FrustratedStandards Posted March 1, 2012 Share Posted March 1, 2012 (edited) Ok. So last night, I was being so painfully obvious with the smiles, and I was alone half the night sitting at the bar, ALSO smiling at guys I noticed were looking at me. NOTHING. One man approached me after I had to smile at him a total of THREE TIMES before he got the frickin hint, but even after that he only introduced himself, told me where he worked and then said "come visit me sometime" and that was the end of it. I've never even heard of the place and he didn't bother mentioning where it was. Later in the night, after dancing my ass off, another group of 3 men in suits approached after (again) I had to smile 3-4 times before the dummies got the point, and even then they only introduced themselves. They were next to us at the bar for another hour, and never even offered to buy us a drink (we were buying the entire time ourselves). Again, no contact info, nothing. And they were flirting with my girlfriends afterwards, so I don't get it. We all left confused. I don't understand. I did the eyebrows, I did the smiles, leaning outward, being alone half the f*cking night, and I looked nice. Even as I wandered aimlessly when I lost my friends, I would bump into cute guys and say "I lost my friends" and we would laugh at that, but nothing came of it. I think it has to do with the men in the West. I don't hear my friends in europe complaining that they don't get approached. They have men on a waiting list for gods sake. So i'm moving. Edited March 3, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1 Link to post Share on other sites
verhrzn Posted March 1, 2012 Share Posted March 1, 2012 Men really are pussies and I think it has to do with the men in the West. I don't hear my friends in europe complaining that they don't get approached. They have men on a waiting list for gods sake. So i'm moving. Let me know how England/Ireland and Germany are, I LOVE their accents. Link to post Share on other sites
zengirl Posted March 1, 2012 Share Posted March 1, 2012 Maybe they didn't like you because of your oh-so-charming attitude? Also, smiling 3-4 times to get someone to come over and then having him come over would make him assertive IMO. Who on Earth is going to come over after one smile? Anyone who reacts to a smile with any kind of action is not a 'pussy' (I hate that word). 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author FrustratedStandards Posted March 1, 2012 Author Share Posted March 1, 2012 Maybe they didn't like you because of your oh-so-charming attitude? Ugh. Either i'm not obvious enough or i'm too obvious. It shouldn't be up to the girl. And it pisses me off that a woman has to make the approach happen. That's not how it's supposed to work. But I get it now. Successful women have it the hardest cuz men are pussies. I can't find another word for it. I was watching an interview with Charlize Theron the other day, and she is GORGEOUS, and beautiful and successful and all the amazing things you can think of. You know what she said in the interview? "I can't find a boyfriend. I'm so alone all the time". BAM. There you go. Link to post Share on other sites
ditzchic Posted March 1, 2012 Share Posted March 1, 2012 Maybe they didn't like you because of your oh-so-charming attitude? Also, smiling 3-4 times to get someone to come over and then having him come over would make him assertive IMO. Who on Earth is going to come over after one smile? Anyone who reacts to a smile with any kind of action is not a 'pussy' (I hate that word). I agree with this. If a guy comes over after one smile or one cue he risks being labeled a creeper. And apparently if he comes over after 3 smiles and isn't all that interested in you he risks being labeled a p*ssy. The reasons your not being approached seem pretty obvious to me... Link to post Share on other sites
Author FrustratedStandards Posted March 1, 2012 Author Share Posted March 1, 2012 OP is an ugly, cold, shallow stupid bitch. I am SO happy no one wants your sorry, cold sore covered ass! You will be alone and crazy gold digger! Go to Europe away from real Men here. Try finding millionaire playboys there you whore. The only dirty pussy here is you! LOL Please go on! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author FrustratedStandards Posted March 1, 2012 Author Share Posted March 1, 2012 I agree with this. If a guy comes over after one smile or one cue he risks being labeled a creeper. And apparently if he comes over after 3 smiles and isn't all that interested in you he risks being labeled a p*ssy. The reasons your not being approached seem pretty obvious to me... Why approach if you're not interested? That's just silly. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ThaWholigan Posted March 1, 2012 Share Posted March 1, 2012 Ehh, a lot of guys get shut down a lot. It gets tiring sometimes lol Link to post Share on other sites
Author FrustratedStandards Posted March 1, 2012 Author Share Posted March 1, 2012 cutegirl80 we get it. You don't like me. Now go away you're annoying. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
