PlumPrincess Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 I want pictures. I'm bored with posters coming here whining that despite being so hot, great, beautiful, whatever, nobody approaches them. Let my eyes take in your beauty and I will tell you what your problem is. 2
fishtaco Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 Then the problem is probably mentality. My expectations of men are different than other women who have evolved to think in this "modern" way. As a result, men have adapted to this way of thinking which renders my own very different. But that doesn't mean i'm wrong. It just means i'm not "up-to-date" and the truth is I wouldn't want to be. Well, I believe it's not even an issue of "modern". You want alpha men to hit on you by smiling three times at them. Do you know how many other women are smiling three times as well? The alpha men will have their pick of who they want to approach. How are your three smiles better than someone else's three smiles. This is called competition, it existed even before humans were around -- which male/female of your species do you choose to mate with. It's not "modern". It's nature. If all you want to do is sit around and smile three times, then you better make sure those three smiles are better than other women's whole repertoire of flirting it up. Because many women, will do more than smile three times.
somedude81 Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 I want pictures. I'm bored with posters coming here whining that despite being so hot, great, beautiful, whatever, nobody approaches them. Let my eyes take in your beauty and I will tell you what your problem is. You first. I've always wondered what fruit royalty looks like
PlumPrincess Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 You first. I've always wondered what fruit royalty looks like I never claim that despite being so hot I don't get any dates or that people are too intimidated to approach me. 2
fortyninethousand322 Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 I want pictures. I'm bored with posters coming here whining that despite being so hot, great, beautiful, whatever, nobody approaches them. Let my eyes take in your beauty and I will tell you what your problem is. What if the pictures aren't "good quality"?
ivalm Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 Pictures add a hundred pounds, right? She isn't really morbidly obese.. it's just the damn camera pounds:) On the other hand, form SoCal experience, even moderately cute girls get hit on a lot... To not be hit on means the girl does something wrong. Also, reciprocity is important, although I think sometimes it's hard for girls. I've had a couple of times when I would hit on a girl, she would give me only one word replies, I would quickly move on assuming that she isn't interested. The girl would then approach me later on but when I tried talking to her she would once again give one word replies. Maybe some guys can work with that but I can't, and, more importantly, talking to them becomes laborious and not fun so I back away, even if she looks cute.
mesmerized Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 Pictures add a hundred pounds, right? She isn't really morbidly obese.. it's just the damn camera pounds:) On the other hand, form SoCal experience, even moderately cute girls get hit on a lot... To not be hit on means the girl does something wrong. Also, reciprocity is important, although I think sometimes it's hard for girls. I've had a couple of times when I would hit on a girl, she would give me only one word replies, I would quickly move on assuming that she isn't interested. The girl would then approach me later on but when I tried talking to her she would once again give one word replies. Maybe some guys can work with that but I can't, and, more importantly, talking to them becomes laborious and not fun so I back away, even if she looks cute. Here is not like this, trust me. I had an Australian guy once telling me in a club: "What's wrong with the men here? They walk and look at people like they're better than all of them, even the average looking guys!" He was amazed at how guys acted stuck up, even when they were not that attractive. I see women approaching men here as much as men approaching women if not more. The only time when men loosen up and start to talk to women is after 2:30 when bars are closed and they are extremely drunk and desperate for sex. 1
Woggle Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 Believe it or not men don't always go out with the intention of getting women. We sometimes like to hang out with the guys and have a good time and if we say hello to the wrong woman and get chewed out for daring to think we have a chance with such a goddess it can ruin our mood for the night. Also men care much more about personality than women think and no matter how attractive a woman is if she is giving off a certain vibe many men will not approach.
ThaWholigan Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 Here is not like this, trust me. I had an Australian guy once telling me in a club: "What's wrong with the men here? They walk and look at people like they're better than all of them, even the average looking guys!" He was amazed at how guys acted stuck up, even when they were not that attractive. I see women approaching men here as much as men approaching women if not more. The only time when men loosen up and start to talk to women is after 2:30 when bars are closed and they are extremely drunk and desperate for sex. Trust me, it's not because their stuck up . I remember going to a rave in Bedford with one of my brothers a while back - we got shot down so many times it wasn't funny . All the guys there who didn't come with their GF had to make do with dancing by themselves. In the end we ended up jumping in the car, smoking lots of weed and drove home just before the rave ended. Some men HATE getting shut down - I used to hate it too, now not so much. It's an issue of making oneself attractive at the end of the day, and being able to engage a woman more easily.
Shaun-Dro Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 Ugh. Either i'm not obvious enough or i'm too obvious. It shouldn't be up to the girl. And it pisses me off that a woman has to make the approach happen. That's not how it's supposed to work. But I get it now. Successful women have it the hardest cuz men are pussies. I can't find another word for it. I was watching an interview with Charlize Theron the other day, and she is GORGEOUS, and beautiful and successful and all the amazing things you can think of. You know what she said in the interview? "I can't find a boyfriend. I'm so alone all the time". BAM. There you go. I guarantee you that there's plenty of men asking her out and she's saying no to each of them because she's waiting for an unrealistic perfect mate.
Oxy Moronovich Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 Here is not like this, trust me. I had an Australian guy once telling me in a club: "What's wrong with the men here? They walk and look at people like they're better than all of them, even the average looking guys!" He was amazed at how guys acted stuck up, even when they were not that attractive. I see women approaching men here as much as men approaching women if not more. The only time when men loosen up and start to talk to women is after 2:30 when bars are closed and they are extremely drunk and desperate for sex. mesmerized, your posts confuse me. Are you in Canada, U.S., Europe, where? In every post your in some different part of the world.
verhrzn Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 I want pictures. I'm bored with posters coming here whining that despite being so hot, great, beautiful, whatever, nobody approaches them. Let my eyes take in your beauty and I will tell you what your problem is. Ya never told me...
