Lost the love of my life

[nick d]

Hey everyone,

Just some background info on my relationship: we were together almost 3 years and engaged for 8 months. We lived together practically the whole 3 years.

 

3 weeks ago the love of my life left me. And I am going crazy! Here's what happened:

Leading up to this night we were having alot of little fights due to our work schedules being switched to complete opposite schedules. But we always just made up that same day. Then came Saturday Jan 28th.. We had went out for sushi and to a basketball game. Then came home to have a few drinks with one of our friends. Well I made a stupid comment while I was drunk and she stormed into the other room and told me to F off.

 

Anyways we proceeded to fight for about another hour then things calmed down. I talked her into staying and everything seemed fine. Then Monday comes she kisses me and tells me to have a good day at work.. Well, three hours into my shift I get a text message saying "I packed up all my stuff and I'm gone out of the house. I can't do this anymore I'm sorry"

So instantly I go into panic mode and leave work. We begin to talk the next day and she tells me she thinks she made a mistake leaving and that I'm the love of her life. So I try to get her to come back but she just says she needs time away to "find herself" for a while.

 

So like an idiot and still in panic mode over the next few weeks I kept telling her I missed her. And how much I loved her and practically begged for her back. And she kept telling me I was pushing so I stopped. Now she is partying everyday with a new group of friends and told me that she lost her "spark" for me and doesn't feel anything for me. But she says she would like to stay friends with benefits "because sex is amazing with me" (her exact words). Well I did the sex thing one time last week.. And now the only time she would even care to talk to me is when she wanted sex. And she's makes it a point to tell me "I only see you as a friend and I don't love you anymore"

 

So finally yesterday I told her I'm done and I'm not going to take this anymore. And that it's pathetic that after almost 3 years she just wants me for sex. I then changed my number and haven't talked to her since. Now I'm just really depressed and my confidence is just shot. I'm guessing there is no fixing this? She is one of those girls that is so beautiful practically every guy throws themselves at her. So I'm sure she's plenty happy with all the attention she's getting at parties and clubs. Have I lost her for good?

[Falcon25]

YOU NEVER say you love, miss, adore, or whatever to a pretty lady that you have been dating ALL THE TIME. She doesn't love you because you are BORING. READ MY PREVIOUS POSTS. How do you get her back? ONE SHOT= Be seen with another girl.

 

Otherwise, it's done.

 

No relationship, no sex. No relationship, no "I miss you", no relatonship, no you.

 

God's speed.

[nick d]

So is going no contact even going to help at all now?

[Falcon25]

It may, read my post on what i learned about break up. The only thing that will help you in this situation is two things. Start acting like a man (you have the penis she loves), and two (she is about to lose the penis she had). She has to be jealous. You need to toughen up. Act like "change your ways, or you don't get this". If she comes back, cool, if not, whatever. She's a sluvt anyway.

[nick d]

Here's the really messed up part about this whole thing.. For some reason I keep worrying that I'll never get a girl as gorgeous as her. Why am I so worried about her looks?

[Philosoraptor]

You do need to take time away from this situation to work on yourself and through the healing process. Work on yourself and pay no attention to what she is doing with her life. Do not check up on her.

 

Falcon, I disagree with you. Why would you want someone who only comes back out of jealousy? Sure they are back, but that is in no way building a foundation for a solid relationship. You want someone to stay out of choice, but this is going to be based on fear.