Author missyme04 Posted March 7, 2012 Author Posted March 7, 2012 @missyme04: The best advice I can give you is that it is a dating site and take it for that. A place to get dates! Some women (I'm not bashing) want "deep" emails and want to be swept off their feet before meeting someone?? they even say no "bulk" or "copy and paste" messages in their profiles. If a guy emails you, you read his profile and he seems like he has a good head on his shoulders, and you are attracted to him enough, there should be nothing wrong with a " Hi I'm x, you seem like an interesting person and I would like to get to know you, check out my profile and if you would like to talk send me a hey and I'll message you. Take care, x" message from him. It's an ice breaker, shows interest and puts no pressure on you at all. I have had more success with those messages to woman than "personalized" ones. The point is to get to a date, not get to know eachother through email, find out if you like him on the date! As far as sites don't do POF, use OKC, and MATCH if you are willing to pay. Hi SJC2008 Thank you so much for this advice. yes I so agree, I want a serious relationship and I want a guy who can sweep me off my feet I just hope I can get him. hehehe.
Author missyme04 Posted March 7, 2012 Author Posted March 7, 2012 This is a guys point of view on them. Plenty of Fish was the worst in terms of quality of female members. It's a free site so you get what you pay for. Eharmony was the best in terms of quality of the women on it. Also, Eharmony matches you with other members based on your personality profile and preferences as opposed to the meat market scrolling catalog of POF and Match. The downside is that Eharmony is expensive, but the subscription fee weeds out many of the losers. OkCupid- Similar to Eharmony in that they match you with other members, but a free site. A step above POF, but quality of members not as good as Eharmony. Hi Sith Apprentice. I wanted to try Eharmony but I guess that's so expensive. LOL! :p I can try on OkCupid, figure out if the guys there are serious and not just playing some games on gurls.
Author missyme04 Posted March 7, 2012 Author Posted March 7, 2012 Oh I forgot to answer this. This is just my experience in my area. Others may chime in and have a different opinion. I would say Match is good. Eharmony I think is geared more towards an older demographic? 40's?? Not sure. Just beware if you use a free site, you will get a lot more riff raff to weed through. You get what you pay for. In my experience the guys on Match seem to be more polite and looking more for a relationship. They are paying to be on the site (if they have the subscription which they will need to e-mail) so they are more serious about it. I have never done Plenty of Fish but yet I haven't heard much good about it. I am currently on OKCupid and since it is a free site you do get a lot of garbage e-mails. The 'hey baby, you are hawt!!' type of e-mails. Thanks buddy, move along. I have met a few really nice guys on OKCupid though. They are there you just might need to look harder and ignore the cat calling. Good luck!! Hi curlygirl40 Yes, I PROMISE!! I wont let a guy go to my or his place on our 1st, 2nd, 3rd, 4th , 5th - 10th day of our date. who knows maybe we can go to our places after 1 month. hehehe. I'm not that conservative but I wanted to know him first before he gets to meet my family and I really should study his intentions. guys now a days go for SEX SEX SEX and SEX and I hate that Thank you so much for you advice. by the way, I'm 22 years old
Author missyme04 Posted March 8, 2012 Author Posted March 8, 2012 I've done it a lot. Pretty much whenever I've been single in the last 6 or 7 years. I've probably met dozens of girls from the internet by now, and I've chatted with most of them about their experiences with online dating. You can't talk to anyone these days without them knowing someone or having a close friend who found their partner online. It absolutely does work for certain types of people. If you find it difficult to judge guys intentions, one of the best things you can do is get a male friend - one with no romantic interest in you, like a friend's bf or something - to have a look at the profile (maybe messages too) of any guy you're thinking about meeting. Guys are generally WAY better at spotting jerks than girls are, so if you do find yourself struggling to figure out who you should or shouldn't meet, this might help. Thanks Andy_K Yeah! this would help me. I realized that I dont have male friends. I mean a have a LOOOOOOT of male friends with a gurls heart. LOL! some of them are still hiding behind their true colors coz they cant admit that they are gay. hihihi. but I so much enjoy their company. Gays are fun to be with especially when you have problems. So my new Mission now (hahahaha) is to find a true male friend who can advice me on what to do. Thanks for this Andy!
