Ovalmonkey Posted March 1, 2012 Share Posted March 1, 2012 Hey guys just a bit of advice really, i think its gonna be pretty long winded but will try keep it short. Basically i started meeting a girl about 6 weeks who i kind of new through a distant group of friends. We met up once and just went for a drink as friends i knew she had a boyfriend so wasnt instigating anything, her boyfriend was long distance and had been together for nearly 3 years. After almost a week of meeting up almost every day cause we got on so well, she spent the night on mine after we kissed nothing physical happened but we could tell we both wanted it too. The enxt day she told me she had finished with her boyfriend but didnt want me to think it was solely because of me. So the day after we met up and everything felt perfect with each other, she said that i see us together but we need to give it a few months so thinks can settle down because we kinda shared same friends n stuff. Since then we were meeting up almost all the time and then we spent a night together in bed which was amazing for both us! A few days later she said shes not usually like that and wanted to take things slow and get to me alot better before we did it again and i respected that. Then about a week ago she came round n stayed (she stayed a few nights in the week prior but we just kissed n snuggled etc) things seemed ok but me respecting her wishes of taking it slow didnt try to make a sexual move as not to spoil anything. The next day i text her asking if she was still happy with the situation and she replied saying she loves spending time with me but maybe we are in the friend zone what do you think? And i was like i feel its a lot more than that and she said that she thought something might happen that night and it didnt so she didnt know if she just saw us as friends hanging out (but we slept in the same bed like 3 times that week real close and kissing ) So i told her im just respecting what she wanted, time to get to know each other and that i like her. She said that she thought i was getting bored of her and our wires have crossed big time with the whole conversation above (which i can only presume is she thought i was not into her?) She then said why dont we just cool it for a while then meet back up, and i responded with is this an easy let down or do you still wanna meet up and she said its not an easy let down lets just cool the situation and meet back up in a few weeks. Since then it was valentines day and i left her red roses on her car with a note and she really liked it and text me saying how amazing it was etc. then the texts werent as much. Then when she did text it was like as if she wished i hadnt got her anything for valentines because of the whole cooling it down. Anyways since then ive tried to give her space, but she likes my facebook statuses all the time, and when i text she does respond. After just over a week of texting casually i called her last night and we spoke for about 10 minutes and we agreed to meet up next week and she will text me when she is free.... What is my next move.... we both couldnt believe how well we were getting on and i know that it could be amazing if we were together, does she just want to be friends? Or is she scared of rushing into another relationship so soon after breaking out of one through meeting me? Really care about this girl and i have never met anyone who makes me (excuse the corny pun) feel so alive! But its true.... Any advice would be greatly appreciated Sorry its so long winded To up date I last text her 5 days ago something sweet in the morning she replied later that day and asked how iwas how was my day. So I replied n then asked if she had much planned for the night and haven't heard from her since :/ Link to post Share on other sites
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