Michael H Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 Ok so here goes. I was dating this girl from my office for about 1 year and we just broke it off. We had known each other for about 4 years before we decided to give it a go. She seemed to be kind of demanding and a little unreasonable about the time that we spent together. There was a time we spent together and I asked her if I could use her bathroom and she said yes but she told me to sit down to pee. I said I can stand and I will make sure not to make a mess. She was vehement now that I sit down. I said I will clean up if I make a mess. She still insisted that I sit down. I went in and did my thing and came out and she was waiting for me at the door with a bottle of spray cleaner and some paper towels. She went in and sprayed all around the toilet and proceeded to wipe it up. I asked her why she did that and she said that she is afraid of urine. That seems strange and she also said that she asks all of her guy friends to do it and they have no problem sitting down. his is something that I just cannot believe. SHe is not OCD as her house is pretty much a mess all of the time. This girl has said some pretty strange things to me in the time that we spent together. She once told me "All guys just want to F___ me" Now I am not sure what I am supposed to make of that. That does not inpsire a lot of confidence that is for sure. She said "I do not have many girlfriends because they are all jealous of me". THere was a time when she was having an issue with her car so she was going to bring it in and have it serviced. I said that I would pick her up and give her a ride to work and that she could borrow a car of mine. SO I saw her at work around 10 that day and I said "Oh I thought you were going to call me so I could meet you at the dealership and she said "I just borrowed my ex boyfriends car instead" I mean what is that??? One day we were going to get together later in the afternoon and so I called her and she said that she said that she was out hiking with her ex boyfriend. That is pretty ridiculous if you were to ask me. She said to me once that "If you cannot give me what I want there are plenty of men that can and will" There was another instance where we were going to get together later one day and i called her to find out what she was doing and she told me that she was at "Jim's house making him a chicken dinner and then was going to decorate his Christmas tree" I asked her why she did this after we broke up and she told me it was becuase I said that I was not planning on getting a Christmas tree. If she asked me to get a tree I would have. She is so slick that she is able to turn it around on me very quickly and make it my fault. There was a time when I was got a job splitting wood for a woman that I work with so I was there for about 2 weeks every day from 6 to 10 every night. She happened to get a little water damage in her house from some rain. SHe had the work men come and do the job for her and then of course the guy she hired to paint did an awful job. I told her that I could not help during the week but if we made plans I would come and help her out. So instead of just painting the room herself she had some guy come over and help her paint the house while I was working at night. Her reply to me was that I was not making any time for her so she had to have someone come and help her out. she once told me one morning in a rather stern way that if I did not snuggle with her for a half an hour each day that her days just did not go right. I am not sure how to take that. It seems like she is simply not able to regulate her own happiness. It seems that her actions are sort of manipulative to me. SHe has some illnesses I think. She has claimed to have had Celiak's disease, Lyme Disease, some sort of migraine disorder, Constant joint pain but she has had many MRI's on her knees and nothing can be found on these tests. she sits at her office desk with her sunglasses on becuase she says she has these chronic migrainses. It would seem to me that if you have these migraines you would at least work from home. The thing is I really do care about this girl. I know she has had trauma as a child and she is currently seeking therpary for it. I wonder if anyone has any experience with Borderline Personality Disorder and could all of this be a sign of the illness? IT seems to be a huge power struggle all of the time. I built up a lot of resentment towards the situation. SHe said that she wanted to feel like a priority to her but I could not help but feel so jilted by some of her actions and some of the things that she has said to me. I am in love with her but I do not want to go on like this. I told her after we initially broke up that I wanted to try again and she told me that I blew it and that she was already gone and she called the "Time of Death" on the relationship. I am not sure what to do. Is it worth pursuing or should I move on and try elsewhere? ANy help would be greatly appreciated.
skygunner58203 Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 I think you should cut ur losses. I dated a girl like that once. lasted two weeks. While she seems like a nice girl, it might be best to save yourself the heartache. Also if she called the "Time of Death"...... ya might be best to try and move on.
jennisfora Posted March 4, 2012 Posted March 4, 2012 Sounds like she has alot of issues. Is that really what you want?
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