Author missyme04 Posted March 13, 2012 Author Posted March 13, 2012 Don't join more than one site at a time. Many share databases so you would be wasting your money. If you are not sure, look at the About Us or Contact Us link to see the name of the head company. For example, Yahoo Personals and Match.com and Dating Direct (UK) are the same. That's why you will often see more than one profile of the same person on the same website. They think they are on different ones. thanks for this!
ComMan Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 Hi curlygirl40 Yes, I PROMISE!! I wont let a guy go to my or his place on our 1st, 2nd, 3rd, 4th , 5th - 10th day of our date. who knows maybe we can go to our places after 1 month. hehehe. I'm not that conservative but I wanted to know him first before he gets to meet my family and I really should study his intentions. guys now a days go for SEX SEX SEX and SEX and I hate that Thank you so much for you advice. by the way, I'm 22 years old If after 3rd you won't spread your legs, you will be only getting some beta males with no options who are desperate virgins. 2
ComMan Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 Thanks Andy_K Yeah! this would help me. I realized that I dont have male friends. I mean a have a LOOOOOOT of male friends with a gurls heart. LOL! some of them are still hiding behind their true colors coz they cant admit that they are gay. hihihi. but I so much enjoy their company. Gays are fun to be with especially when you have problems. So my new Mission now (hahahaha) is to find a true male friend who can advice me on what to do. Thanks for this Andy! HAHAHAHAH this broad thinks that beta males/orbiters who pretend to be her friend and listen to her emotional BS are GAY! AHAHAHAHAHAHA 1
Author missyme04 Posted March 13, 2012 Author Posted March 13, 2012 If after 3rd you won't spread your legs, you will be only getting some beta males with no options who are desperate virgins. Ahmmmmmmmmm. Is 3rd so late? haha My ex and I did it our 11th date. i think there's some out there who would also do the same. I HOPE SO !!
ComMan Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 Your ex, based on your butaface self, was a beta with no options who waited for some bland vanilla sex with your hairy vagina
TaraMaiden Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 is this threadjacking...? I think it might be.... !
TaraMaiden Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 first of all, the word is 'feminazi', and secondly - no. (you can't even be original...)
ComMan Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 TaraMaiden - Join Date: Apr 2009 + Posts: 7,952 = no life 1
Lobouspo Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 Missy, Haven't read all the posts on this thread. If the avatar is you, I think you are very attractive . For what its worth, I did eharmony for awhile and was disappointed. I have had more responses and dates with OKC, so go figure. And not a bunch of low lifes either. Went on a date with an architect Monday from OKC, so trying the free sites are definitely worth a shot IME. 1
starla33 Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 Here's how it works for a girl: If you're hot, you'll be inundated with messages, but the vast majority of them will be guys who just want to bang you. If you're good at figuring out a guy's intentions it will work for you very well. If you are naive, gullible, or a poor judge of character you'll be messed around big time. If you're not very attractive, you won't get anywhere near as many messages, and all of them will be guys who just want to bang you. The above is all true, and please note that the majority of people on dating sites are only on there for CASUAL dating. So you have to really FILTER well! 1
Author missyme04 Posted March 15, 2012 Author Posted March 15, 2012 Missy, Haven't read all the posts on this thread. If the avatar is you, I think you are very attractive . For what its worth, I did eharmony for awhile and was disappointed. I have had more responses and dates with OKC, so go figure. And not a bunch of low lifes either. Went on a date with an architect Monday from OKC, so trying the free sites are definitely worth a shot IME. Hi yes! it's me on the picture. thank you so much for the complement. Yes i tried free sites and it's good. but the problem is a loooooooot of guys are sending me pictures of their *toooooot* LOL! :laugh: OKC is a free dating site right? thank you so much for the info.
ascendotum Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 Hi yes! it's me on the picture. thank you so much for the complement. Yes i tried free sites and it's good. but the problem is a loooooooot of guys are sending me pictures of their *toooooot* LOL! :laugh: Its customary to return the favour. They show you the goods upfront, so its just good manners to send them a snap of your vag so they know you better.
