chucksagent Posted February 29, 2012 Posted February 29, 2012 I am a lawyer by trade so I pride myself in the ability to be unbiased and fair. I'd like to think I can remove emotion from a set of facts and try and reason the correct conclusion. However, when it comes to matters of fidelity, I have heard SUCH crazy stories, from people I NEVER suspected...I mean stuff that REALLY blows my mind. -My grandfather who growing up my cousins and I thought was THE pillar for morality...I mean the most AMAZING guy ever...cheated on my gram when they were first married. -A close friend of my uncles...a 49 year old nerdy school teacher...turns out he is a sex kingpin. He recently came clean to my uncle that whilst married with 2 children (11 and 16), he has been having sexual relations with 12 women, 7 of whom are married, and 3 of them currently in committed relationships. -A girl my best friend works with is having an affair at work, which everyone at works knows about (nobody tells her husband). They already have a child and recently she had a second child. There is now MUCH discussion at work that the baby may be the male mistresses from work. PS: I went to high school with this girl and she seemed like the LAST person ever to do this. -My cousin has a boyfriend who she has been with for 2 years...she is a VERY pretty girl...She and another female co-worker who is MARRIED get hit on by these 2 guys they work with. The men send them emails telling them how sexy they are, asking to meet them for lunch so they can "hook up." All sorts of forward stuff. Now my cousin SWEARS to me they don't touch them or anything else. I asked her if she or the married female friend reported this to anyone and they said NO?!?!? So my question to all of you good people is...How OFTEN does this stuff happen? Am I just at a bad/jaded time in my life to see all this crap play out in the same few weeks? Here's the scary thing; I have PLENTY of more examples like those from other times in my life, but I only have so much ramble room for this post. Lol. Bottom line, everyone respond how you would like, BUT..at the end of what you write, please do the following: (place the percentage where you see the "X" for how often 0-100% of the time you think it happens.) 1) Married Man cheats - X% 2) Married Female cheats - X% 3) Married Man has multiple affairs - X% 4) Married female has multiple affairs - X% 5) Men hit on married/committed woman at work and she does nothing - X% 6) Men hit on married/committed woman at work and she tells boss - X% 7) Men hit on married/commited woman at work cause she flirts with him - X% 8) A committed woman is friendly to a man at work (not a mean woman at all) and the man feels it's safe to grab her or slap her butt- X%. Thanks!
Philosoraptor Posted February 29, 2012 Posted February 29, 2012 Date emotional adults and you won't have to worry about any of this. When they want out they will talk to you before pursuing anything else.
drifter777 Posted February 29, 2012 Posted February 29, 2012 This thread might get more responses on the Infidelity section, but here goes: 1) Married Man cheats - 40% 2) Married Female cheats - 50% 3) Married Man has multiple affairs - 25% 4) Married female has multiple affairs - 35% I don't care what research shows because, in my experience, women lie about number of sex partners, what sexual activities they have been involved in, and anything to do with cheating. They will lie to everyone, including themselves, and take the real truth to their graves. They do this because society is quick to brand them a slut and they know that their partner will react explosively to these truths. A major contributing factor here is that women can have sex with some so easily. By that I mean all they have to do is NOT say no to guys who hit on them and they'll get laid. Men may have other advantages in life, but the sex thing is huge and makes up for a lot. 5) Men hit on married/committed woman at work and she does nothing - 95% 6) Men hit on married/committed woman at work and she tells boss - 5% 7) Men hit on married/commited woman at work cause she flirts with him - 75% A little flirting and sexual tension is fun; as long as it stays innocent. If either party crosses the others boundary then it is no longer "fun" but the precursor to a problem. 8) A committed woman is friendly to a man at work (not a mean woman at all) and the man feels it's safe to grab her or slap her butt- 20%. This would (should?) cross any woman’s boundary. If she allows this she is asking the guy to ratchet up the foreplay. They are both moving to a full-blown (pun intended) sexual encounter. 1
Author chucksagent Posted February 29, 2012 Author Posted February 29, 2012 I agree with everything you said AND all of your numbers. People say I'm crazy and too negative, but I strongly think I am just interpreting the facts as I see them. I agree also that the beautiful women don't have to do anything because they will just be sought out. Let's examine this "type" of woman. 34 years old, committed (but not married and no kids) GORGEOUS face, amazing body, SUPER friendly (diamond in the rough type - wasn't SUPER pretty in high school so she doesn't realize how Hot she is)...NEVER gets mad or is mean to people. My feeling on this kind of woman is that she has a target on her back. She's SLIGHTLY older, no kids, not married, VERY attractive, VERY friendly, makes those around her feel safe and comfortable...What are the odds she would cheat on her boyfriend if some guy REALLY hit on her hard. I worry with her kind/non-confrontational personality that she would just hook up with the guy to keep the peace and lie to her boyfriend. My friends think this is too drastic a stretch. Your thoughts?
drifter777 Posted February 29, 2012 Posted February 29, 2012 I agree with everything you said AND all of your numbers. People say I'm crazy and too negative, but I strongly think I am just interpreting the facts as I see them. I agree also that the beautiful women don't have to do anything because they will just be sought out. Let's examine this "type" of woman. 34 years old, committed (but not married and no kids) GORGEOUS face, amazing body, SUPER friendly (diamond in the rough type - wasn't SUPER pretty in high school so she doesn't realize how Hot she is)...NEVER gets mad or is mean to people. My feeling on this kind of woman is that she has a target on her back. She's SLIGHTLY older, no kids, not married, VERY attractive, VERY friendly, makes those around her feel safe and comfortable...What are the odds she would cheat on her boyfriend if some guy REALLY hit on her hard. I worry with her kind/non-confrontational personality that she would just hook up with the guy to keep the peace and lie to her boyfriend. My friends think this is too drastic a stretch. Your thoughts? The kind of woman you describe (pretty & friendly) can have as much sex as she wants, whenever and wherever she wants it. Beyond this exact type of woman, I think that fully 50% of the women out there are in this same boat. Any time, any place, IF they want it. So it gets down to what a girl/woman wants. If she wants to experience lots of sex with lots of men, she can. If she wants to keep the guys at arms length, she can. It's totally up to her.
stillafool Posted February 29, 2012 Posted February 29, 2012 I agree with everything you said AND all of your numbers. People say I'm crazy and too negative, but I strongly think I am just interpreting the facts as I see them. I agree also that the beautiful women don't have to do anything because they will just be sought out. Let's examine this "type" of woman. 34 years old, committed (but not married and no kids) GORGEOUS face, amazing body, SUPER friendly (diamond in the rough type - wasn't SUPER pretty in high school so she doesn't realize how Hot she is)...NEVER gets mad or is mean to people. My feeling on this kind of woman is that she has a target on her back. She's SLIGHTLY older, no kids, not married, VERY attractive, VERY friendly, makes those around her feel safe and comfortable...What are the odds she would cheat on her boyfriend if some guy REALLY hit on her hard. I worry with her kind/non-confrontational personality that she would just hook up with the guy to keep the peace and lie to her boyfriend. My friends think this is too drastic a stretch. Your thoughts? At 34 years old she isn't exactly a spring chicken. I think at that age she has learned alot about life and men. I would think that she probably wants to get married and have a child before her bio clock stops ticking. I think this woman would be a great catch and the chances of her cheating once she is commited are slim. What does she do for a living? That tells alot.
Author chucksagent Posted March 1, 2012 Author Posted March 1, 2012 It's a hybrid position of secretary/customer service/office administration personal.
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