irc333 Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 Again, me being friendzoned, and not getting a date....seems to be quite a common thing these days. I met this woman locally while out with friends, we'd been staying in touch through FB, I asked for her #, and the correspondence stopped. I followed up, and said in the email, "I didn't scare ya off, didn't I?" She said, "No you didn't, I just didn't know how to respond, I'm taking a break from dating (which is the typical excuse that's given to me) She goes, "Long story, has nothing to do with YOU though" And then she relegates, "But I hope we could still friends at least." Typical lame "You've just been FZ'ed response" Of course, this is unacceptable in my eyes, because she never did reply with her phone #. Don't friends swap phone #'s, right? That means, she's not even willing to be friends either. 2
veggirl Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 You don't actually want to be friends though I assume, right? I'd delete her off FB and all that and carry on as though I'd never met her.
somedude81 Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 Again, me being friendzoned, and not getting a date....seems to be quite a common thing these days. I met this woman locally while out with friends, we'd been staying in touch through FB, I asked for her #, and the correspondence stopped. I followed up, and said in the email, "I didn't scare ya off, didn't I?" She said, "No you didn't, I just didn't know how to respond, I'm taking a break from dating (which is the typical excuse that's given to me) She goes, "Long story, has nothing to do with YOU though" And then she relegates, "But I hope we could still friends at least." Typical lame "You've just been FZ'ed response" You got it. It's her wanting to avoid seeming like the bad guy. Of course, this is unacceptable in my eyes, because she never did reply with her phone #. Don't friends swap phone #'s, right? That means, she's not even willing to be friends either. Who cares? You know she doesn't actually want to be friends with you.
Author irc333 Posted March 3, 2012 Author Posted March 3, 2012 You don't actually want to be friends though I assume, right? I'd delete her off FB and all that and carry on as though I'd never met her. Not if she doesn't think of me as dating material, no. When she used with words "at least" tied in with "friends" "...if you're okay with at LEAST being friends...." That's a phrase that is like nails on a chalkboard.
Author irc333 Posted March 3, 2012 Author Posted March 3, 2012 You got it. It's her wanting to avoid seeming like the bad guy. Who cares? You know she doesn't actually want to be friends with you. Yeah, when a woman relegates you to a friendship, it really means, "I don't want to even have you in my life nor my social circle either.
veggirl Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 Not if she doesn't think of me as dating material, no. When she used with words "at least" tied in with "friends" "...if you're okay with at LEAST being friends...." That's a phrase that is like nails on a chalkboard. Yeah I don't know why women do the whole "but wanna be friends" thing. I never have. Don't wanna be friends with a dude who wants to date me, way too awkward lol. Not into orbiters, perhaps she is. Bullet dodged.
SmileFace Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 On to the next one! Good thing you weren't invested enough for this hurt you emotionally. A small blow to the ego isn't a big deal. What would you rather? If she replied.."Eww, you are gross... you can't have my number!" Now you know early she isn't interested so move on or do the good guy thing and be her "friend" or tampon.
TeeZee Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 Let it go. Do NOT turn it into some #$#% about you. Continue showing interest in women until you find one (or more!) that reciprocate. That's the deal these days.
Author irc333 Posted March 3, 2012 Author Posted March 3, 2012 Let it go. Do NOT turn it into some #$#% about you. Continue showing interest in women until you find one (or more!) that reciprocate. That's the deal these days. Exactly, I'm just giving an example to others who may have gone through the same thing, and the signs/signals that you know that she's not wanting to date you one bit. She'll make a half-hearted attempt to be in "good standing" with you, by at least meeting you halfway with a friendship, but it's best to be black or white about it. No grey areas.
Canguy Posted March 4, 2012 Posted March 4, 2012 If I were you, and this is what I am starting to do now, friendzone girls on purpose. Make a bunch of friends with girls, then you learn them better and become really good with them. I have a buddy that does this, he has a **** load of "girlfriends", and now he has a really hot actual girlfriend.
