Gleeko Posted March 1, 2012 Posted March 1, 2012 (edited) So me and my boyfriend were dating for about 11 months. I loved him very much and we didn't have any problems, until he stopped communicating and got scared. This lead to our break-up, we talked and tried to stay friends for the first few weeks, but it just hurt me too much and I had to tell him I needed my distance. This was really hard cause we are in the same college program. Although he was the one who left, he couldn't bare to see me upset and kept trying to make me feel better. And when I started distancing myself it started to hurt him, and at one point on a night out with the other people in the program, started hitting on someone right in front of me out of drunken loneliness. This is when I started to heal and get over it. About 2 weeks later he came back. We had been broken up for about 2 months now. I let him speak his peice and he apologized for everything. But I had already stopped loving him. Because I know I did love him and I remembered it all being so worth it I gave it a second chance. We're still young and I figured I shouldn't fault him for learning. He's been great since and his love and loyalty doesn't waver. But I can't seem to gain love back like I did before, iv gotten to the point were I can say it and mean it but it's not as strong. I was good for awhile and then I just got scared and it left me again. I refuse to give up cause I know it's worth it, but I keep breaking down and I'm not sure why. I just get scared and lose all feeling. Most of my friends dont fully agree with my choice. He has helped best he can and been patient with me. But I dont want to keep doing this. I know he's worth it. Help? Edited March 1, 2012 by Gleeko
chados Posted March 1, 2012 Posted March 1, 2012 So me and my boyfriend were dating for about 11 months. I loved him very much and we didn't have any problems, until he stopped communicating and got scared. This lead to our break-up, we talked and tried to stay friends for the first few weeks, but it just hurt me too much and I had to tell him I needed my distance. This was really hard cause we are in the same college program. Although he was the one who left, he couldn't bare to see me upset and kept trying to make me feel better. And when I started distancing myself it started to hurt him, and at one point on a night out with the other people in the program, started hitting on someone right in front of me out of drunken loneliness. This is when I started to heal and get over it. About 2 weeks later he came back. We had been broken up for about 2 months now. I let him speak his peice and he apologized for everything. But I had already stopped loving him. Because I know I did love him and I remembered it all being so worth it I gave it a second chance. We're still young and I figured I shouldn't fault him for learning. He's been great since and his love and loyalty doesn't waver. But I can't seem to gain love back like I did before, iv gotten to the point were I can say it and mean it but it's not as strong. I was good for awhile and then I just got scared and it left me again. I refuse to give up cause I know it's worth it, but I keep breaking down and I'm not sure why. I just get scared and lose all feeling. Most of my friends dont fully agree with my choice. He has helped best he can and been patient with me. But I dont want to keep doing this. I know he's worth it. Help? sounds like the old classic, "you want what you dont have" its pretty easy to get attached to someone in young age, the problem though as you might know but cant see is that 99% of all young people break up after a while. theres no such thing as going back to the stage you where in the beginning. this i believe is why young people break up. they wont accept that the relationship starts growing to something more then just love. after dating someone you will loose these butterflies. this is something everyone has to accept. else theres no point to get attached to someone. how can you heal? well.. you cant just get feelings because you want to. you'll get them because something makes you feel in a certain way. apparently youre not in love with this guy. so the best thing is to stay away from him. i just get this feeling that you want it because it isnt there anymore. you miss him, but you dont miss the relationship, which is normal. you will get over it, but it takes time
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