Conclusion: Men really are strange

[2sunny]

People transmit energy... That could be the problem.

 

Even a smile can't cover up a man hater - no matter how horny she is... They can smell it and feel your hatred of them from far away.

[Ross MwcFan]

People transmit energy... That could be the problem.

 

Even a smile can't cover up a man hater - no matter how horny she is... They can smell it and feel your hatred of them from far away.

 

Yeah, I'd say those guys certainly had a lucky escape.

[stillafool]

Honey, maybe you arent as hot to trot as you think. You think guys in a bar look at you and think "hey...look at her...she seems successful...ewww I dont want her"..?

 

 

 

 

:laugh::lmao:

[PlumPrincess]

Ugh. Either i'm not obvious enough or i'm too obvious. It shouldn't be up to the girl. And it pisses me off that a woman has to make the approach happen. That's not how it's supposed to work.

 

But I get it now. Successful women have it the hardest cuz men are pussies. I can't find another word for it. I was watching an interview with Charlize Theron the other day, and she is GORGEOUS, and beautiful and successful and all the amazing things you can think of.

 

You know what she said in the interview? "I can't find a boyfriend. I'm so alone all the time".

 

BAM. There you go.

Are you comparing yourself to Charlize Theron?

[oaks]

One man approached me after I had to smile at him a total of THREE TIMES before he got the frickin hint, but even after that he only introduced himself, told me where he worked and then said "come visit me sometime" and that was the end of it. I've never even heard of the place and he didn't bother mentioning where it was.

 

That was the end of it? Did you just walk away?

 

Tell me about the part where you said to him "I haven't heard of that place. Where is it?"

 

oh.

[Like Monster]

Maybe if you cared more about being Liked like I do, then people would actually tell you that they Like you!

 

By giving you Likes! Mmm, Likes.

[kaylan]

I never buy women drinks either, unless they are my friends, or we're on a date. I don't shell out money just because I think some woman is attractive. That's called attempting to buy face time with money.

 

If she would only talk to me if I buy her drinks, that's a woman I'm not interested in associating with. If she would talk to me even if I don't buy her drinks, then there's no problem there, why buy drinks?

 

Spot on. Exactly how I feel. But I will trade buying drinks with a really cool gal. We'd have to had really hit it off before hand for me to offer her a drink when I went to get myself something...like after dancing and making out haha. At that point shes prolly already met my friends and become a part of the circle for the night...so I end up treating her like one of the gang.

[Untouchable_Fire]

I've gone up to women who I thought were interested before and they acted annoyed when I talked to them. Found out later they were trashing me after I walked away.

I don't care that some people don't like because that happens. I just feel like it's a waste of time that I could spend doing other more pleasant things.

 

I had that happen, but only when I was in highschool. Once I hit college I never had any issues like this... and I didn't let the ones from the past hold me back.

 

I have found that people who learn from mistakes and never give up are the ones who consistently triumph in life!

 

That's low. I can't believe people like this exist. Trust me, it had nothing to do with you. She did it just to make herself feel better. Please don't let this affect your confidence. I f*ckn hate women like that. Makes it harder on the rest of us.

 

I hate to say this, but if you come onto a guy and seem to desperate... they will be just as quick to trash you.

 

I think the key is to NOT act desperate... ever.

[shorty7]

Spot on. Exactly how I feel. But I will trade buying drinks with a really cool gal. We'd have to had really hit it off before hand for me to offer her a drink when I went to get myself something...like after dancing and making out haha. At that point shes prolly already met my friends and become a part of the circle for the night...so I end up treating her like one of the gang.

 

Guys also ask "hey, can I buy you a drink?" because it's common sense and polite to do so, too. I don't know what gals think nowadays but I blame the media for too many images of Eva Mendez, Jennifer Anniston and the like in all the stereotypical romantic comedy movies randomly being sent drinks by some cute guys in the corner of a bar just because they were there. I know I'd be freaked out if some guys just randomly sent me a drink.

[joystickd]

LMAO this thread is hilarious. Three bitter women on here worse than the guys. Great entertainment!

