ThatDudeXO Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 Bad sign,about 5 of my buddies recently had wives that cheat a few went clubbing a lot You just gottta be careful women can flip their siit or fall out of love with you if the wind blows the wrong way just be prepared All it takes for a married woman too cheat at a club: - One drink too many - Fight with the husband - Confidence issues So if your wife goes clubbing regularly and she can relate with one of those 3 things, she's probably done something she hasn't told you about.
Lostinlife4now Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 Yes ma'am. I love how you say ma'am!!!! So old school! Congrats!!!!
irc333 Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 For special occasions, like a birthday or a work thing then that's fine but once every weekend shows what kind of wife you are. It actually annoys me seeing married men/women who regularly go clubbing to drink and dance, which almost always ends up with some sort of interaction with the opposite sex. I know my future wife wouldn't be that kind of person Yeah, there was this younger married couple, had a small child to raise. In an area where people marry rather young, then regret it because they feel they "missed out on their youth", decide to live as if they were single by hitting clubs on a regular basis. Her husband would stay on a Sat night, but she would wind coming home at 3 am all the time. He allowed for it, but since this is small town, and the country bar she went to, pretty much most people knew each other through work and such....he got a call from a friend AT the country bar saying she was bumpin' and grindin' up against other men on the dance floor...so he decided to make a surprise trip to the venue....he sat at the bar and watched her do her thing with other guys ont he dance floor....and she looked up and saw him,adn she turned white as a sheet. Busted! 3
Ross MwcFan Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 For fun obviously. I don't think the only reason people go out to bars and clubs is to pick someone up. 2
ThatDudeXO Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 For fun obviously. I don't think the only reason people go out to bars and clubs is to pick someone up. But where alcohocol and attractive people are involved, anything can happen!
soserious1 Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 I did the whole "I can't go out to the club because I'm married and it would be disrespectful to my husband" deal.. while my friends were out having fun, I was at home, cleaning and cooking while he watched TV or surfed the web for porn. Another good reason to be glad I'm divorced
irc333 Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 I did the whole "I can't go out to the club because I'm married and it would be disrespectful to my husband" deal.. while my friends were out having fun, I was at home, cleaning and cooking while he watched TV or surfed the web for porn. Another good reason to be glad I'm divorced Well, at least he stayed home.
Woggle Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 Yeah, there was this younger married couple, had a small child to raise. In an area where people marry rather young, then regret it because they feel they "missed out on their youth", decide to live as if they were single by hitting clubs on a regular basis. Her husband would stay on a Sat night, but she would wind coming home at 3 am all the time. He allowed for it, but since this is small town, and the country bar she went to, pretty much most people knew each other through work and such....he got a call from a friend AT the country bar saying she was bumpin' and grindin' up against other men on the dance floor...so he decided to make a surprise trip to the venue....he sat at the bar and watched her do her thing with other guys ont he dance floor....and she looked up and saw him,adn she turned white as a sheet. Busted! She probably still spins it around so she is the victim.
soserious1 Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 Well, at least he stayed home. LOL, I'd have been happier if he went out, staring at the back of his head got old after awhile. I remember when i used to have to swallow a lump of humiliation to ask his "permission" if I wanted to go out anywhere. Yeah being divorced is a helluva lot better than being married ever was.
soserious1 Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 My friends and I don't dance like that. I go to a fair number of social events & I really don't see people grinding or practically having sex on the dance floor, but then I favor Jazz clubs & places with a quieter tone.
soserious1 Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 Well just like Donna said, those "meat market" type clubs usually have the ass shakers and d*ck grinders. Among the younger people those big dance clubs are quite popular & I would hope young couples discuss what it/ is not acceptable to them concerning dance floor behaviors. I run into a fair number of married men in various sports bars and jazz clubs, hanging out without their wives. I certainly don't assume they are all up to no good.
donnamaybe Posted March 4, 2012 Posted March 4, 2012 For special occasions, like a birthday or a work thing then that's fine but once every weekend shows what kind of wife you are. It actually annoys me seeing married men/women who regularly go clubbing to drink and dance, which almost always ends up with some sort of interaction with the opposite sex. I know my future wife wouldn't be that kind of person Just.go out with her. I prefer when my baby goes out with me, but if he doesn't want to he is fine with me going out. It's called trust. Some are capable of earning it and deserving it. Others, not so much. I have found, though, that the most distrustful people are usually those not worthy of trust themselves. 3
donnamaybe Posted March 4, 2012 Posted March 4, 2012 LOL, I'd have been happier if he went out, staring at the back of his head got old after awhile. I remember when i used to have to swallow a lump of humiliation to ask his "permission" if I wanted to go out anywhere. Yeah being divorced is a helluva lot better than being married ever was.Oh, F that!
ascendotum Posted March 4, 2012 Posted March 4, 2012 I remember when i used to have to swallow a lump of humiliation to ask his "permission" if I wanted to go out anywhere. Yeah being divorced is a helluva lot better than being married ever was. What you dont think guys need to get permission or at least sanctioned approval from their wives/gfs when they want to go out for a night out with the boys. Heard the term the 'ol ball & chain'. 'permission' makes it sound like a partner cannot do anything on their own without the others say so, and this is probably not the way it is in majority of marriages (anglos), but in most I would say if a partner wants to go out and spend the night on the town with their friends that they at least have to run it past their wife/husband first.
