Tuzie13 Posted March 2, 2012 Posted March 2, 2012 I havent done such a thing lately (a decade-ish).. It just wasn't of interest to me. The other day, was just out and about & thought randomly of my next-to-last ex and figured I'd get in touch. It was good to hear how his life changed. Not even sure why he popped into my mind....seeing as I lost complete interest, moved on, et al. I originally left him because he played a lot of video games, hoked around with school, etc. He always had to be right. He was too cocky. He was a brat; rarely appreciative of the time I took to spend with him or me dirving down there just to be with him. So many complaints flew out of that boy's mouth! Even after several conversations I had with him. He was a bit younger than me (he was 21, I was 29) So I let a bit slide up until all this added up.. Interestingly, I was quaintly surprised that contacting him went so well. He's had a lot of accomplishments since and continuing to do so. He offered up a great apology regarding the past.. I was pleasantly surprised. I didnt ask for him to and I was thrown off that he brought it up so soon. But I gracefully accepted. I havent apologized for my old ways yet.. I wasn't an angel myself. (Who in the world doesnt have ways in which they can approve). Though I do intend to let him know how I may handle things better with patience and such. And I do get easily steamed over small matters. I am glad to have contacted him. He's a big person for apologizing... and I feel a bit of a giddy teenage schoolgirl for being able to speak with him. It's like a new beginning and a tiny fire inside my heart. But I need to take it slowly and get to re-know him. I have some of my own loose-ends to patch up before something romantic starts [again]. How do these things usually go? How common is it for people's exs to shape up and improve? How many people regret or don't regret connecting with an old flame?
FrustratedStandards Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 I don't have any regrets, but I will tell you this. People don't change. It's nice now because you've missed each other, and you somewhat rekindled a connection that you shared before. But eventually you're going to remember all the bad habits and all the reasons why you left him. You're just going to go around in a circle. There's nothing wrong with staying friends, but if you're thinking about getting romantic again, I strongly suggest you don't. Remember that everyone is nice when you first meet them. It's when you get into a relationship that you realize who the person really is. He seems great now because it is his surface you are interacting with. Once you go a bit deeper, ultimately he will still be the same person +/- a few accomplishments.
FitChick Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 I disagree. Intelligent people change. Sometimes you can meet the right person at the wrong time so perhaps this is finally the right time.
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