zengirl Posted March 1, 2012 Share Posted March 1, 2012 Ugh. Either i'm not obvious enough or i'm too obvious. It shouldn't be up to the girl. And it pisses me off that a woman has to make the approach happen. That's not how it's supposed to work. I don't know how you feel like you 'made the approach' happen when all you did was SMILE a few times. He actually walked across the room and approached (what you wanted) and what I'm betting is that you were waiting for the guy to be super-aggressive and thus did not put anything back 'out' there into the dynamic. Look, IME, flirting is give-and-take and not 'expecting' anyone to do anything in particular. A guy coming over to talk to me after I give him the eyes a few times? That sounds like a great scenario to me that I could do a lot with. If the guy walked away later, maybe he just realized he wasn't that interested or felt like he was trying to get blood from a stone after talking to you. At any rate, the smiles worked! The guy approached! That was not the issue. As to the guys buying drinks thing---were you talking with them? Did they seem interested? Men are not under obligation to buy women drinks just because they're sitting at a bar. That's. . .odd. But I get it now. Successful women have it the hardest cuz men are pussies. I can't find another word for it. I was watching an interview with Charlize Theron the other day, and she is GORGEOUS, and beautiful and successful and all the amazing things you can think of. You know what she said in the interview? "I can't find a boyfriend. I'm so alone all the time". I actually worked with Charlize on a few events before she 'made it' and she was a sweetheart; probably still is. Tomboy, too. Real great gal. But yes, famous actresses have it hard, even sweet, awesome, great ones. I think you make your own problems. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ditzchic Posted March 1, 2012 Share Posted March 1, 2012 Ugh. Either i'm not obvious enough or i'm too obvious. It shouldn't be up to the girl. And it pisses me off that a woman has to make the approach happen. That's not how it's supposed to work. But I get it now. Successful women have it the hardest cuz men are pussies. I can't find another word for it. I was watching an interview with Charlize Theron the other day, and she is GORGEOUS, and beautiful and successful and all the amazing things you can think of. You know what she said in the interview? "I can't find a boyfriend. I'm so alone all the time". BAM. There you go. Here's your problems. 1.) You're bitter. You're blaming the men of the world for your problems. Who wrote the rules on how things are supposed to work? You get what you work for, not what you wish for. There is nothing wrong with approaching a guy you're interested in. You don't have to throw yourself at him. Just talk to him. 2.) You're listening to bull**** from celebrities and thinking that's reality. Yes, Charlize Theron is beautiful, successful and she may be single. She's also a professional ACTRESS. Drama is her craft. Believing that she's a lonely, destitute cat lady simply because she said the words is beyond naive. She's surrounded by an entourage 24/7. I'm sure she could pull some serious beefcake at the snap of her fingers. And while she may not have found the man of her dreams, she's not "so alone all the time". Why approach if you're not interested? That's just silly. He thought you were cute so he said hi. He didn't think you were worth his time talking to or perusing. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
kassy Posted March 1, 2012 Share Posted March 1, 2012 Seriously... you don't sound like much fun!! You had a few short interactions with men last night and you couldn't keep them going. It isn't that you aren't approacable, it's how you act after being approached! Why should the guys next to you buy you drinks if they aren't interested in you? I think you need to reflect a bit about how you think about men let alone how you act towards them. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted March 1, 2012 Share Posted March 1, 2012 Most of the young men I know have no problem approaching the girls they are interested in getting to know. My friend's daughter is in her 20's and gets hit on all the time and she does nothing at all. Her mother, the daughter and I were out shopping and this guy walked right into a wall staring at her. She was completely oblivious to what was going on. Men are probably intimidated to approach Charlize Theron because she is a big movie star and most men can't offer her anything she doesn't already have. I doubt it's because they are pussies. Charlize's situation hardly compares with the average woman. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
kassy Posted March 1, 2012 Share Posted March 1, 2012 Also I know people who have moved across the world to meet men because they are better there.... and it never works, they take their problems with them. It's not where you are, it is actually you. A bit harsh, but the truth, the sooner you realise it the sooner you can fix it (yourself) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
