Nodezz Posted March 2, 2012 Posted March 2, 2012 My name is Nadine , and i love someone i love him so much but he doesnt love me the way i love him he doesn't care about me like i care about him , i love him with all my heart i am willing to do anything for him i miss him so much , i am in a huge pain my heart is always aching and i cant stop the pain , i cant stop thinking about him , i cant stop wondering why i couldn't make him fall for me , what is that bad about me , i did everything for him , i hate this i never been in this situation it is like total REJECTION my only mistake is that i loved and still love him like crazy he conquered my heart and my mind i jump out of happiness when i see him , i miss the way he used to hug me and wipe away my tears but he doesn't do that anymore , i have been crying myself to sleep each night and waking up with a tear i feel like a part of me is missing , there is just too much pain inside me to tolerate i wish i could rip my heart out to stop the pain , i just need help what shall i do ? please help me :'(
mike588 Posted March 2, 2012 Posted March 2, 2012 My name is Nadine , and i love someone i love him so much but he doesnt love me the way i love him he doesn't care about me like i care about him , i love him with all my heart i am willing to do anything for him i miss him so much , i am in a huge pain my heart is always aching and i cant stop the pain , i cant stop thinking about him , i cant stop wondering why i couldn't make him fall for me , what is that bad about me , i did everything for him , i hate this i never been in this situation it is like total REJECTION my only mistake is that i loved and still love him like crazy he conquered my heart and my mind i jump out of happiness when i see him , i miss the way he used to hug me and wipe away my tears but he doesn't do that anymore , i have been crying myself to sleep each night and waking up with a tear i feel like a part of me is missing , there is just too much pain inside me to tolerate i wish i could rip my heart out to stop the pain , i just need help what shall i do ? please help me :'( I'm sorry your going thru so much pain and agony now and I understand exactly how you feel. My ex. g/f dumped me in a very cruel way 7 months ago and I wish there was something I could say to you to take away what your going thru. Unfortunantly your just going to have to go thru this..It sucks I know..its all a growing and learning experience and time with heal you that I promise you!! You can't make anyone fall for you or love you...that has to come from him. Maybe you did to much?..maybe you smothered him? and came across as to needy. Everyone on this site is going thru or has gone thru what your dealing with now and has/had those feelings...memories of those special times...what he/she did for them...hugs..wiping away tears etc etc.. The best thing for you to do now is to leave him alone....Do NOT contact him.....if you feel you must make sure you get it ALL out one last time.If you keep contacting him in ANY way your just going to push him further away from you....you will look..come across as weak and pathetic..a HUGE turnoff! One of the benefits of No Contact is that it makes the ex. wonder about you...if your ok..if your dating someone else and it may make them miss you instead of you ALWAYS being there calling...texting...emailing. It's not easy...I KNOW!! Hang in there and post as you feel you need to.
SongOfAWoman Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 Nadine, at least you have people here who understand, and who get tired of your whining, or decide you should recover on their timetable. Today this has helped me immensely. Every minute I'm typing is a minute I am not texting.
Author Nodezz Posted March 3, 2012 Author Posted March 3, 2012 Mike588 Thank you for your reply , and thank you for understanding as well so what are saying exactly is that I need to stop calling only receiving calls talk normally with him on the phone , I always think about really asking him if he really do love me and care about me because I really need to end this it is so much hurting :'(
Author Nodezz Posted March 3, 2012 Author Posted March 3, 2012 SongOfAWoman Thank you and yeah you are right whenever I feel like backing down or texting I will type it here thank you
nick d Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 I'm sorry you are going through this! I'm going through the same thing where I love a girl so much and she could care less about me! Honestly the best thing for you is to not contact him at all. You need time to heal. And contacting him right now won't do any good
Author Nodezz Posted March 3, 2012 Author Posted March 3, 2012 Nick d You are going through this also then u know how much it hurts and I know I have to stop contacting him but I miss him
nick d Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 I feel your pain I miss my ex so much it makes me sick! I love her with all my heart but she could care less! We just need to stay strong and not contact them. That only gives them power when we tell them we love them, and miss them, etc. I'm only on day 3 of NC and its not easy! But trust me, if I can do it then you can!
Author Nodezz Posted March 3, 2012 Author Posted March 3, 2012 Thank you it is day number 3 for me also but it feels like day number 30 I am fighting myself not to call him now my cellphone is next to me and I keep lookin at it waiting for a phone call
mike588 Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 Mike588 Thank you for your reply , and thank you for understanding as well so what are saying exactly is that I need to stop calling only receiving calls talk normally with him on the phone , I always think about really asking him if he really do love me and care about me because I really need to end this it is so much hurting :'( Yes QUIT calling him and QUIT only recieiving/answering calls. Draft up a final email to him but don't send it at that moment...sleep on it...re-read it the next morning....I'm sure you will edit it then do it again until you feel there is nothing else to say. Don't make it to long and don't dare say you'll be waiting for him...that your putting your life on hold for him.. Tell him what you feel...what you want/expect in the relationship then leave it at that. It's up to him now.....the balls in his corner/court now..in the mean time live your life...take care of # 1...you! I know it's so extremely difficult what your going thru but you WILL survive this and come out stronger even if you don't believe it at this time. Your NOT alone..I survived my time in hell (as well as so many others)and you will too!!!! Please Please don't chase....bug...call...text him unless you want to chase him further away...Do you?
nick d Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 I had to change my number :/ But it was always me contacting her anyways. It is hard, very hard.
Author Nodezz Posted March 3, 2012 Author Posted March 3, 2012 Mike588 No I don't wanna chase him but I want him in the same time I love him so much he is the person who completes me I love him it is hard but u are true in everything ur saying and i think i will and I need to do that ,,,,, Thank you for your help
Author Nodezz Posted March 3, 2012 Author Posted March 3, 2012 Nick d U are contacting her ?! Is she answering your phone calls and talk to u normally , does she seem happy that u called .
nick d Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 I was.. Up until 3 days ago.. I drove her away.. I kept telling her how much I loved her and missed her.. And she basically told me off. She is out partying and dating already and seems very happy. There is no hope for me to get her back. I just have to accept that.
mike588 Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 Mike588 No I don't wanna chase him but I want him in the same time I love him so much he is the person who completes me I love him it is hard but u are true in everything ur saying and i think i will and I need to do that ,,,,, Thank you for your help Hey...99% of the people on this site say or said the same thing...he/she was the person who completes my life....I still love this person....he/she is my soul mate etc.etc. etc. It's normal to feel that way now...your still IN LOVE and it's ok. Turn the situation around...how would you feel if you brokeup with a guy and this guy bugged the crap out of you with constant (I'm not saying your doing these things)emails....phone calls.texts...him crying and begging...pleading with you for a second chance???? Kinda PATHETIC huh? Kinda a turn off.....Kinda weak and desperate? You don't want to look that way to him!! Say what you have to say one last time...like I said..it's up to him now...he knows where YOU stand and there is no confusion on his part to where you stand. Evertime you get that urge to contact him walk away...tell yourself No..No...it's up to him now!! You can do it!! I don't recall if I told you this but I did it....It was one of the most difficult things I've ever done.....then months later she's contacting me.
Author Nodezz Posted March 3, 2012 Author Posted March 3, 2012 mike588 ya you are right i will do that , yes i will do it thank u thank you
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