Chi townD Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 Well I would have preferred she didnt like the thought of me with someone else but Ill take making her night uncomfortable as a consolidation. LOL. childish I know . As for him doing the alpha male subtle finger in my chest thing. Well i would love to see him crash and burn. I hate cocky dudes. especially when Im the object of it. Have to admit he was very smooth about it. His rep is that dont even try to play that game with him its his stock and trade. smile while he is carving u up and you wont even know what he is up to. lol. Yeah, but you saw right through his cocky demeanor and didn't buy into it, and even your date saw right through it too. Which only made made you come off as a real man that doesn't play stupid games and him come off as a complete ass. So, mission fail for Top Gun. Plus, I have to ask, was your date hotter than your Ex?
Author tgr172 Posted March 6, 2012 Author Posted March 6, 2012 I dont know if she saw through it or not. He comes across as sooo nice and friendly. like I said its his stock and trade. I really think she saw him as super confident and incontrol. And I wouldnt be suprised if she did happen to see through it she would have held him in higher esteem for it. Yes she was way hotter. But not my type. I will admit after 5 yrs my ex jusst does it for me. I think she knows that I have it for her. Its what I made sure I did during our relationship... made her know that she was it and there is no other that does it.... I am WIRED for her. so I dont think she felt really threatoned. unfortunatly.
Chi townD Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 She saw you out on the town with a smokin hot chick. She didn't set you up on that date, you did! AND a smokin hot chick accepted your invitation. She now knows that you CAN pull some girls and ones that are more attractive than her! You seriously need to stop selling yourself short! You've got low self esteem and you act that it was inevitable that she would go back to her Ex because he's charming and handsome and a smooth talk where as you make yourself out as some kind of troll. DUDE!!! Stop selling yourself short. You didn't need to steal someone else's girl, the douche rocket did. ANd she allowed it to happen and she let a good guy go. And after she saw you out with a hottie, she might be thinking that.
Author tgr172 Posted March 6, 2012 Author Posted March 6, 2012 You are right Chi. I have been down on myself. Do feel like a looser to a guy that just shows up and pow she runs back. Confidence level is low. If very curious in that I never had that problem. Even do you believe it scheduled myself to get my droopy eyelids fixed . silly.
mike588 Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 You are right Chi. I have been down on myself. Do feel like a looser to a guy that just shows up and pow she runs back. Confidence level is low. If very curious in that I never had that problem. Even do you believe it scheduled myself to get my droopy eyelids fixed . silly. Funny you mention droopy eyelids. My ex. had that done..I stayed with her and took care of her for a week. As soon as she was healed....didn't need my help anymore she dumped me.
mike588 Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 She went running back to her ex. too. I know how much it hurts.
M2155 Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 Wow we could tell you anything you want to hear but I'm not sure any of this matters! I take it he knows about you? (I don't remember from the OP). If he didnt really know this is my ex BF so and so... Sounds like he was just marking his territory. I don't know the guy, as you say he may just be a friendly charismatic guy. I know some of those, they talk to everybody like a new friend. I agree with your ex being uncomfortable. I was uncomfortable reading it! I get going to briefly say hello but staying to chat a bit sounds awkward, I would have been cordial and then said well enjoy yourself (or something to shoo you off). Sounds like more than anything she didn't want him to think she was affected or remotely interested. As to her seeing you with someone else, no woman likes that. But if she is maintaining her non-interest and non-availability in you, then it's to her advantage that you have moved on and he doesn't have to worry about her. I'm sure it would be muchmore fun for him to know/see you were still pining over her.
Author tgr172 Posted March 7, 2012 Author Posted March 7, 2012 M I think you may have something. He is the type of guy you said but its what he does and also sort of uses it to his advantage . I knew about that from mutual aquantences. You also hit it... I think that he was marking his territory. and im sure he was very into knowing I was still pining although I tried to noyt show it. Probably should have introduced myself and moved away. The more I think about it she did seem very dismissive almost like I was her enemy or not interested in ever seeing me ever. huge switch from only a month ago where you are the only guy I am in love with. I myself cant turn the switch that fast... thats what has me so in a funk. I go back and forth about it just being an act or whether she really does see me as a problem. mind you I havent even seen her in 6 weeks and only talked once. Really hurts . and I hate the whole mess.
Author tgr172 Posted March 8, 2012 Author Posted March 8, 2012 Man mornings are the worst. Thats when I wake up and realize it is over. Gets better throughout the day. Have lost 15 lbs in a month... Im 6'1" and normally 195. not fat and now Im 180... bones are showing. I just dont feel hungry. Been downing Muscle Milk and Ensures. Beautiful day yesterday and went to one of our spots on the inlet to have a beer, a few steamed clams, relax and watch the sunset. No one was outside and I just had to leave before I could finish. I dont think I can ever go there again. THIS SUCKS!!! How can someone say they love you one day and the next be so pissed and disillusioned that they have turned off the switch and move on within a few days? ARGHHHH! 1
CaliBabe Posted March 8, 2012 Posted March 8, 2012 Gosh tgr172, I feel your pain. It's freaking heart crushing. But you are going out, and your trying, that counts for something! Keep doing that, the only thing that will honestly help is time. And possibly a new person to occupy your time. (That's probably not politically correct to say). But it does help. Anyhow, give yourself some time to heal. Go out, do things, hang with friends, meet new people, travel, learn, just really nuture yourself during these times. With each passing day it will get more managable. We're rooting for ya! 1
Author tgr172 Posted March 10, 2012 Author Posted March 10, 2012 Went out for happy hour last nightand they were there together. I decided I am not changing my routine and stayed but didnt acknowlege them and vice versa. However we knew each was there, It ripps my heart out seeing her there happy at our place communicating and so in love with her ex husband doing what we use to do. Everybody there knew what was going on. This time I waved off my date so as not to make some sort of issue. She just seemed so happy and I know it is over really over. I was told it is empowering for her knowing what it does to me but she makes a point of feeling sorry for me. Which makes me feel even more emasculated and small. Of course he was very nonchalunt. After they left of course I got all the usual sympathy etc from our friends made it even worse. I wasnt even showing any hurt and was chatting with other people. Woke up this morning and kept playing the picture over and over again. Seeing her so bold with him and not even being discrete. Almost like ha ha. Been crying all day. Im on here because I really have no one to share these feelings with. I know I should avoid any thing or place where they go but that is my social network. I just feel so damn lost not having my companion of 5 years with me .
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