Canguy Posted March 4, 2012 Posted March 4, 2012 Exactly, I'm just giving an example to others who may have gone through the same thing, and the signs/signals that you know that she's not wanting to date you one bit. She'll make a half-hearted attempt to be in "good standing" with you, by at least meeting you halfway with a friendship, but it's best to be black or white about it. No grey areas. 250% agree with this point also, TRUST ME, I had a girl which ive posted about playing games and stringing me along kinda thing, I had to learn the hard way. If a girl lets you know upfront, you know shes not of one of those stupid little insecure type of girls messing with you. I would rather a girl tell me to my face, she doesnt like me then play games like a twit. Count your lucky stars and move on or just be friend with her like I suggested in my previous post, but provided you have no attachment for her or real liking, otherwise move on.
Imajerk17 Posted March 4, 2012 Posted March 4, 2012 (edited) Didn't you suspect something was up when you met her and she gave you her FB and not her number? That to me would have been the dead giveaway. An interested woman would have given you her number when you met her. (You did ask, right?) Edited March 4, 2012 by Imajerk17
Author irc333 Posted March 4, 2012 Author Posted March 4, 2012 (edited) If I were you, and this is what I am starting to do now, friendzone girls on purpose. Make a bunch of friends with girls, then you learn them better and become really good with them. I have a buddy that does this, he has a **** load of "girlfriends", and now he has a really hot actual girlfriend. Nah, not my style....I've done this before, and when you ask about their other single friends they either claim all their single friends have boyfriends, or they aren't much help when it comes to introducing you to her other single friends. Some don't even feel comfortable letting you get to know their other friends. It's like if they weren't interested in dating you, then they probably also feel that their own female friends wouldn't be interested either. Of course, this is just an assumption on their part, which doesn't justify them not letting you join her in her social circle of single lady friends. Didn't you suspect something was up when you met her and she gave you her FB and not her number?Well, actually, I just initially contacted her through an invite list to an event we all went to, after the gathering, I contacted her there, chatted, and asked for her # that way. The means by which a man asks for a woman's # or method of contact is not relevant. That's the deal, it's 2012, technology and all that. I remember I asked for a woman's # face to face, and said she'd prefer to give me her email instead (she wrote it on a piece of paper), and schedule or date by those means. Which we did believe it or not, and actually met for date....she had some guy harassing her by phone constantly. I am guessing due to bad experiences with some guys constantly harassing them via texting/phone, they've grown sick of it. Edited March 4, 2012 by irc333
grkBoy Posted March 4, 2012 Posted March 4, 2012 I'm sure we'll see her later lamenting on how there are no "decent guys". I tend to notice how many women who FZ and/or reject a lot of guys are the ones who are chronically single and complaining how there are no good men. They made their bed...move on.
dispatch3d Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 Meh kind of a victory to know this early on rather than waste your time pining for years over her. And yeah I go for the phone number in person, if you make weak moves don't be surprised when you fail.
mtber75 Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 Again, me being friendzoned, and not getting a date....seems to be quite a common thing these days. I met this woman locally while out with friends, we'd been staying in touch through FB, I asked for her #, and the correspondence stopped. I followed up, and said in the email, "I didn't scare ya off, didn't I?" She said, "No you didn't, I just didn't know how to respond, I'm taking a break from dating (which is the typical excuse that's given to me) She goes, "Long story, has nothing to do with YOU though" And then she relegates, "But I hope we could still friends at least." Typical lame "You've just been FZ'ed response" Of course, this is unacceptable in my eyes, because she never did reply with her phone #. Don't friends swap phone #'s, right? That means, she's not even willing to be friends either. Doesn't matter if you get her # or not...She'll just ignore your calls! Just lower your expectations to friend and leave it at that!
kaylan Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 Dont sweat it OP...always see it as their loss. Not everyone is gonna like ya
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