hechicera Posted March 2, 2012 Posted March 2, 2012 Here I go again... I had met this guy online a few months back, but because I was not in town we lost contact... Well a few weeks back he contacted me again and we finally met in person... First date was supposed to be short but we ended up having a good time and spent the whole night together... Nothing physical happened, not even a kiss, I said good bye with a hug... We both agreed we wanted to meet again and after two weeks we met again... Went to dinner and then to his place... He said I could stay over if I wanted to but those were not my plans, oh well... We ended up having sex and I ended up staying over. Next day he was very sweet, he offered breakfast I said no, I have to go home... He was talking and making plans of things we could do together, I must have had a freaking out face because I never meant it to go so fast with him, but I really enjoyed my time with him and I'm willing to see him again... The thing is I haven't heard from him since... And I haven't tried to contact him either because after what happened I don't want him to agree to see me again just because I went after him. I'm getting tired of this dating and games playing ugh I dont know what to think, it's been almost a week. Do you think I just ruined it for sleeping with him so fast or maybe he wants me to be the one to reach to him?
ditzchic Posted March 2, 2012 Posted March 2, 2012 Maybe he could tell that you were freaking out and decided to back off and let you decided. I would say that if you want to hang out with him again you should probably take the first step. Text him or drop him an e-mail. But be warned, he'll probably still want to move at the same speed. People do what they know. He knows fast moving. So if you want something more slow and progressive, you should probably leave this one go and go find a guy who has that kind of style.
USCGAviator Posted March 2, 2012 Posted March 2, 2012 If your interested in reaching out by all means go ahead. Nothing wrong with a little "hey stranger, how you been". If I was the guy I would probably want to see you again, given the sex was really good.
SCandy Posted March 2, 2012 Posted March 2, 2012 I think the sex was bad and the smell of your girly part was too much for him to take.....but what I think he was a player, because he took you to his place on second date...had sex...and now gone...typical player.....live and learn.
Author hechicera Posted March 2, 2012 Author Posted March 2, 2012 I think the sex was bad and the smell of your girly part was too much for him to take.....but what I think he was a player, because he took you to his place on second date...had sex...and now gone...typical player.....live and learn. I doubt the first was the case... After the first part of the night I was ready to leave... He insisted for me to stay (we had sex already at that point) if t would have been bad he would have let me go... A player? I didnt get that first impression of him, but I honestly dont know anymore... I'll wait it out for a bit and if still don't hear from him I guess I will contact him and see what happens... Thanks guys!
PrincessPeach Posted March 2, 2012 Posted March 2, 2012 It sounds to me like he likes you. But you saw him as falling for you to quickly and weren't ready to take it as quickly as he was and sorta freaked out. This sent him a message that you were not on the same page. In his mind, the romance had developed further than it actually had from your perspective. When he saw your reaction, it convinced him that his judgment was wrong and thought that you were not that into him. If you like him you have to make the move because he has probably written you off as not that interested in him and may be moving on to looking for someone else at this point. How did you handle or think you handled the situation the next morning? If he didn't like you he wouldn't be trying to make plans with you the next morning. He doesn't sound like a player to me.
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