mikethespike Posted March 2, 2012 Posted March 2, 2012 I have been married for 15 years now. Got married to the woman of my dreams at the age of 24. First child a year later. We are up to 4 now, youngest being 5. She admitted to being with another man on a trip to Vegas about 8 years ago. She told me everything about the encounter. No secrets, right? I let it go, but it is not forgotten. At a halloween party about 3 years ago after lots of liquid courage was consumed, she "made out" with a neighbor and got her hands down his pants, or so i was told by his wife. I saw them kissing and thought nothing of it. I let it go again. Last weekend, after the 3rd night in a row coming home at 4 am after going out with the work crowd, i showed up at the bar to see if she needed a ride. I saw her walking out with co worker, Andrew. She didnt see me. I followed them for a bit. They ended up in a dark parking lot at a park. I walked up to the car to see her on top of him and his hands up her shirt. I confronted them and she was so drunk and so high, she didnt know what to say. I told her that i was done when she got home. She asked me to forgive her and she loves me so much and we can work this out. My chest still hurts from all of this crap and I have a hard time looking at her. I am not really sure what to do. I really dont feel like waiting till this happens again. She says we will go to a counsler and talk about what has been happening. She tells me that i am the only one she wants and will never do it again. I really dont want the kids to have a messed up life with divorced parents. I need some advice.
HHC Posted March 2, 2012 Posted March 2, 2012 She says we will go to a counsler and talk about what has been happening. Do you want to hold onto what you have? WHat do you guys have anyway? WHat's the rest of the relationship like? She tells me that i am the only one she wants and will never do it again. Well we all know this isn't true, especially since it seems to a reoccurring theme for her to go off with other men. I really dont want the kids to have a messed up life with divorced parents. I need some advice. Live your life for you, not your kids. If anything show your children that you're worth more than staying in an unhappy marriage for someone else.
Ninja'sHusband Posted March 8, 2012 Posted March 8, 2012 Personally I couldn't be married to a woman with substance abuse problems. Your call on whether you think it's worth trying to R. If she's got serious problems, she may just be a bad influence and would be better to split.
Betrayed&Stayed Posted March 8, 2012 Posted March 8, 2012 I saw them kissing and thought nothing of it. Seriously?! You find that acceptable behavior for your wife?
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