rose45 Posted March 2, 2012 Share Posted March 2, 2012 I met someone from online about two weeks ago. We were speaking for about two weeks prior to meeting as well so i felt comfortable. The date went well but we live far apart. It doesn't seem to be an issue; we both aren't complaining and just seem to be thinking about working around it. Everything seems to be comfortable right now. On the first date I wore a black skirt(about knee length), black top that showed a little cleavage and a cardigan with boots. It's one of my favorite outfits and most slimming outfit since I am trying to lose weight and honestly I don't have alot of good "date" clothes right now. I don't have a good pair of jeans I can just throw on. I am going to be visiting him for the weekend..heading up there for one night. So i was actually thinking of wearing the same outfit since it's been about two weeks. Is it weird to wear that outfit for a date to eat dinner at his place and watch movie--obviously there will be some cuddeling etc (nothing r rated just fyi) A friend mentioned how it's not comfortable clothes and I do agree with that in the sense but it's my most flattering outfit. I don't want him to think i am weird for dressing up to watch a movie but i also don't want to wear a pair unflattering jeans because I can't find any that i think look good on me to be honest. I will also be bringing pj's and more comfortable clothes of course since I am staying over due to us living far. What does everyone think? I know not a major problem but i like him and want this to continue. Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted March 2, 2012 Share Posted March 2, 2012 What part of your body do you want to camouflage? Fat belly? Fat butt? Maybe a tunic top over jeans would hide either of those conditions. Bring attention to your face with bright necklace, scarf or earrings. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rose45 Posted March 2, 2012 Author Share Posted March 2, 2012 i don't have any good jeans right now, that's the problem. Jeans just aren't working for me right now and I don't like leggings or tights etc. I think they make me look curvier. I think the skirt boots look just automatically slims you down a little or atleast for me it does but is it weird to wear this for dinner at his place and a movie? it will obviously make lounging and cuddeling a little difficult but i will also bring my pj's for later Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted March 2, 2012 Share Posted March 2, 2012 A long denim or casual skirt with boots would work. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rose45 Posted March 2, 2012 Author Share Posted March 2, 2012 so is the outfit i described ok or weird b/c we will obviously be watching a movie and probably trying to atleast be comfortable and cuddle the skirt i have is black, a little above the knee and the material hugs the body in a good way, black top that shows cleavage which may even make it seem like it's a black dress and a blue cardigan butted up a little with black boots. Is it going to ruin things or make things weird when i show up in a skirt? I will have more lounge type clothes for later though my friend said it just seems weird to be hanging around there in a skirt or dress when it's not summer Link to post Share on other sites
Author rose45 Posted March 2, 2012 Author Share Posted March 2, 2012 bump.....any thoughts...? Link to post Share on other sites
LadyGrey Posted March 2, 2012 Share Posted March 2, 2012 Why not go to a 2nd hand store and find you a pair of jeans and pair it with a nice shirt/blouse? Since it's a home movie, I would think jeans would be more comfortable. Hope your date is enjoyable! Link to post Share on other sites
SCandy Posted March 2, 2012 Share Posted March 2, 2012 Jeans no good, wear something soft to the touch. Link to post Share on other sites
maybealone Posted March 2, 2012 Share Posted March 2, 2012 Wasn't there an entire Seinfeld episode devoted to a woman that seemed to wear only one outfit? I know guys aren't known for noticing a lot about clothes, but I think he could notice that you have the exact same outfit on. Especially since it isn't really a stay-at-home kind of outfit. I would go to thrift stores and look for a comfortable denim skirt, and maybe a new top to wear. And since it is a stay-at-home night, you could find jeans that are suitable and pair them with something comfortable like a hooded sweatshirt that would look comfortable and hide flaws. Or find some black pants to pair with a sweater and your boots to take advantage of the slimming effects of black while looking and being more comfortable. And while shopping, remember that he isn't going to be anywhere near as critical of your body as you are. Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted March 2, 2012 Share Posted March 2, 2012 How about a long lounging dress, something you wouldn't necessarily wear out but would be comfortable at home. Or a kimono or lounging pajamas that have wide legs and are kind of silky looking. Link to post Share on other sites
