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Ok guys. Im going out with girlfriends tonight. I need tips on how to be approachable

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thatone Established Member

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1. DO NOT go out with more than one girlfriend. I repeat: DO NOT go out with more than one girlfriend. One is enough.

 

2. Read a book on body language. There are many ways of being flirtatious with eye contact and body language. Practice in front of a mirror.

 

i was gonna post the same thing so there you go.

 

cull 'girlfriends' down to 'girlfriend' singular.

 

sit together at the bar, not at a table.

 

rest takes care of itself.

Lostinlife4now Established Member

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Oh my!!! Such wonderful tips! Thank you all... I am going out this weekend with a girlfriend, (1) and I am going to try some of these suggestions!

 

Love to All.........

tman666 Established Member

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FrustratedStandards, let's hear the breakdown of how things went! Debrief us! :bunny:

kassy Established Member

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I am not that great at picking up boyfriends at bars but I am great at making lasting friends at bars (ie ones you see again, not necessarily life long friends).

 

I would say, go up to the bar yourself, be nice to the bar staff, if they aren't too too busy pass a comment that will make them laugh or smile, and then when they are off getting your drink just turn to the person next to, give a big cheesy smile and ask them if they are having a good night and take it from there. If the bar is busy then you can do this while waiting to be served. If you act like you are in the best mood (which you should be anyway you are out with friends/ a friend, this should be fun) it is often infectious.

 

I don't usually go to bars to pick up men (and I'm not single now anyway) but I do like to meet new people so I do this to both men and women, old young fat thin whatever. Most people chat happily if they think you seem like fun while you wait for your drinks. If they don't... well next time eh. No big loss.

 

I have to say while I haven't met that many boyfriends at bars, I have met a few through people (men and women) who I did meet in a bar as a friend. Either way I think it makes someone approachable if they are happy talking to anyone, especially if they make the other people laugh. So if you chat to the 2 old guys sitting at the bar while you get your drink and some other guy quite likes see you I think he would assume you would be approachable.

 

I would suggest if you chose a particular guy and are leaving the possibility of this chat lasting longer than it takes to get your drink then DO NOT get a drink for anyone other than yourself, this means you can stay and don't have to leave to give the drink to your friend.

 

If your friend is sociable and upbeat too then the two of you can easily go to get a drink together and chat to either just one person or you can both talk to the people on either side of you. It depends on the situation, set up of the bar etc etc... but really if it goes wrong there isn't much to be lost... and if it goes well you can end up chatting to them and their friends for the rest of the night.

 

Don't over think it, just get used to chatting to random people (not just at bars), and have fun with it, be a bit cheeky, don't just do boring chit chat.

 

Also male wingmen are awesome if they can talk to anyone... I used to have a lot of fun with a male friend, he'd break the ice with guys for me and I'd do the same for chicks for him... all good

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I bet she will go home lonely and frustrated, because of her unrealistic standards. Millionaire Playboy.

verhrzn Established Member

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i was gonna post the same thing so there you go.

 

cull 'girlfriends' down to 'girlfriend' singular.

 

sit together at the bar, not at a table.

 

rest takes care of itself.

 

I thought having only one other person along is a bad thing, because then the guy feels bad for leaving the friend by herself. Wouldn't he not approach because he wouldn't want to create a Third Wheel situation??

zengirl Established Member

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I thought having only one other person along is a bad thing, because then the guy feels bad for leaving the friend by herself. Wouldn't he not approach because he wouldn't want to create a Third Wheel situation??

 

It depends on the friend you bring. If you bring a friend who's going to be cool and do her own thing for a bit (you don't have to be alone with the guy for the whole night!), then one is good. Otherwise, maybe 2. All depends on your friends, the place, etc.

Titania22 Established Member

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It depends on the friend you bring. If you bring a friend who's going to be cool and do her own thing for a bit (you don't have to be alone with the guy for the whole night!), then one is good. Otherwise, maybe 2. All depends on your friends, the place, etc.

 

What about for those of us, who don't have friends to bring along?

PlumPrincess Established Member

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Keep your arms uncrossed. The best posture would be shoulders back, chin tilted slightly down. Keep your arms controlled at your sides, and when using them to talk, expose your palms a lot.

 

When you see a man you think is cute, try to make eye contact. Hold the eye contact for 3 seconds, then look down and to the right. If needed, repeat this 2-3 times. (Beyond that, the guy is either not interested or insufferably thick.)

 

Try this neat trick: eyebrow flash guys you REALLY like. The "eyebrow flash" is when you meet someone's eye and raise your eyebrows (with a smile, obviously.) You know, that greeting you use for friendly acquaintances you see on the street. According to the body language book I got, humans do not eyebrow flash people they don't like. It can awkward doing it to a stranger, but the book claims it usually gets a positive response, since people assume they either know you, or you're extra friendly and sincere.

What body language book?

azsinglegal Established Member

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Aren't you a gold digger anyway?

 

What happened to your last rich guy that had a gut and you thought you were too good for?

thatone Established Member

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I thought having only one other person along is a bad thing, because then the guy feels bad for leaving the friend by herself. Wouldn't he not approach because he wouldn't want to create a Third Wheel situation??

 

there's nothing wrong with going alone, but a lot of people don't like to do that which is understandable.

 

the thing i had in mind was 4-6 women all sitting at a table with constant conversation going. not many men are going to approach any of them in such a situation.

 

compared to that, two women sitting together at the bar are much more approachable.

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