irc333 Posted March 2, 2012 Posted March 2, 2012 I was reading some of some dude's post and how he, and some of us all, at one time, kind of dilly dallied when showing interest in a woman. I remember talking about unfriending a woman on FB, because she had been non-responsive to me, but I did have a crush on her anyways. And she confronted me on it. She said "Well, a lot of my male friends, once I showed I wasn't interested in them, when it wasn't mutual, they were fine staying friends with me" She said, "Thanks for the reminder that some men, just can't be friends with women" And I threw in, "That they are attracted to" And I had a serious attraction to her...she said that, "I'm sorry you feel that way, but I do understand though" Apparently, over time, she learned that men, esp. if there's an attraction, just couldn't continue any kind of contact with her. But she thinks that he might be screwing himself out of a good friendship, and possibly being alone. Well, that's what I have friends currently for. LOL But, it was a good thing she did understand, and I was glad of that, but there are some women...that seem to be taken aback, or think some man is a real jerk for NOT wanting to be friends with her, and she assumes, "Oh, well, he's just trying to get into my pants!" Um, no....I'm trying to be a gentleman, and to date you , something real, something substantial. But I don't know where they just assume, "he doesn't want to be friends, he just wants to sleep with me" Or he's a jerk for moving on, and not being around as a friend anyhow. In, my situation, I've been getting along well with my circle of female friends, but there'd always be this ONE woman I would take a shine to, even get along with very well, but as soon as I show interest.....well...they're not insulted nor into me....they're like "Oh, that's strange, IRC333 is interested in dating me? Weird" It's like they neverh ad expected me to ask them out. "What, IRC is asking me out?
Author irc333 Posted March 2, 2012 Author Posted March 2, 2012 Good example is this, there was this woman I befriended among a circle of friends, got her #, called her up and asked her out. She agreed to it.....about half hour later, she calls me back and said, "Um.....you didn't meant this for to be a date, did you?" I said, "Um..yes...what would make you think otherwise?" And she goes, "Um, yeah, sorry, but I'm not interested in you that way, but I'll see you when we all go see that movie, Friday, okay?" Ouch! I even had this one woman ASK me for my #, but didn't have a romantic interest in me.
Andy_K Posted March 2, 2012 Posted March 2, 2012 Are you flirting with any of them? Are you talking about dating, relationships, asking if they're single etc? What clear signals of romantic or sexual intent are you putting out there?
Nightsky Posted March 2, 2012 Posted March 2, 2012 A man of action need not sweat rejection or stress about getting a gf. He lives his life and continues doing what he needs to till he gets a gf if that’s what he wants. Women have been using friendship as a way of rejecting guys since the dawn of such relationship existing between men and women. The old I just think of you as a friend. A woman asking for your number, or you getting their number does not mean romantic interest is there. Good luck, don’t sweat the small stuff.
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