make me believe Posted March 2, 2012 Share Posted March 2, 2012 Nonononono! Don't wear the same outfit!!! He will remember! He's only seen you twice, and both times you are wearing the exact same thing? Yeah, he'll notice. True story, I once met a guy at a bar, hung out for the night, exchanged numbers & texted for a few days after that but then lost contact. MONTHS later we got into contact again, and when we hung out for the first time I decided to be clever and wear the same outfit I had been wearing when I met him, because he had complimented the outfit a couple of times. Well, to my shock, HE REMEMBERED that I had been wearing that same thing, and I was totally embarrassed. lol. I thought I was being so smart, but no. Anyway, there's nothing wrong with wearing a skirt + boots combo again, but does it have to be the exact same skirt + boots? I don't think it's weird to wear a casual skirt or dress to have dinner & watch a movie at his place. I'm sure you'll look cute and he'll appreciate the effort. I just think it should be a DIFFERENT skirt than the one you wore on your first date. Or at least a different top, and then instead of the boots throw on a pair of shoes to change it up. (A casual sandal would dress down the outfit & make it different than the first one.) Link to post Share on other sites
SCandy Posted March 2, 2012 Share Posted March 2, 2012 Also, don't forget, not to wear any underwear, for easy access at the movie watching event. Link to post Share on other sites
PrincessPeach Posted March 2, 2012 Share Posted March 2, 2012 I would wear something different for sure. If you wear the same skirt, that's probably okay, but wear it with a different top. I was talking to one of the guys at my work the other day, and he said that he only wears two or three different pairs of pants to work, ever. He just mixes up his shirt, tie and little pocket-napkin thingy in his jacket (I'm sure it has an actual name). I'd never noticed that he only wore the same few pairs of pants until he'd said so. Most pants and such are not extremely distinct from each other, especially if it's just one solid color. the shirt is a lot closer to the face, which is where we look most often. so changing your top can give the appearance of wearing a different outfit each day. So wear the same skirt, he probably won't notice, but if he does, at least it shouldn't be the exact same outfit. As far a shoes, I usually take them off when I go inside anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
shorty7 Posted March 2, 2012 Share Posted March 2, 2012 i don't have any good jeans right now, that's the problem. Jeans just aren't working for me right now and I don't like leggings or tights etc. I think they make me look curvier. So PLAY those curves out!!! I work retail, and I can't even BEGIN how jealous I am of girls who've got curves that can make them look soooooooooooooo pretty in the right kind of pants. If you're still not comfortable with the jeans, I'd recommend a maxi skirt like this one: MAXI SKIRT at Express It's soft to the touch, covers but gives enough contour to spark the imagination, and it is SUPER DUPER comfortable. Definitely recommended for inside lounge-around-the-house-comfortably-but-I-still-want-to-look-cute dates. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
maybealone Posted March 2, 2012 Share Posted March 2, 2012 So PLAY those curves out!!! I work retail, and I can't even BEGIN how jealous I am of girls who've got curves that can make them look soooooooooooooo pretty in the right kind of pants. That made me think of something else: If you have a little extra money, go to a store with salespeople that help and have them help you find the right jeans. I know you are losing weight, but even spending $50 or $60 on one pair of jeans is worth it, if you can afford it, since you will probably get a lot of use out of them until you are down another size. There definitely is a perfect pair of jeans out there for everyone. And if you don't have the money, you could still try some on, get some tips from the salespeople, and then hit the thrift stores. (FYI, my perfect jeans are Gap Long & Lean jeans, and I have found them at thrift stores for $6.) If skirts are still better for you, I like that Maxi Skirt posted above and I still like the idea of a denim skirt. Link to post Share on other sites
P.f.f Posted March 5, 2012 Share Posted March 5, 2012 Hey, I know how it feels to have the one right outfit but I'm sure u have many other that look good on you, I wouldn't wear the same outfit for second date max if u really want wear the skirt but with a different top most man won't notice,but if u go for diner and movie at his place u don't need to dress up so much just wear something nice and casual , I saw u say u don't have a nice pair of jeans so what u can do is wear black leggings with a nice top, then u look hot without trying! If u want to see more fashion looks for dates u can visit my fashion blog- Passion for Fashion: what and where to wear - your look guide. Hope you have fun Link to post Share on other sites
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