[lino]

Considering your posting history and gems like this:

 

' Seriously? You have to keep up? Is he a man or what?

 

Last time I checked, when people were serious about each other, they didn't keep their finances so separate. Everyone on LS knows that i'm all about the man paying. He pays for dates, he pays for you when you need some financial help, and he definitely needs to make more.

 

It's called help your f*cking girlfriend out you cheap ass. He doesn't have to pay for you entirely, because travelling is expensive. But goddamit if you're working your ass off and still can't afford, the least he can do is pitch in a little. And i'm sure you're both smart enough to travel economically. There are ways you can save without spending a whole lot of money. Backpackers do it for goodness' sake.

 

I'm sorry, but I would never date a man like this. He has assets, and can make enough for a lifetime by selling one house, yet his poor girlfriend needs to catch up so he can take her on a trip?

 

Gross. '

 

 

It really baffles me as to why blokes don't approach you.

[kaylan]

Guys also ask "hey, can I buy you a drink?" because it's common sense and polite to do so, too. I don't know what gals think nowadays but I blame the media for too many images of Eva Mendez, Jennifer Anniston and the like in all the stereotypical romantic comedy movies randomly being sent drinks by some cute guys in the corner of a bar just because they were there. I know I'd be freaked out if some guys just randomly sent me a drink.

Lmao...common sense to buy drinks? Haha yeah for scrubs who waste their money. Its totally unnecessary to buy a girl a drink that you dont even know. In my experience, as well as many guys I know, if a girl likes you, she likes you. Not offering her a drink isnt going to change that. The same way offering her a drink wont all of a sudden make her like you if she already didnt.

 

If the girls attracted to you, thats most of the battle right there...the rest is talking to her and not coming off as a creeper.

 

Ive done just fine in my life meeting girls when Im out...and Ive never bought some random chick a drink. How about she buy me one first...then Ill return the favor.

[shorty7]

Lmao...common sense to buy drinks? Haha yeah for scrubs who waste their money. Its totally unnecessary to buy a girl a drink that you dont even know.

 

I apologize for the poor wording, you're absolutely correct. What I meant was, it's "polite" to "ask" before doing so.

 

Like I said, I'd be freaked out if a total stranger offered me drinks for no reason, I can't see why OP would feel entitled to that scenario.

 

I'm serious when I say I think some girls watch (and believe) waaaayyyyyyy too many romantic comedy movies/sitcoms and take them for relationship bibles. *shudder*

 

Now if two people were able to hold an enjoyable conversation for say, 15 minutes, I would think a drink would be optional as long as the feelings are mutual.

[Untouchable_Fire]

Lmao...common sense to buy drinks? Haha yeah for scrubs who waste their money. Its totally unnecessary to buy a girl a drink that you dont even know. In my experience, as well as many guys I know, if a girl likes you, she likes you. Not offering her a drink isnt going to change that. The same way offering her a drink wont all of a sudden make her like you if she already didnt.

If the girls attracted to you, thats most of the battle right there...the rest is talking to her and not coming off as a creeper.

Ive done just fine in my life meeting girls when Im out...and Ive never bought some random chick a drink. How about she buy me one first...then Ill return the favor.

 

This is completely true. I went out with my friends Joe and Jimmy. Joe bought drinks for these 3 girls. They came over and talked to us for a while. I spent over 1 hour chatting up one and eventually got her number. Jimmy took the second girl home that night. Joe got ignored despite the fact that he bought them 3 rounds for a total cost of over $90.

 

Had he just spent that $90 on a hooker he wouldn't have felt used and bitter by the end of the night.

 

Only chumps buy drinks.

[Lostinlife4now]

This is completely true. I went out with my friends Joe and Jimmy. Joe bought drinks for these 3 girls. They came over and talked to us for a while. I spent over 1 hour chatting up one and eventually got her number. Jimmy took the second girl home that night. Joe got ignored despite the fact that he bought them 3 rounds for a total cost of over $90.

 

Had he just spent that $90 on a hooker he wouldn't have felt used and bitter by the end of the night.

 

Only chumps buy drinks.

 

 

If I like a guy in a bar....I buy the drinks....no problem whatsoever!!!!