fortyninethousand322 Posted March 1, 2012 Share Posted March 1, 2012 I fully admit to being a wimp and not approaching women unless I get an overwhelming green light. Like maybe a neon sign or something. Otherwise I'll assume she's just looking at me to get me to go over and then make fun of me. Not a problem in and of itself, but a waste of time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author FrustratedStandards Posted March 1, 2012 Author Share Posted March 1, 2012 Men are probably intimidated to approach Charlize Theron because she is a big movie star and most men can't offer her anything she doesn't already have. I doubt it's because they are pussies. Charlize's situation hardly compares with the average woman. Bingo. I fully admit to being a wimp and not approaching women unless I get an overwhelming green light. Like maybe a neon sign or something. Otherwise I'll assume she's just looking at me to get me to go over and then make fun of me. Not a problem in and of itself, but a waste of time. Why! My goodness that's an awful way of thinking! That's horrible. Has this happened to you before? Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted March 1, 2012 Share Posted March 1, 2012 Seriously... you don't sound like much fun!! You had a few short interactions with men last night and you couldn't keep them going. It isn't that you aren't approacable, it's how you act after being approached! Why should the guys next to you buy you drinks if they aren't interested in you? I think you need to reflect a bit about how you think about men let alone how you act towards them. This You said in another thread OP that you talk to men all the time but it doesn't sound like it at all. It sounds like you have no idea how to communicate with them once they approach you. Is it that you are used to something different culturally? I am Eastern European and most men in the West - like in the UK - take a less traditional approach while out, they don't try to seduce you, they merely try to have a conversation with you to see if they would get anywhere (sex or relationship) I'm not sure gender equality suits you all that much judging by your posts. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
fortyninethousand322 Posted March 1, 2012 Share Posted March 1, 2012 Why! My goodness that's an awful way of thinking! That's horrible. Has this happened to you before? I've gone up to women who I thought were interested before and they acted annoyed when I talked to them. Found out later they were trashing me after I walked away. I don't care that some people don't like because that happens. I just feel like it's a waste of time that I could spend doing other more pleasant things. Link to post Share on other sites
zengirl Posted March 1, 2012 Share Posted March 1, 2012 Nevermind. *shrugs* 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author FrustratedStandards Posted March 1, 2012 Author Share Posted March 1, 2012 I've gone up to women who I thought were interested before and they acted annoyed when I talked to them. Found out later they were trashing me after I walked away. I don't care that some people don't like because that happens. I just feel like it's a waste of time that I could spend doing other more pleasant things. That's low. I can't believe people like this exist. Trust me, it had nothing to do with you. She did it just to make herself feel better. Please don't let this affect your confidence. I f*ckn hate women like that. Makes it harder on the rest of us. Link to post Share on other sites
ThaWholigan Posted March 1, 2012 Share Posted March 1, 2012 Bingo. Why! My goodness that's an awful way of thinking! That's horrible. Has this happened to you before? It's happened to me twice before - one time my shoes were made fun of, another time it was because I looked old. It happens more than you know . Thankfully not all the time, but it makes it difficult to summon the courage after that happens to you. I got over it but I still find it difficult to chat up girls, but I try . Other reasons too, but everyone knows them. Link to post Share on other sites
USCGAviator Posted March 1, 2012 Share Posted March 1, 2012 To leave yourself alone among a pack of wolves and still get no attention, sounds like your not that attractive. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Mme. Chaucer Posted March 1, 2012 Share Posted March 1, 2012 A few months ago, it seemed as if you were inundated with interested men but none of them came close to meeting your "high standards." Now, evidently, no men are interested in you at all. What has changed about YOU? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ThaWholigan Posted March 1, 2012 Share Posted March 1, 2012 To leave yourself alone among a pack of wolves and still get no attention, sounds like your not that attractive. Either that or she's trying too hard. Link to post Share on other sites
joystickd Posted March 1, 2012 Share Posted March 1, 2012 Here's your problems. 1.) You're bitter. You're blaming the men of the world for your problems. Who wrote the rules on how things are supposed to work? You get what you work for, not what you wish for. There is nothing wrong with approaching a guy you're interested in. You don't have to throw yourself at him. Just talk to him. 2.) You're listening to bull**** from celebrities and thinking that's reality. Yes, Charlize Theron is beautiful, successful and she may be single. She's also a professional ACTRESS. Drama is her craft. Believing that she's a lonely, destitute cat lady simply because she said the words is beyond naive. She's surrounded by an entourage 24/7. I'm sure she could pull some serious beefcake at the snap of her fingers. And while she may not have found the man of her dreams, she's not "so alone all the time". He thought you were cute so he said hi. He didn't think you were worth his time talking to or perusing. I agree 100%. I think you may just give off a bad vibe to these men. You may not even realize it but bitterness shows up in subtle ways sometimes and its man/woman repellant 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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