Imported Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 Here is not like this, trust me. I had an Australian guy once telling me in a club: "What's wrong with the men here? They walk and look at people like they're better than all of them, even the average looking guys!" He was amazed at how guys acted stuck up, even when they were not that attractive. I see women approaching men here as much as men approaching women if not more. The only time when men loosen up and start to talk to women is after 2:30 when bars are closed and they are extremely drunk and desperate for sex. That one Australian dude you met in a bar even said so, so it must be true.
mesmerized Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 That one Australian dude you met in a bar even said so, so it must be true. He is not the only one. What I meant was that it's not only observed by us supposedly bitter women, even men, specially the ones who didn't grow up here observe it and agree with it. 1
musemaj11 Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 Anyway, women are socialized to believe they'll have less success if they approach -- overall success, in terms of forming a real relationship -- so you do see some women who will approach for hookups but not if they actually like a guy, etc. This is all socialization more than success, IMO. Just because 50 guys ask a girl out doesn't mean she won't ask the 1 guy she is interested in out if he's not coming over---in fact, I think she's more likely to if she IS approached often. Thats the biggest difference between men and women. If a man were pursued by A, B, C while he is interested in D instead, he would ignore A, B, C and go after D instead. On the other hand, if a woman were pursued by A, B, C while she is interested in D instead, she would rather choose to settle with either A, B, or C even if she didn't like any of them rather than making an effort to go after D. 1
SincereOnlineGuy Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 Last edited by LoveShack.org Moderator; 3rd March 2012 at 3:20 PM.. If the moderator didn't cut out the part about your unbuttoning a few buttons on your top, then that's something you could have tried.
Woggle Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 He is not the only one. What I meant was that it's not only observed by us supposedly bitter women, even men, specially the ones who didn't grow up here observe it and agree with it. Many men bash other men in order to flirt with women. All other men are losers and he is great. That might be what this guy was doing.
Titania22 Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 Thats the biggest difference between men and women. If a man were pursued by A, B, C while he is interested in D instead, he would ignore A, B, C and go after D instead. On the other hand, if a woman were pursued by A, B, C while she is interested in D instead, she would rather choose to settle with either A, B, or C even if she didn't like any of them rather than making an effort to go after D. That's just not true, at least in my case. I have a habit of going full force after D, until i know absolutely that I have no chance. And in the meantime A, B and C make me think being single isn't so bad. My biggest problem is when I am not even making an effort to meet the A's B's and C's, and sit at home feeling sad that I am single.
Oxy Moronovich Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 He is not the only one. What I meant was that it's not only observed by us supposedly bitter women, even men, specially the ones who didn't grow up here observe it and agree with it. He seems to have overlooked the fact that there are women in Australia like Titania who complain about men in their country too.
Author FrustratedStandards Posted March 6, 2012 Author Posted March 6, 2012 I guarantee you that there's plenty of men asking her out and she's saying no to each of them because she's waiting for an unrealistic perfect mate. lol Won't lie, that's part of the problem. Not PERFECT, but yes, I have very high standards. To most it's "unrealistic" but to me it isn't, because I expect in a man all the things that I am myself. Unrealistic would be to expect what I can't offer myself, or expect things in which I cannot measure up to. But like i've mentioned before, I measure up to the kind of man I want. Problem is, I can't find him. Rather, he can't find me Thats the biggest difference between men and women. If a man were pursued by A, B, C while he is interested in D instead, he would ignore A, B, C and go after D instead. On the other hand, if a woman were pursued by A, B, C while she is interested in D instead, she would rather choose to settle with either A, B, or C even if she didn't like any of them rather than making an effort to go after D. Not all women, but yes, the majority I would say. I am one of those women. Cuz last time I checked, men were the hunters.
somedude81 Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 lol Won't lie, that's part of the problem. Not PERFECT, but yes, I have very high standards. To most it's "unrealistic" but to me it isn't, because I expect in a man all the things that I am myself. Unrealistic would be to expect what I can't offer myself, or expect things in which I cannot measure up to. But like i've mentioned before, I measure up to the kind of man I want. Problem is, I can't find him. Rather, he can't find me I'd say your standards are so high...it's frustrated you 1
Woggle Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 Not all men are hunters and some women are. In America I thought he did away with strict gender roles. 1
Author FrustratedStandards Posted March 6, 2012 Author Posted March 6, 2012 Not all men are hunters and some women are. In America I thought he did away with strict gender roles. A woman a hunter? Eek. Well I won't settle for a man who isn't a hunter. And that's not just about his approach to women. It shows his character; that he's a man who knows what he wants and goes for it. This overlaps into many aspects such as career and achieving goals. That's the kind of man that I want. That's why for me shyness is the biggest turnoff of all. And that's not "strict gender roles". That's biology.
Woggle Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 A woman a hunter? Eek. Well I won't settle for a man who isn't a hunter. And that's not just about his approach to women. It shows his character; that he's a man who knows what he wants and goes for it. This overlaps into many aspects such as career and achieving goals. That's the kind of man that I want. That's why for me shyness is the biggest turnoff of all. And that's not "strict gender roles". That's biology. I am sort of that kind of man but I am not going to twist myself in knots chasing after a woman. She wants me or she doesn't
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