badabing Posted March 2, 2012 Posted March 2, 2012 My girlfriend told me she needed a break to figure things out and needed space. This after we talked about having kids and marriage. She also said that if we are meant to be together we will work it out. Its been 3 weeks of NC but she does txt me the odd time and I respond but keep it short. Here is my problem her 42nd Birthday is coming up next week so do I break NC or keep it going?? Would it hurt my chances if I don't contact her on her Birthday?? We have been together 9 months.
mike588 Posted March 2, 2012 Posted March 2, 2012 My girlfriend told me she needed a break to figure things out and needed space. This after we talked about having kids and marriage. She also said that if we are meant to be together we will work it out. Its been 3 weeks of NC but she does txt me the odd time and I respond but keep it short. Here is my problem her 42nd Birthday is coming up next week so do I break NC or keep it going?? Would it hurt my chances if I don't contact her on her Birthday?? We have been together 9 months. I assume you still want her back? If so DO NOT CONTACT HER!! Sorry to say but when someone says they "want a break" if usually means that there is someone else involved and/or...it's over! I too agonized over contacting my ex. with a short....Happy Birthday email....just to let her know I was still thinking about her...that I cared...Thank God I didn't!!!!!!! I'm also 42 and so was she..I heard the same thing...I just need some time...I need a break....well there was someone else...her ex. Please do NOT break contact! I followed the N.C. rule and 6 months later she contacts me with sorrys....regrets ect. Shes keeping you as a backup and your falling for it....Don't do it!!
Chi townD Posted March 2, 2012 Posted March 2, 2012 I agree with Mike. A lot of the time (not all the time) if a person needs "a break or space" means that there's someone else and they don't want you around to run interference. And if it doesn't work out, your the back-up plan! Also, if you do get back together and you find out that there was someone else well...you can't get mad because "we weren't together, WE WERE ON A BREAK!" Don't you love technicalities!!!!!
mike588 Posted March 2, 2012 Posted March 2, 2012 She's most likely expecting to hear from you on her Birthday....surprise her...make her wonder/worry why you haven't. Don't worry..it's not going to push her further away like Ohhhh he doesn't care for me anymore..it will only spark her curiousity. Try it...you have NOTHING to lose!!!!! Been there done that!
Author badabing Posted March 2, 2012 Author Posted March 2, 2012 She's most likely expecting to hear from you on her Birthday....surprise her...make her wonder/worry why you haven't. Don't worry..it's not going to push her further away like Ohhhh he doesn't care for me anymore..it will only spark her curiousity. Try it...you have NOTHING to lose!!!!! Been there done that! Well I hope you are right!! I had a very romantic night planned for her we were together for most of the year and this would have been her first Birthday since we started seeing each other. She won't think he doesn't care anymore?
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