her vacation. then we engaged. her mom should be at work again so she has to travel back at august and she told me that she wants to take her with her for 3 months that's the max period that she could be in that country i mean the visa period for a visit after she traveled with her mom 4 months when we were chatting she told me that she wants to break up she is not good to me and i will find another good girl, without a reason. then i went to NC again for 3 months and then at march the mother's day i send sms to her mother greeting her for that day her mother sent me back then 4 min later she called me i mean the girl and she was so happy to talk to me i cant not forget her tone until now she was so happy and then we started all over again she came back from Oman and went back 1 more time. then her mom came again in the vacation then she went back to Oman with her mom and she came back again nothing is wrong. so time now was 2011 i saw her mom then her mom went back again for her work. at this time she was planning to go back with her but she found a job here in a hotel so she decided to stay for the job and her mom will go back for her work this time without traveling with her she decided not to lose the job chance in the Hilton Hotel i agreed and said ok np after that and i forgot to tell that after the engagement i lost my job again and all that time i was searching for another job but i didnt find any any way she stayed for the hotel job she started to change but not so but i felt change and i felt that she dont want to be with me i admit that i did lot of things wrong i know that i think she lost attraction to me after she worked in that Hotel then after 3 months she got tired from the job and she had very bad feelings crying alot and she told me i want to go to my mam i want to travel to her i tried helping her though i was hating her job i told her ok that's ok this would be better to be with yr mom for a while we were good and bad during this period before deciding to go to her mom we were planing for our marriage and our home and started to buy things. then she left in 24/11/2011 10 days and she broke up with me on the chat telling the same things she mentioned lot of things before she traveled they were indications i know that, i know it deep down in my self, any way she broke like the 2nd time but before that in the last 10 days and before she traveled i told her i feel that you r going to break up with me she told me never i will never do that i love you and she was so sweet and after she traveled still calling and ringing and sending sms's one day i sent her sms told her i feel that you dont love me any more at the morning she called and told me why you say that dont say that i will not do that and she called while she was sleepy when she saw the sms she called she did not wait until she wake up . then after that, couple of days she broke up with me, i went again in NC then at 31/12/2011 i decided to talk to her on the chat and she talked and seems every thing is starting again to be fine she did not refuse and she told me to start again step by step and leave every things to come normal or to make refresh for the relation i agreed i was not needy then she started to be sweet again calling ringing every 1 hour in the day waking me up but she still know i do not have a job and she told me that she will tell her mom that we are back again but not now leave it normal until time comes to tell her i agreed , then we had a small argue about the job issue but not a fight and she told me you did not do any thing for me you are not searching you are not doing your best to find a job but it was not a fight. then she told me that she wants to work she found 3 jobs there 1 in a hotel and 2 at schools i told her how come we are planning for the marriage if you worked there in Oman we will not marry she told me it's ok i am coming soon 20 days and i am coming coz that was the end of her visiting visa and she was nice she told me prepare yr self darling i am coming back she was so sweet. then at 11/1/2012 i got sick i left her a msg on the chat telling her i will not be here today i am sick, then second day i opened found a msg from here telling me i came to talk to you but not found you i am going to Moscut the capital of Oman coz she was living in another city but she did not mention the reason "the msg was i will go to Moscut at morning so i will sleep now as well Thursday morning she was there in Moscut then i rang her but she cancels then Friday she sent sms telling me sweet words and that she will be back to her city today or tomorrow morning at 7 am and she told me to take care of my self. then she called Saturday 5am a quick call how are you where are you you did not ring me i told her i did but you canceled and i did i really did twice the 2nd one she cancels i thought she came back and slept i told her that i thought that you are sleep and i do not want to disturb you then Saturday morning i called her she cancels 4 times 5th time she answered the phone and told me i do not want to answer you with anger and hanged the phone i send sms telling her what is going on she sent back telling that we are not compatible and i do not feel any thing towards you and i do not want to wrongs you with me then until now i 'm NC plz help i love her so much i dont know why she always break up like that what could i do I'm still NC for 1 month and 20 days did she dumped me for the job there i think that coz her behaviors now changed she does not come online too much but she came 3 times from the same email and that told me that she did not make a new mail what i am sure of that she took the job there and the proof for that that she did not travel back until now why she doing that with me ??? i started the heal process and i am not so ok but i am trying does NC will get her back i dont know but i am trying HELP!!!! thanx for reading my suffering Edited March 4, 2012 by jassib
Author jassib Posted March 4, 2012 Author Posted March 4, 2012 plz guys anyone tell what to do i need yr comments please
Philosoraptor Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 The question is why would you want someone back who left you in such a way? It may be a cultural thing over there, but my opinion is the only one who can make a choice for you is yourself. She made the choice to leave and just took off without saying a word. Work on yourself and move on.
Author jassib Posted March 7, 2012 Author Posted March 7, 2012 The question is why would you want someone back who left you in such a way? It may be a cultural thing over there, but my opinion is the only one who can make a choice for you is yourself. She made the choice to leave and just took off without saying a word. Work on yourself and move on. thnx for yr comment, but the story is too long, i want her back coz i still feel that she knows that she made the wrong decision, and she do have troubles in her family she loves her dad but she is fighting with him her dad broke up with her mom when she was a baby she didnt live with him, she is attracted to her mom insanely, and we had good times and i know she loves me but before we break up she told me that she is lost she dont know what she needs, as you read in the story, the 1st break she came back to me the 2nd one when i break NC she was happy again to be with i still can not forget her tone in the phone she was so so happy and we got a long conversation the next day she told me i want to you not to talk and just listen to me she was giving reasons and after this time i talked to her mom she told me she was having bad days without you crying telling her mom i lost him, then her mom told me that when i sent the msg i ignited her she was not sure to talk to me coz of her ego but she found support from her mom when i sent the msg and 3 mins after the msg she called, as history says she always know that she made the wrong decision, i am NC now some times a get hope that she will come back some times i lose hope i want comments plz guys
Philosoraptor Posted March 8, 2012 Posted March 8, 2012 Continue to work on yourself and do not take her back until you can be assured that her mother will no longer be in control of her decisions. Do not make contact with her in any way as she has made it clear that her mother's opinion is more important than her feelings for you.
Author jassib Posted March 10, 2012 Author Posted March 10, 2012 Continue to work on yourself and do not take her back until you can be assured that her mother will no longer be in control of her decisions. Do not make contact with her in any way as she has made it clear that her mother's opinion is more important than her feelings for you. thnx so so much i will not contact her by any way, but do you think she will come back?? do you think NC will do something with her type of behavior??
Philosoraptor Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 thnx so so much i will not contact her by any way, but do you think she will come back?? do you think NC will do something with her type of behavior?? It will help you heal, and that's all you need to worry about right now. You can not control the actions of others.
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