loveisagame Posted March 2, 2012 Posted March 2, 2012 He dumped me a month an a half ago after being together for a year. I was his first love. He says he feels relieved and that he has his freedom back, etc, etc... With time and no contact, do you think he'll ever regret his decision? Is it true that at first they're happy with their decision and their freedom, and then after some time, start missing the dumpee? I think the break up is still fresh and he didn't have time to heal from it and heal from the bad memories... What do you guys think?
sweetheart5381 Posted March 2, 2012 Posted March 2, 2012 Why did he dump you? What relief does he feel now? Why do you feel he has ended the relationship?
Philosoraptor Posted March 2, 2012 Posted March 2, 2012 The relief is likely because he had been unhappy for awhile and weighing the decision to end the relationship. Most people do wonder if they made the right decision at one point or another, but they can weigh the good and the bad and decide whether or not they want to try again. Unless the issues that plagued the past relationship are fixed, a new one will follow the same path.
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 2, 2012 Posted March 2, 2012 The more time goes by, the more detached he will feel. Most men are "out of sight, out of mind" people. It doesn't mean you can force anything by contact either...
Jono85 Posted March 2, 2012 Posted March 2, 2012 as a guy who's dumped a couple girls, it will be way harder imo if you cut him off cold turkey. don't talk to him, be his friend. give him the gift of missing you.
Author loveisagame Posted March 2, 2012 Author Posted March 2, 2012 as a guy who's dumped a couple girls, it will be way harder imo if you cut him off cold turkey. don't talk to him, be his friend. give him the gift of missing you. Thank you for all of your replies. I don't understand the "don't talk to him, be his friend." part. If you could enlighten me a bit more on this, I'd really appreciate it.
Jono85 Posted March 2, 2012 Posted March 2, 2012 Thank you for all of your replies. I don't understand the "don't talk to him, be his friend." part. If you could enlighten me a bit more on this, I'd really appreciate it. sorry, i should have used an "or" in place of the comma. don't talk to him or be his friend. you won't have to heal, or miss you, if you keep talking to him. when he realizes you're getting over him, and not msging him, or even msging him back, he'll start feeling the seriousness of you not being a part of his life anymore. i'm not saying he'll want you back, but it won't set in until then.
Author loveisagame Posted March 2, 2012 Author Posted March 2, 2012 Thank you for all of your replies. If anybody has other opinion to give me. I'd appreciate it.
CaliBabe Posted March 2, 2012 Posted March 2, 2012 I agree with Yukon. He might feel the need to experience more life, more women, more time with friends. Either way it goes, this is also your time too to the do the exact same thing. We are young, live it up! Meet new people. This guy might end up not being the one for you anyway. Be strong and enjoy your new found singleness.
Author loveisagame Posted March 3, 2012 Author Posted March 3, 2012 No. This is how we learn in life. If you were his 'first love' he needs to experience more in life. This is how we grow and finally figure out what we want in life. A young woman might feel terrible if her boyfriend moved on...but, as difficult as it is, don't assume that there is something wrong with yourself. It's in part just the nature of younger guys still learning about life. He did have other previous serious relationships, but he never really loved them. So, I don't know about "experiencing more women".
twinkles Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 He may regret it one day but just not today. Maybe when someone dumps him he'll have a look back. He says he likes his freedom then give it to him. No contact. None! If he found it easy to give up your love he doesn't deserve it. Close the back door and open the front door..love is waiting for you.
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