Thieves Posted March 4, 2012 Posted March 4, 2012 Online dating, in my opinion, is for the really ugly or for those who have really bad communication skills. That, or they're desperate and have no self-esteem. Wow. Someone woke up on the unbuttered side of the toast that morning... Pancakesplease (awesome avatar), I agree with your OP about OLD. It just lets you see another side of people you know you wouldn't see in real life. Online dating is literally... like a virtual orgy fest where many people are scrambling to get a taste of whatever they wish. And this can sometimes bring out the worst in people... There are so many things with OLD that make it too different from real life though, and obviously, less successful. With OLD, you have a lack of human presence. You can't see the person, you can't touch them, observe their body language, or how they interact with other people (which says a lot about a person.) In real life, though rejection is more embarrassing and hard to do, it's a lot more certain because you know for sure what you are/aren't getting into. I think you really have to know how to navigate OLD to be successful, for sure.
HeavenOrHell Posted March 4, 2012 Posted March 4, 2012 You couldn't be more wrong, although my situation is a bit different as it's an LDR, when we met IRL after 4 months of skyping and talking on the phone, the anticipation and excitement about meeting up was incredible, more so than any other r/ship I've had, well I didn't have the build of anticipation when I met men locally. Or maybe you meant OND and not actually meeting IRL? Yes that I wouldn't get much fun out of. I just assumed OND is the initial contact and then you meet up. It can be fun looking through profiles and looking at photos, I had instant attraction when I saw my OH's pic for the first time, but of course no-one knows for sure they'll have chemistry until they meet, or how they'll get on, but you don't know that with people you meet locally either at first. Meeting IRL was better for us both than the fantasy before meeting, we were worried it wouldn't meet our expectations, but it more than did. 2 years on we feel the same still. I know of many couples who have met online and stayed together, or got married. It's just another way of meeting people, and to the closed minded/prejudiced people who say meeting someone online is for losers, well thanks for your fascinating insight but people look online for a variety of reasons, either because they're too busy with work to have much time for a social life, we don't all meet partners through work, I've never met a partner through my work, good friends but that's all, some people hate pubs and clubs, so they're not going to meet someone that way, that would be my last way to meet someone, ugh, shallow cattle markets (yes, I can be prejudiced too, many other people feel this way about them too). Some people are shy and find it easier to start conversations online, some people are unconventional (me) and finding sites which have like minded people on them is one good way to meet friends and possibly partner. I wouldn't join a general OND site as I have very little in common with the average conventional person, only sites tailored to my interests/lifestyle. I'm fussy basically Looking online doesn't mean you stop hoping to meet someone locally, just for some people they're not lucky to meet someone locally. I'd guess it works for a small percentage of people who use it. It seems like it would be more like work. People also bring their unrealistic expectations into it, more so than in real life given the "shopping" type feel that searching profiles creates. I can't imagine online dating replacing one of life's greatest pleasures, that excitement of initial attraction experienced when in person . Searching profiles and screening applicants, that doesn't sound even slightly romantic.
FitChick Posted March 4, 2012 Posted March 4, 2012 it's an LDR, when we met IRL after 4 months of skyping and talking on the phone, the anticipation and excitement about meeting up was incredible, more so than any other r/ship I've had, well I didn't have the build of anticipation when I met men locally. That's been my experience.
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