Untouchable_Fire Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 Ahmmmmmmmmm. Is 3rd so late? haha My ex and I did it our 11th date. i think there's some out there who would also do the same. I HOPE SO !! There is no set rule, just have sex when you feel the time is right and you are comfortable. In my experience you get a better guy when it's date 11 and not date 3. by the way what's a "feminazi?" A woman who hates men. I think you can ignore that comment completely.
Mantis Toboggan Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 There is no set rule, just have sex when you feel the time is right and you are comfortable. In my experience you get a better guy when it's date 11 and not date 3. Waiting 11 dates before sex is a very "Disney" way of looking at dating. Sex isn't just an exchange of bodily fluids. It's a way of showing that you're sexually attracted to a person and willing to break down some of the walls that we all put up. It's not like a "normal" person goes on 3 or 4 dates with a girl, has sex with them, and then runs away never to speak to her again. Sure, it happens. But it's not some kind of epidemic. Sex on Date#1? Probably a bad idea...But by Date#3 or 4, you gotta either step things up sexually, or accept that you're not into this person and walk away. First of all, I've maxed out with 5 no-sex dates with a girl. And yes, I never saw her after the 5th date because there was no reason to. I'm sorry, but after 1 date per week with a girl for over a month, I think two grownups can tell gauge whether or not they want to have sex. The problem is, a woman (or man) can go on 11 dates with you and at the same time go on dozens of dates with other people in the same time span. If a woman is making me wait 11 dates (Which I assume is 3 months), then I think it's safe to assume that she's having sex with someone else, or dating many many people. Because who dedicates that much time to a romantic prospect and still thinks "Eh, I don't know if I like him that much. Maybe 10 more dates will do it." And imagine yourself in that position...you're dedicating weeks of time to planning dates with a person, and after 11 dates, they're STILL not sure how they feel about you. If a man is happily waiting 11 dates for sex, then he is a man with no other options.
Feelin Frisky Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 I don't have any experience with it--I did however post in the "Personals" before the Internet changed everything. But the results were a drag. If you're lonely and can't get exposure to new people, give it a whirl. Each person is unique and you might get the luck of the draw. But the odds are you have to go though a few perhaps uncomfortable attempts before finding someone you'd want to see again. My choice was to go back to school at night and develop and interest where there are a lot of after work hours meetings. That led to exposure to women of substance for me that we already had something in common with. I lived in NYC though which is paradise for after-work associations and clubs. If you're near a big city, you can look for continuing ed workshops or finish college or w/e and also get discovered by people for your enthusiasm for the subject as well as your looks and charm.
Sith Apprentice Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 I'd be willing to wait for the right person, but after 3-4 dates there's going to be a serious cost/benefit analysis based on my time and money invested. If a woman is willing to pick me up half the time/take me out half the time/ pay half and an enjoyable person then yeah I'd be willing to wait as long as she wants. On the other hand, If a woman expects me to pick her up/entertain her/drive her around/ and pay for everything then there's definitely going to be a measure of what I'm willing to put up with. If you're dating a woman in this category you're better off ditching her and banging escorts after 3 dates.
Author missyme04 Posted March 19, 2012 Author Posted March 19, 2012 There is no set rule, just have sex when you feel the time is right and you are comfortable. In my experience you get a better guy when it's date 11 and not date 3. A woman who hates men. I think you can ignore that comment completely. Yes, you're so right about not having sex on day 3. it's really awful and I dont want that to happen to me. Oh now I know what feminazi means. hehehe. thank you
Author missyme04 Posted March 19, 2012 Author Posted March 19, 2012 If a man is happily waiting 11 dates for sex, then he is a man with no other options. Hi Mantis! Ahmmmmm. For me, I think it's fine for a guy to wait until the 11th date if the girl really deserves it right?
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