youngster Posted March 2, 2012 Posted March 2, 2012 Okay let's start this thread off on the wrong foot;) I feel like having a little fun with this post. I am trying the dating scene although I am still very much in love with my Ex. Last week, I met a girl at a club for a mutual friends birthday. Weve always known about each other, and found one another attractive, but she was in a relationship so nothing ever panned out. So the birthday girl and a bunch of her friends are pushing us together all night trying to get us to mingle. I did some light flirting but kept my distance because I had to take a huge dump all night. Haha. At the end of the night we exchange numbers. Now for the signs- Her FB status states that she's in a relationship, knowing this, I asked the birthday girl. Her response was something along the lines of "no her boyfriend screwed her over so they're through" Now besides the obvious rebound aspect, there's pics of her ex in some of her photos. So if they're not broken up she's doing some shady business by showing interest in the youngster over here. Another flag is that I am practically (superficially) the polar opposite of the other guy. He's chubby thuggish and doesn't look very friendly. I'm skinny kind of a dork and pretty friendly. I'll admit that I seem to fit her "profile" in a stereotypical way, but you can never tell when it comes to relationships. I ended up calling her tonight (a week later) with intentions of asking her to go grab dinner, but I got her voicemail. I'm kind of liking the idea of interacting with this gal but knowing what signs to look for and NOT ignore this time around the relationship game. Feedback?
tigressA Posted March 2, 2012 Posted March 2, 2012 Uh...you're on the dating scene even though you are "very much in love" with your ex, and you think it's a red flag that this new girl you meet has pictures of her presumed ex on her Facebook? Hm.
betterdeal Posted March 2, 2012 Posted March 2, 2012 Maybe she doesn't give a rat's ass about Facebook and thus doesn't remove things from it on a regular basis? You could just ask her if she's involved with anyone at the moment and go from there. You could also just have some fun with her. You're still in love with your ex, so having a bit of fun, nothing serious, seems to be all that you're looking for anyway. Let her know that, be cool, be you. I get the feeling you may be looking for excuses to avoid getting involved with her. Probably because you're emotionally raw still. Better to just accept you're not ready for a relationship beyond something casual right now than spend your time and effort projecting it onto the object of your desire at the time. It's okay to not be okay.
Star Gazer Posted March 2, 2012 Posted March 2, 2012 Uh...you're on the dating scene even though you are "very much in love" with your ex, and you think it's a red flag that this new girl you meet has pictures of her presumed ex on her Facebook? Hm. Yup...
Author youngster Posted March 2, 2012 Author Posted March 2, 2012 Tigress I was leaving my chin open at the beginning of the post by admitting that I wasn't over my ex. I thought it was obvious, but maybe it wasn't. Better deal, let me start by saying I enjoyed your Guide to life after going NC its inspirational and encourages me to inch forward from the person I was involved with Yes, after being burned on more than one occasion of being some gals rebound, I almost take a weird interest in seeing if it is in fact that textbook. Since I don't feel the sparks flying with this one, I am just going to enjoy her company and not take things too seriously.
Author youngster Posted March 2, 2012 Author Posted March 2, 2012 Geez I guess sarcasm doesn't translate well over text... I even put a winky smiley face!!!
betterdeal Posted March 2, 2012 Posted March 2, 2012 Yes, after being burned on more than one occasion of being some gals rebound, I almost take a weird interest in seeing if it is in fact that textbook. Since I don't feel the sparks flying with this one, I am just going to enjoy her company and not take things too seriously. Sounds good to me. Maybe not taking it too seriously is a way to ease yourself into dating again. It's supposed to be fun, right?
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