lilyblue Posted February 29, 2012 Posted February 29, 2012 I still think about him all the time... and I guess that's how he got into my dream. I dreamt I ran into him in a coffee shop, I was with a bunch of friends and he was with his ex-wife/gf and a couple of friends. I went up to him and told him what an a**hole he is and what a horrible excuse for a human he was which he laughed off. I asked him if he had used me and he said yes. I know he wouldn't do either of those things, but it still made me sad. Then I asked him why he couldn't even call to tell me or respond to my texts and email and he said he had meant to text and he just realized the other day that he hadn't. Hate waking up to that. Just a bad start to the day.
Philosoraptor Posted February 29, 2012 Posted February 29, 2012 We all have dreams after a breakup, it's natural. As you heal you will find that they don't bother you anymore.
Author lilyblue Posted February 29, 2012 Author Posted February 29, 2012 I hope so... it's been over 5 months.
Philosoraptor Posted February 29, 2012 Posted February 29, 2012 I hope so... it's been over 5 months. What have you been doing to heal? Pay no mind to the dreams as they can be read in a million different ways. Just accept that they are dreams, they did not happen, and they need not effect your day.
Author lilyblue Posted February 29, 2012 Author Posted February 29, 2012 What have you been doing to heal? Pay no mind to the dreams as they can be read in a million different ways. Just accept that they are dreams, they did not happen, and they need not effect your day. It's just disappointing waking up with those thoughts in your head... I've been trying my best to heal, therapy, etc. I just still miss him a lot unfortunately.
Philosoraptor Posted February 29, 2012 Posted February 29, 2012 But what have you done to foster lilyblue? How have you helped your own growth? New hobbies? Time with friends and family? I made a bucket list at the end of my last relationship and when I got down I would either do something on the list or make plans to do something soon. It kept me focused on myself and before I knew it I didn't need the list anymore.
Author lilyblue Posted February 29, 2012 Author Posted February 29, 2012 But what have you done to foster lilyblue? How have you helped your own growth? New hobbies? Time with friends and family? I made a bucket list at the end of my last relationship and when I got down I would either do something on the list or make plans to do something soon. It kept me focused on myself and before I knew it I didn't need the list anymore. I've tried some new things, but nothing really takes my mind away for that long. Lots of my friends stopped talking to me while I was so depressed so I've had a lot of loss but I've tried hanging out with a few new people.
BewitchedandBothered Posted February 29, 2012 Posted February 29, 2012 I still think about him all the time... and I guess that's how he got into my dream. I dreamt I ran into him in a coffee shop, I was with a bunch of friends and he was with his ex-wife/gf and a couple of friends. I went up to him and told him what an a**hole he is and what a horrible excuse for a human he was which he laughed off. I asked him if he had used me and he said yes. I know he wouldn't do either of those things, but it still made me sad. Then I asked him why he couldn't even call to tell me or respond to my texts and email and he said he had meant to text and he just realized the other day that he hadn't. Hate waking up to that. Just a bad start to the day. Dreams are very telling, aren't they? I had one of my abusive ex that sticks with me. My dream takes place in a mall, I met him there, he looked happy, but I was really there to say 'goodbye'. He cried and I turned away to leave. That was sort of a closure for me because it had to be over. Not a good way to start your day, that kind of dream, but maybe it was a closure for you.
TaintedHeart Posted February 29, 2012 Posted February 29, 2012 (edited) Sorry to hear that you're feeling this way. I hate those kind of dreams, they kind of make you heart sink, right? But try not to think too much about them. Get your ass out of bed, take a shower, have breakfast, go for a walk, anything! You will soon forget about the dream. Seems like you don't have much motivation. I'm exactly like this when I've had a break up. You should try reading a self help book 'I Can Mend Your Broken Heart by Paul Mckenna is pretty good. It will help instantly and you won't be able to think about your ex in the way you're doing. Edited February 29, 2012 by TaintedHeart 1
Author lilyblue Posted March 1, 2012 Author Posted March 1, 2012 Dreams are very telling, aren't they? I had one of my abusive ex that sticks with me. My dream takes place in a mall, I met him there, he looked happy, but I was really there to say 'goodbye'. He cried and I turned away to leave. That was sort of a closure for me because it had to be over. Not a good way to start your day, that kind of dream, but maybe it was a closure for you. I didn't really feel like a closure dream. More like "I will run into him someday". That's great that you found some peace in your dream. Sorry to hear that you're feeling this way. I hate those kind of dreams, they kind of make you heart sink, right? But try not to think too much about them. Get your ass out of bed, take a shower, have breakfast, go for a walk, anything! You will soon forget about the dream. Seems like you don't have much motivation. I'm exactly like this when I've had a break up. You should try reading a self help book 'I Can Mend Your Broken Heart by Paul Mckenna is pretty good. It will help instantly and you won't be able to think about your ex in the way you're doing. Totally made my heart sink. It's amazing how something so fake can have such an impact on your mind. I went to work, about to head to the gym, but still thinking about it a bit. I'll look up the book, thank you for the recommendation.
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