g450 Posted March 4, 2012 Posted March 4, 2012 Married men and women have no business being in bars. Period. End of discussion. It's just that simple. Um Hello... Me and my Fiance go together all the time. We never go alone out of respect for each other. And we only dance with each other when we do. And ironically I may still be married to my first wife had we done just that on occasion. Just food for thought. And if my girl dresses up she does it for me. And yes there have been guys that have hit on her but we are regulars and most know we are together. That little ring on her finger does in fact work. But there is always the occasional idiot who is too blind or stupid to check. Hell even I have been hit on a few times. In the end we arrive together and go home together. And the only bumping and grinding going on is between her and I. But for the most part the reality is very clear when we are there so there is some truth to what most here have posted. I see married men and woman screwing around all the time there. In fact I think half the folks I see there at any give night are married and are solo. I live in a small town so we pretty much know who the players and skanks are there.
seibert253 Posted March 4, 2012 Posted March 4, 2012 (edited) Gals, M'd or not, put the F#ck me pumps on and go clubing without their SO for one reason, attention from other dudes. Some go to find strange, others just go for the scene and go home. No harm, no foul. To each his own, but I would find it disrespectful if my W got dressed to F3ck, then went clubbing w/o me. Based upon her past it would only happen once. When she got home, locks changed, her sh#t in the driveway. Edited March 4, 2012 by seibert253 2
HHC Posted March 4, 2012 Posted March 4, 2012 I'm married and I go clubbing to dance. I'm not interested in picking up men, or finding someone to cheat with. I'm there to dance. I enjoy the music, the atmosphere and usually I'm the one dancing alone on the dance floor. Married women aren't dead and they shouldn't be at home sewing. Just because someone gets married doesn't mean they change who they are and what they like 2
threebyfate Posted March 4, 2012 Posted March 4, 2012 Would be bloody hilarious if we married women went clubbing in burqas, just to satisfy the judgemental prudes! My friends and I do go clubbing, to sports bars, lounges and fun dining places. Most of us are either married or in relationships, although there are singles too. We go to have fun. Without the guys. Many of us are also...gasp...mothers!
setsenia Posted March 4, 2012 Posted March 4, 2012 Not necessarily. I'm married, never been interested in clubbing, honestly. I did go to a club with my H a few weeks back to see a band, nothing wrong with that. I also went with another married couple to a gay club, nothing wrong with that. Also almost went with a friend. My friend is single, I'm not. I am approached, I'd say I'm married and there for the band or whatever to hang out and have a girl's night with my friend. If I was single, I honestly would prefer to meet people elsewhere than clubs, but that's just me.
HHC Posted March 4, 2012 Posted March 4, 2012 While I understand your implication behind this statement, if they want to sew during their spare time then that's what they should do, regardless of what you think of it. Well if sewing is what makes them happy then that's great. But I know you already knew I meant that. But it doesn't justify dressing up skankily and bumbin and grindin with the whole club at their husband's expense. Only person they need to justify anything to is their husband. Not you, and not other people. Why should it bother you, or are you coming from an assumption that all relationships involve lies and deception and doing things even though you know the other person doesn't like it? Husbands aren't dead and we shouldn't be at work almost 24/7. How would you like it if your hubby wanted to go to a club where the sexuality is off the charts, knowing he's going to get hit on? What happens within a relationship is up to the two people involved. What one can do and what the other can do is agreed upon by those involved. Not people looking in. Neither does it mean it is okay to cuckold the husband with random men feeling up on you. buzzword of the 00's
Untouchable_Fire Posted March 4, 2012 Posted March 4, 2012 LOL, I'd have been happier if he went out, staring at the back of his head got old after awhile. I remember when i used to have to swallow a lump of humiliation to ask his "permission" if I wanted to go out anywhere. Yeah being divorced is a helluva lot better than being married ever was. Would going out dancing make your marriage not suck? Probably not. I don't think the deciding factor in a happy marriage is how often you get attention from other men... it's the attention you get from your husband that matters. I have completely stopped going to the club scene. I'm 32 and quite frankly too old for that crap. I don't think I would continue a marriage to someone so immature they still felt the need to hit up clubs. Life has stages and trying to act younger than your age comes across as pathetic. There are plenty of more mature venues to enjoy that sort of thing.
123321 Posted March 4, 2012 Posted March 4, 2012 Opinions needed Couples who go out to clubs are couples looking for a good time, non-single people who leave their SO behind and go to clubs are whores and man-whores. 2
zengirl Posted March 4, 2012 Posted March 4, 2012 If they're not hitting on guys and are generally making it known they're married, WTF does anyone care? I go out without Hubby. I don't do "clubs" (bars, yes, clubs, no) because they annoy the **** out of me, but whateves. When I go out, it's not to pick men up. It's to hang out with my friends. And, hey, some of my friends are even men! Yet, somehow Hubby knows not to have a conniption, just as I don't if he goes out without me. Granted, unless it's a girl's night (girls' only birthday party, breakup commiseration with a GF who needs me, bridal shower, etc), hubby is invited, but that doesn't mean he always wants to come. Nor am I always up for all of his friends. While we tolerate each others friends and like many of each others friends, we don't like ALL of each others' friends or always feel like doing exactly the same thing. I think a good marriage has balance. If I was out every weekend without hubby all the time, that'd be odd, of course, but we do our own things sometimes. Married men and women have no business being in bars. Period. End of discussion. It's just that simple. But where alcohocol and attractive people are involved, anything can happen! This sort of thinking is absurd. Anyone who fears that simply the presence of the opposite sex and alcohol could allow them to cheat probably shouldn't go to bars without their spouse, but neither hubby or I are like that. We don't get wasted, and we wouldn't blame our decisions on hormones or chemicals or places. We know how to make good choices and be trustworthy spouses.
oaks Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 I just can't really imagine a woman who's happy being out there in the streets. I know! If she was happy she'd be in the kitchen, right?
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