jus d'orange Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 I just won't find anyone as beautiful as my ex again and I know it And it's so hard to meet girls.. I don't care for clubs much and really don't want to meet a girl there anyways :/ Oh come on now. I've told myself the same thing, and it just isn't true. Beauty isn't a sliding scale, and it comes in so many varieties and types. You'll find a DIFFERENT beauty. You may even end up being more awed by the beauty of someone new. I used to tell myself (years ago) that my now ex was too beautiful for me and would never fall in love with me. Yeah, that wasn't true either. Don't sell yourself short! If you're fit and confident, you'll surprise yourself. Yeah, I don't like clubs either. If you don't wanna a girl there and you don't like them, don't go! Do something you enjoy, not what someone else thinks you'll enjoy. Now that you're single, you can basically do whatever you feel like. Kinda nice, huh?
Author nick d Posted March 3, 2012 Author Posted March 3, 2012 I guess I just have a fear of not finding someone and being alone. I mean I'm only 25, but it still worries me. Honestly I thought I would have a family now, not be out being single again.
Richy1077 Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 Just be strong man, time heals all wounds, and sometimes they come back. I broke up with a girl I had being going out with for 2 years, about 4 months ago. At the time I just wanted to die and had no life or motivation to do anything. After A while I realized how many other amazing people there are in this world and If they think you are moving on or seeing other people that could be more attractive. My ex always rings me and texts..just play cool man youll be sweet
LSgirl Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 Im 26 female and I feel like I'm never going to find anyone, too. It's not realistic because we will and we may even laugh about this one day, but this kind of pain is just torture. I was just looking at a video of my ex on my phone and he's extremely handsome, he won't have a hard time finding a girl, sigh....
Author nick d Posted March 3, 2012 Author Posted March 3, 2012 I mean I'm not a bad looking guy by any means. And I'm sure you are a good looking girl so hopefully down the road we won't have a problem finding someone.. At least I hope :/ And don't be looking at pics or videos of him! That will carry out the pain!!
jus d'orange Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 You gotta keep it in perspective... There are 7 billion+ people on the planet. Granted, they're not all in their 20s and of the right gender, but still! There are so many people out there for you to meet and possibly fall in love with. Maybe somebody somewhere will find you, too. You'll be that person for them.
Author nick d Posted March 3, 2012 Author Posted March 3, 2012 This is so hard not to try and talk to her! NC sucks so bad!!!
mike588 Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 Oh come on now. I've told myself the same thing, and it just isn't true. Beauty isn't a sliding scale, and it comes in so many varieties and types. You'll find a DIFFERENT beauty. You may even end up being more awed by the beauty of someone new. I used to tell myself (years ago) that my now ex was too beautiful for me and would never fall in love with me. Yeah, that wasn't true either. Don't sell yourself short! If you're fit and confident, you'll surprise yourself. Yeah, I don't like clubs either. If you don't wanna a girl there and you don't like them, don't go! Do something you enjoy, not what someone else thinks you'll enjoy. Now that you're single, you can basically do whatever you feel like. Kinda nice, huh? Agree 100%... I also said/felt the same way...I'll NEVER find anyone as beautiful as her....we had something so special blah blah blah... Bullsh*t! Take sometime to heal..don't go jump into another relationship at this time.... Dude I hear you....I felt the SAME EXACT way....don't beat yourself up and over think your future...your life during this most difficult time in your life now. One day you will look back on this and say...What the hell was I thinking/doing. You WILL get thru this!!!!!!!!
Author nick d Posted March 4, 2012 Author Posted March 4, 2012 I'm so tempted to break NC!! Just thinking about her beauty and her smile and gorgeous eyes is KILLING me!! And to know she is already dating other guys and could care less about me hurts so bad! Worst pain I've ever felt!!!
Numb79 Posted March 4, 2012 Posted March 4, 2012 Nick, I know how bad NC sucks. As a matter of fact, I almost broke earlier today. But I stayed strong, and I am glad I did. I know its hard to stop thinking about the individual but you have to try. Perhaps you can still think of the individual/situation but in a different way. For example..... when I was laying there I was talking to myself. I wasn't bad mouthing the Ex or anything. I was just re-assuring myself that this time will pass. How everything happens for a reason. If I truely loved her, I would want her to be happy. She deserves to be happy as do I. The past is the past and thats where we need to leave it. I guess what I am trying to say is.... I am trying to let go in my own way. It may be hard now..... but eventually you will have to do it. People come and go out of each others lives everyday..... and there is absolutely nothing anyone can do about it. We need to learn to just live with it. Stay strong and don't break NC no matter what the cost. Don't find lame reasons to break NC either. Just know that you are not alone and things will get easier in time.
Author nick d Posted March 4, 2012 Author Posted March 4, 2012 I hope so man! This is my 2nd very serious relationship. My last one was 5 years. This one was just under 3. But this one is alot harder to get over!
Author nick d Posted March 4, 2012 Author Posted March 4, 2012 Numb, If you ever wanna text or talk or something here's my cell # 801-721-4211 It'd be good to talk to someone that's going through the same thing
Numb79 Posted March 4, 2012 Posted March 4, 2012 801? That is the area code for SLC. Ha! Ha! I used to live there..... only for about 2 years until I moved to WA. Now I'm in CA
Author nick d Posted March 4, 2012 Author Posted March 4, 2012 Yeah I live in Syracuse. It's only a few miles from Ogden. That's crazy! Lol
jassib Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 Yeah I've been taking sleeping pills to put me out each day. And trust me NC isn't going to do anything for me. I pushed her too far away. Just look at these messages I got 2 days ago before NC ... Message: I don't have plenty of guys I'm just saying I'm done dealing with you, you act like little boy!!! I already told you I don't give a **** about you anymore! You keep say oh I'm going to stop talking to you then you text me a bunch and get mad that I don't text you back... I can't take it anymore I am changing my # tomorrow!!! Message: Seriously calm the fcck down!!! I can't just stop everything I'm doing to text you!!! I swear you act like a teenager, I can't handle this!!! Message: Honestly I have bigger problems then dealing with all you boys that's the reason... these msgs well you have to be NC now no more like that just NC look i am NC for 1 month and 20 days and that was the 3rd break and even worse the 3rd break came after 10 or 11 days after we reconciled again but as every body said here NC the only choice been there like you i am starting to heal but also some times i dont feel good or dont want to go out like you but i am fighting i dont know if i am healing perfectly i dont think so but i am trying coz some times i crash it's ok still trying, only time can cure now you have to take her msg and do the opposite 100% opposite and dont give her any attention at all and if she calls or tried to contact do not contact or reply
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