[Eddie Edirol]

FS, you go to ONE CLUB on ONE NIGHT, and decide right then that men are pussies? You have to go to different clubs at least 8 times before coming to that conclusion.

 

Plus if all the men were flirting with your friends, Im sure your friends come off more fun than you do, so you still have to change that. Or, you arent as attractive as you think you are. SOMETHING is wrong with you if your friends can get some game going and you cant. So if you cant get back to the club a few times, and put some work in to get the man you want (not just doing makeup and standing around smiling like a 'tard) and you want to give up, sounds like youre the pussy to me.

 

I think you just like complaining/venting. Gives you something to enjoy the rush of emotions. If you are actually successful, you have nothing to complain about. Falling for a guy would give you all the emotions you want. Hey, if you like conjuring up emotions just to feel them, based on nothing, do you. At least admit it though.

Edited March 2, 2012 by Eddie Edirol

[Lostinlife4now]

FS, you go to ONE CLUB on ONE NIGHT, and decide right then that men are pussies? You have to go to different clubs at least 8 times before coming to that conclusion.

 

Plus if all the men were flirting with your friends, Im sure your friends come off more fun than you do, so you still have to change that. Or, you arent as attractive as you think you are. SOMETHING is wrong with you if your friends can get some game going and you cant. So if you cant get back to the club a few times, and put some work in to get the man you want (not just doing makeup and standing around smiling like a 'tard) and you want to give up, sounds like youre the pussy to me.

 

 

Personally, I DON'T think men are pussies AT ALL...When I see a guy I want to talk to I make the first move...Aggressive...maybe, but I will smile and make him think that he is the ONLY man in the room....and then buy him a drink....Men don't have to buy me a drink...I think it is hot when a woman buys a man a drink...Adjust your thinking Frustrated Standards....Open your wallet...and heart....it may help!

[make me believe]

Sorry OP but the problem is not guys being 'pussies' the problem is something to do with you. Honestly your attitude totally reeks. I just imagine you sitting there all high & mighty in your expensive dress, sipping your white wine, practically daring any guy to come over and talk to you, and when he does just judging him the entire time. You come across as extremely judgmental, negative, and just not very fun or nice. Everything you do seems so calculated. Guys can tell when a girl is not being natural, and they can tell when she has a bitter, negative attitude. No matter how much you try to cover it up.

 

I'm 28, and I consider myself an attractive, well dressed girl. I'm tall, thin, love to wear dresses & heels, take care of myself, etc. I've NEVER had a problem with guys approaching me in bars, buying me drinks, & socializing with me & my friends. It happened almost every time I went out when I was single.

 

I think it was because my friends (usually just my sister, our bff, and myself -- if you are there with 8 girlfriends that's not going to help) went out to have fun with each other. NOT on some desperate man hunt. And we had TONS of fun. I think our laughter, the fact that we were obviously enjoying ourselves, AND our looks attracted guys to us. If you & your friends are sitting there with your bitch faces on, nobody is going to want to talk to you. We looked open, friendly, and fun because we WERE open, friendly, & fun. The last time we went out (couple weeks ago) we were sitting there laughing our heads off, completely oblivious to what was going on around us, and suddenly the waitress comes over and says that some guy at the bar bought us a round of drinks.

 

The fact is, there is a reason why men are flirting with your friends or with other women and not you. And the reason is NOT because they are "pussies." What, you think the guys at this lounge NEVER approach women in their life? NO. They do approach women, they just chose not to approach you. The fact that you're working so hard at all of this is probably working against you in a big way.

[mesmerized]

Also I know people who have moved across the world to meet men because they are better there.... and it never works, they take their problems with them. It's not where you are, it is actually you. A bit harsh, but the truth, the sooner you realise it the sooner you can fix it (yourself)

 

NOT TRUE. I've lived in different countries/different cities and it DOES make a difference where you are. Not only countries, but even different cities are different. Men in North America approach women considerably less than lets say a lot of European countries in my opinion. And it'n not only me who says that. I've had men telling me that too.

