mike588 Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 Ok..I'm being alittle sarcastic saying this but sometimes I wonder if doing these things will keep you from being Dumped. Your a good guy..you love your g/f...you'll do almost anything for her because you love her and want to keep her. So here are some tips to keep her: When she tells you she loves you ...you respond with...I really like you too. When she tells you she misses you/has missed you...you say....I kinda missed you too or say..thats nice. When she's feeling "frisky" and wants you to come to bed with her you say...I'll be there shortly then fall asleep in your LazyBoy. When she says...be over at 5....show up at 9. Always be late! Never buy or send her flowers....especially on her Birthday or Valentines day. Never tell her she looks pretty/beautiful When she wants to go out to a movie....dinner... etc. say...not tonight there is a football/baseball/hockey game on tonight! If your at your buddys house and shes not with you make sure you come home late smelling of womans perfume. On the weekends when she's expecting to do things with you/be alone together tell her all your buddies are coming over to watch sports and she needs to go to the store for beer and chicken wings. Never help around at her place...dishes..taking out the trash etc. Avoid...don't like her friends/family In the bedroom...always put yourself 1st.....she can wait! And so much more... Maybe the saying is true..nice guys finish last? Anyway just a few helpful tips to keep your girl on her toes...to challenge her and to keep her wanting you and from dumping you. I'm not serious...or am I ???? 1
wilsonx Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 A lot of resentfulness in this post... Another way to avoid being dumped is by remembering this saying "How they come is how they go" If they leave an ex to come to you, guess how they are going to leave?
Falcon25 Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 Great advice...........This is a great post. One who cares least, control's the relationship. Don't listen to the guy above my post. Resentment is what most will accuse you of because they know you are telling the truth.
DisGai Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 I mean.. it is definitely true that a guy should avoid being completely head over heels for a girl, but most of the things you listed here are quite ridiculous. These are some very disrespectful things to do to a girl, and if that's how your relationship is run, you should really reconsider if you actually like the girl. (Not directed to the OP)
jus d'orange Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 Of course, that may work. If you're going to lower your self-esteem and dignity to keep someone in your life so you can avoid feeling bad, why not just chain her up? I'd rather be single my whole life than treat someone this way. It's possible I lost my attraction for my ex by promising to change, but more than anything, I think the fighting killed her love for me. Not only is your post bitter, it's also probably wrong. The girl that stays because you make her life and love painful is not the person you want anyway. Again, unless you'd be fine chaining her up in your basement.
CLS63AMG Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 In all seriousness the answer to the original question is COMMUNICATION. However, if one side of the partnership does not understand how to do this its doomed. In my case, we never fought once, I neglected her, she didn't communicate anything to me, allowed her brain to brew up a bunch of crazy thoughts, this cultivated into a fight and it was over. How nice. lol
stitch702 Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 Lies...I did all of the above and she still left me lol...just kidding 1
Author mike588 Posted March 3, 2012 Author Posted March 3, 2012 I mean.. it is definitely true that a guy should avoid being completely head over heels for a girl, but most of the things you listed here are quite ridiculous. These are some very disrespectful things to do to a girl, and if that's how your relationship is run, you should really reconsider if you actually like the girl. (Not directed to the OP) Yeah I know the list is ridiculous!!!! I would never do those things or seriously recommend doing those things! It was just for fun and maybe make someone laugh. I've read soooo many posts her to where the guy does so much for his girl...treats her like gold without being a doormat and she becomes bored....no challenge ...your to nice and she winds up leaving for a "bad boy" and I'm sure ALOT of women would dump you if you did these things! There is a fine line on treating a woman without becoming a doormat...to keep her interested and being a challenge but don't do the things I've listed.Seriously!!!!!! Hope I made someone laugh or brought a smile to someones face.
Author mike588 Posted March 3, 2012 Author Posted March 3, 2012 Great advice...........This is a great post. One who cares least, control's the relationship. Don't listen to the guy above my post. Resentment is what most will accuse you of because they know you are telling the truth. Yeah I don't listen to that person/s anymore it's ALL about GIGS. I'm just waiting for a new person to come on here and say...My g/f..b/f dumped me and I'm so hurt then just last week my dog ran away. I wouldn't be surprised if the response would be....Well not only does your b/f..g/f have GIGS so does your dog. Now being fair there is SOME truth to GIGS and he has alot of good points but not 9 out of 10 breakups are GIGS related.
Jono85 Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 Yeah I know the list is ridiculous!!!! I would never do those things or seriously recommend doing those things! It was just for fun and maybe make someone laugh. I've read soooo many posts her to where the guy does so much for his girl...treats her like gold without being a doormat and she becomes bored....no challenge ...your to nice and she winds up leaving for a "bad boy" and I'm sure ALOT of women would dump you if you did these things! There is a fine line on treating a woman without becoming a doormat...to keep her interested and being a challenge but don't do the things I've listed.Seriously!!!!!! Hope I made someone laugh or brought a smile to someones face. no, most of those guys WERE doormats. it's evidenced by all the guys who can't even stay no contact after they've been dumped and beg and plead and tell her how much they love her etc etc. ton of doormats in here.
Philosoraptor Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 Doing things like this would just be a pile of manipulation. Would you really want to be with someone who stays because they are manipulated into doing so? People only finish last if they whine instead of taking action. I'm considered a "nice guy" by many, but really I just strive to be a good person. I don't play games at all and never have any issues with women. I have no issue placing all of my cards on the table and if they don't match up, then you just need to wait until the next person you feel a true connection with walks into your life. Manipulation is just another game, and relationships are not games.
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