PIM Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 I'm 31 years old and I've only been in one real relationship which ended 6 months ago. I was really shy for most of my younger years and also very clueless. Girls would throw themselves at me but I was too scared or stupid to do anything. However then my ex came in and we made it work. It was pretty great for a while but eventually I started wondering if I'm missing out. She felt I was being distant and broke up with me. When it ended I was absolutely sick to my stomach and missed my ex so very much. Now it's been 6 months and I've been on some dates but nothing serious but recently a few prospects have come up. At the same time my ex and I have been talking again and she wants to meet up with me. I do desperately miss her but the old doubts have come up again. I'm so confused that I'm sick! Anyone go through something like this?
SongOfAWoman Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 As soon as he finished the breakup speech and left, I threw up everywhere. What a nice way THAT was to end a perfect day.
Philosoraptor Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 So what caused the distance? Is this the same girl you didn't find very attractive? From your previous threads you didn't seem very happy with the relationship, and about her appearance especially. Not being happy with her looks is truthfully a valid reason to break up as you're the one who has to be with this person. Was the distance caused by your unhappiness? If so then how would things be better this time around? Would she suddenly be more attractive? I think you're caught in a bit of nostalgia which was probably caused by having communication with this woman.
Author PIM Posted March 11, 2012 Author Posted March 11, 2012 I've been meaning to reply but I was an absolute mess when I met up with the ex earlier in the week. I saw her this week and to be honest I can't remember why I thought she wasn't very attractive because I was very attracted to her when I saw her. From what I remember of my feelings earlier the attraction kind of came and went and it just sometimes I would catch her and I wouldn't find her attractive at all and then it would kind of snowball where in my mind I would keep harping on her physical faults. Looking back now I think the distance was caused because I never really gave her a shot. I was already looking past her and looking at all the other girls I could be dating and I never gave her a shot. I had such a late start to dating and I figured I should be out there playing the field a bit more. Basically the whole time I was looking for an out. Emotionally I didn't really let her in which lead me to be so superficial with her and I think was also the reason I thought our sex life was just ok. The problem is I don't know if things will be better this time around. But I do miss her like crazy and I wonder if we give it another shot and I give it my all and not have only one foot in maybe that's the difference?
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