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This profile took the cake, she had a long list of "Do not email me if....." list, (like many profiles)

 

First of all, she had a profession as "Full Time Mom", but yet she didn't want to date a guy that was unemployed. But the kicker there was, here's an unemployed woman, who doesn't want an unemployed man? I don't get it. :laugh:

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Someone has to pay the bills ;)

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At least she shows her true colors from the start.

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Nothing wrong with a little honesty. :)

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Of coarse she wanted someone who wasn't a dead beat. She was probably looking for a father figure also. Someone to step in after her ex stepped out.

 

When I found myself newly single & in my forties I enjoyed OLDing but learned to be very cautious. Always met the first few times in a very public place, tried to always have a bailout plan :D just in case things got a little too strange and as in life there is a fair amount of strange:D & since my children where grown I had no interest nor do I believe in raising someone else s kids, especially if they had already reached their teen years.

 

Some of the best advise I had heard about that scenario was; the role of a step parent to teen age step children should be that of a good host or hostess.

 

But understandably there where those who believe they could return their broken family to some sort of normalcy if they just remarried it & in some cases seemed desperate to do so.

 

I shied away from them & the woman much more than 10 years younger than myself which where another phenomenon I wasn't prepared for when I fist began OLD. but that is a subject that would be off topic here so I'll leave it for another time:)

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This profile took the cake, she had a long list of "Do not email me if....." list, (like many profiles)

 

First of all, she had a profession as "Full Time Mom", but yet she didn't want to date a guy that was unemployed. But the kicker there was, here's an unemployed woman, who doesn't want an unemployed man? I don't get it. :laugh:

 

Well, you can't have two SAH parents, so logically, it makes some sense, but if a SAH mom isn't your cuppa, don't date one. I don't think anyone who is and plans to stay a SAH parent COULD date someone who's unemployed long-term.

 

Anyway, I've seen far worse than that on dating sites. At least that one has some logic to it. And a SAH Mom (or Dad) isn't the same thing as someone who's unemployed in my eyes.

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How is she living if she isn't working.. Her income is.. child support? Welfare? And not wanting to date someone who is unemployed, she could've just been looking for another gravy train to ride. Who knows. You dodged a bullet on this one. Well, unless she was a loaded sugar momma just trying to find a guy with good work ethic. :laugh:

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How is she living if she isn't working.. Her income is.. child support? Welfare? And not wanting to date someone who is unemployed, she could've just been looking for another gravy train to ride. Who knows. You dodged a bullet on this one. Well, unless she was a loaded sugar momma just trying to find a guy with good work ethic. :laugh:

 

 

Exactly, I didn't address in my initial post, but figured someone would anyways. Probably govt aid of some sort more than likely.

 

She said in her profile, she doesn't need a man to support her financially, and she's doing okay in that area. And the father is involved in the children's lives, so apparently didn't abandon them.

 

Unless it's a fat child support check, who knows, right? FUnny how she has this double standard.

 

 

Though, I had a friend coin the phrase, "Welfare mothers, make better lovers" LOL

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Though, I had a friend coin the phrase, "Welfare mothers, make better lovers" LOL
That's a Neil Young song from 1979.
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She said in her profile, she doesn't need a man to support her financially, and she's doing okay in that area.

 

She could have a trust fund, investments, or inheritances. I'm actually surprised sometimes to find out the kind of money my friends have in the bank.

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She also might have put down Full Time Mom as her profession because she didn't really want to tell her job that pays the bills...

 

She might have also put Full Time Mom on her profession because that is her first and foremost important profession.

 

At least she put something in there..

When I did OLD I left it blank but had I been a full time Dad maybe I might have slid that in there..

 

Of course she also might be looking for a free ride but the odds are in favor of my previous ideas..

I do know someone whose ex is pretty wealthy and in his child support he pays enough for her to not work and stay at home and raise the kids they have together.. albeit that would be a minority it is still an option too.

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Where would one find a woman, who is not interested in money?

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