[udolipixie]

I agree with this^ I think its because our American women have stopped using the fitness approach in favor of "few extra" and "BBW"

 

I think it's more of a "why bother" since most relationships don't have a high success rate, lack of confidence as most people don't seem to have dating/social confidence, and fear of rejection as shown by the many resulting bitterness and anger a lot of men react with.

 

FYI most Americans are overweight or obese it's not just women so apparently American men have stopped using the fitness approach in favor of "few extra and "BHM".

[Soxfaninfl]

I never go to bars to meet women anymore. I did that in my early twenties. I met my ex-wife at work. I have to admit that I am a shy guy and guess I will always be that way. I prefer online dating. I guess I'm a pussy LOL.

[udolipixie]

Ok.

 

So last night, I was being so painfully obvious with the smiles, and I was alone half the night sitting at the bar, ALSO smiling at guys I noticed were looking at me.

 

NOTHING.,

You could approach as well.

 

One man approached me after I had to smile at him a total of THREE TIMES before he got the frickin hint, but even after that he only introduced himself, told me where he worked and then said "come visit me sometime" and that was the end of it. I've never even heard of the place and he didn't bother mentioning where it was.

So why didn't you bother asking where it was?

How involved were you in the conversation and continuing it?

 

Later in the night, after dancing my ass off, another group of 3 men in suits approached after (again) I had to smile 3-4 times before the dummies got the point, and even then they only introduced themselves. They were next to us at the bar for another hour, and never even offered to buy us a drink (we were buying the entire time ourselves).

 

Again, no contact info, nothing. And they were flirting with my girlfriends afterwards, so I don't get it. We all left confused.

Most likely your friends are more attractive than you.

 

I don't understand. I did the eyebrows, I did the smiles, leaning outward, being alone half the f*cking night, and I looked nice. Even as I wandered aimlessly when I lost my friends, I would bump into cute guys and say "I lost my friends" and we would laugh at that, but nothing came of it.

Did you approach and try to make something come of it or did you plan on the guy taking initiative?

 

Men really are pussies and I think it has to do with the men in the West.

Seeing as 1) you're using the female genitalia as indication of negative character & 2) in the West women are generally viewed as less than men that's more of an insult to your gender.

[Soxfaninfl]

I'm actually a well-known person so I would rather not put up my pictures. It would be very unprofessional and i'm afraid it might hurt my career. But trust me, look are NOT the problem.

 

I'm 28.

Ok give us a hint. What industry are you in?

[El Brujo]

Men really are pussies

 

Meow, meow... better be careful, we pussies have sharp teeth!

[Necris]

Ok.

 

So last night, I was being so painfully obvious with the smiles, and I was alone half the night sitting at the bar, ALSO smiling at guys I noticed were looking at me.

 

NOTHING.

 

One man approached me after I had to smile at him a total of THREE TIMES before he got the frickin hint, but even after that he only introduced himself, told me where he worked and then said "come visit me sometime" and that was the end of it. I've never even heard of the place and he didn't bother mentioning where it was.

 

Later in the night, after dancing my ass off, another group of 3 men in suits approached after (again) I had to smile 3-4 times before the dummies got the point, and even then they only introduced themselves. They were next to us at the bar for another hour, and never even offered to buy us a drink (we were buying the entire time ourselves).

 

Again, no contact info, nothing. And they were flirting with my girlfriends afterwards, so I don't get it. We all left confused.

 

I don't understand. I did the eyebrows, I did the smiles, leaning outward, being alone half the f*cking night, and I looked nice. Even as I wandered aimlessly when I lost my friends, I would bump into cute guys and say "I lost my friends" and we would laugh at that, but nothing came of it.

 

Men really are pussies and I think it has to do with the men in the West. I don't hear my friends in europe complaining that they don't get approached. They have men on a waiting list for gods sake.

 

So i'm moving.

 

I'm a guy but I'm terrible at understanding body language especially flirting, flirting to me its like some sort of psychic alien language that only some can understand so maybe they didn't know what you were trying to do, and it makes it awkward and scary to approach a woman that you don't understand.

 

Or maybe I'm just wierd and that's why I'm going to be alone forever.