nocontactqueen Posted March 2, 2012 Posted March 2, 2012 I haven't been dating this guy for very long, but it's been great for the most part. Things have gotten very stressful for both of us lately at school and work, and I've not been doing so well in general. I suffer from depression, and I tried to keep it from him for a while until I felt like I could really trust him to stick with me. I'm in the process of switching medications, and well, that's all another story. I'm struggling a bit, but I'm getting through it. But I thought things had been going well, we fight here and there, when the other day he comes in and sits down and just says "I'm not happy." Then goes into all these things that I do (or don't do) that have been bothering him. Most of them I had no idea about- I knew he might be upset, but he had never said anything so I didn't process it. He was upset that we hadn't been hanging out with his friends as much as he'd like, he said he was tired of going to work and having to worry about me, things that I can work on. So I got upset and asked why he hadn't told me these things, these are things that couples try to work on if they really care about each other. So he eventually agreed to work on things instead of flat out breaking up with me. But the day before, even later that night, I'll do something simple for him- and he'll say I'm the best ever. He'll talk about plans we made for the weekend. It's so confusing. But now, I can't go a day without worrying he's just going to come see me one day, out of the blue, and do the same thing. Has the happened to anyone? It's one of my biggest fears. In the past several guys I've been casually seeing have just stopped talking to me, so I'm always worried about that. But not only that, I'm so hurt he didn't feel like we could talk about things before hand. I want to fix things, and I feel like I can, but I'm so worried now that he's just constantly thinking about leaving that I don't know what to do, how or if I can get past this. Any advice?
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