chelsea2011 Posted March 2, 2012 Posted March 2, 2012 (edited) Finally! I was in a massive funk since Valentines Day and I'm coming out of it! Whew. I've also figured a few things out and I am happy to say that I am confident that ALL of the decisions I've made regarding relationships are right for me. You know what's really nice? I finally feel free for the first time in a looooong time. When I walked out of LTR over 4 years ago, it was the BEST decision I've ever made. It's been a bumpy roller coaster ride in a lot of ways, but it forced me to face my demons and finally let go of relationships and friendships that were simply not healthy for me. I'm free now to focus on what *I* want in life and even though I'm still in a little funk, it feels liberating. Just remember, if something doesn't feel right to you and staying means you have to compromise the core of who you are, then it's okay to walk away. It might make people angry, but you know what?...if it's not right for you, it's not right...that's all. Don't worry about what they might say to make themselves feel better because in the end, if staying wasn't right, then walking away was the best for everyone involved. They may never really "see" their role in it and that doesn't matter either as long as you understand and accept yours. Best wishes everyone! I hope you all find peace and the happiness you are looking for. Edited March 2, 2012 by chelsea2011
Mack05 Posted March 2, 2012 Posted March 2, 2012 Just remember, if something doesn't feel right to you and staying means you have to compromise the core of who you are, then it's okay to walk away. It might make people angry, but you know what?...if it's not right for you, it's not right...that's all. Don't worry about what they might say to make themselves feel better because in the end, if staying wasn't right, then walking away was the best for everyone involved. They may never really "see" their role in it and that doesn't matter either as long as you understand and accept yours. Very wise words Chelsea and I am sure many on this site will reasonate with them. I think once you make your mind up to leave a relationship, you need to firm and decisive in your decision..Congrats on making such great progress..
Author chelsea2011 Posted March 2, 2012 Author Posted March 2, 2012 I'm feeling even stronger today. I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off of my shoulders...amazing! Now I know what oppressed people in third world countries feel like (can't get into details about why...just have trust me on this one). There were certain things in my most recent relationship experience that were NOT NORMAL and now I have to unravel how and why I let it happen. :\ And more importantly, I would need insurance that those things are not a part of who he really is before I would ever speak to or let him in my life again! I would be crazy to consider otherwise.
Author chelsea2011 Posted March 8, 2012 Author Posted March 8, 2012 I took a major nose dive back into "the funk" this past weekend, but I think it's all good now. I think, this time, we will both be able to move on. That's good right? We were both at an impasse that we couldn't realistically do anything about, so I think it will be good for both of us. Can you tell I'm finally getting over the hurt? like I said, "its all good!"
Author chelsea2011 Posted March 8, 2012 Author Posted March 8, 2012 You are back!!! Yes, I am. Just tryin to get perspective...ya know?
Author chelsea2011 Posted March 9, 2012 Author Posted March 9, 2012 I am finally at a point where my issues with him not being in my life anymore are gone. I'm having no reaction at all. It feels great! I don't care what he thinks or what he is doing! Question. Does anyone know how to figure out if someone is hacking into your email?
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