RidePenny Posted February 29, 2012 Posted February 29, 2012 Hi, new to these forums. I really need to get some input on this. Can't ask my friends because theyre too cool to be honest. -__- I'll try to keep it short. So there's this girl I recently hung out with for a couple hours or so, and it was a surprisingly comfortable, enjoyable time for the both of us. Since then, the two times I saw her she looked really nice, as in she esp looked well-maintained. Today, I saw her again with her friend to talk about the 3 of us hanging out. I mentioned that a guy friend of mine couldn't go since he planned for a movie ahead of time, and then her friend suspiciously said to her that maybe she (person im interested in) should go watch the movie with my friend, in which she quickly said no. I've started to grow fond of this girl, and it'd be cool if something worked out. Question: Am I seeing what i want to see? Is there actually something potential here? Or is this just something to brush off? Extra: She and her friend have a nickname for me in their native language and include it in their texts to me (nickname is basically my name translated). Also, it's esp hard for me to figure this out because she's 23, im 19 and i dont have much exp with more mature girls. Thanks for any positive input!
jerbear Posted February 29, 2012 Posted February 29, 2012 Go ask her out! Usually when a woman gives you a nickname or pet name is a good thing. By talking to her and asking her out, you'll know if your fondness should continue. Being 23 and 19 is far but it can still work.
Ninjainpajamas Posted February 29, 2012 Posted February 29, 2012 With older women (which 19 to 23 is a decent gap) you've got to a bit more confident and "mature" in how you handle yourself as most women typically date older than younger...however there are some women that like younger guys. Bottom line is though...how does she treat you and react to you? Does she smile and make a lot a eye-contact? Does she appear happy or like her attention is direct towards you? You're not giving enough information to determine whether she's into you or not, they may be just being playful with the nicknames...especially If it's a good thing or a bad nickname, but they wouldn't be talking with you guys If they weren't interested, so you have should a pretty good level of confidence I would say in this situation from what you're describing. Just be yourself, and just talk...you don't need to turn up the heat instantly, just make sure you are transitioning at a pace and takes chances, as with flirtatious remarks or tell her she looks nice and see her reaction, keep that avenue of interest open and when you feel like she's into you then take a chance and ask her out.
USMCHokie Posted February 29, 2012 Posted February 29, 2012 I've started to grow fond of this girl, and it'd be cool if something worked out. Question: Am I seeing what i want to see? Is there actually something potential here? Or is this just something to brush off? Who cares if there is "potential"...? If you like her, then ask her out. I've spent the better part of my life waiting for 100% "potential" before making a move...I probably missed out on a lot of opportunities... Also, it's esp hard for me to figure this out because she's 23, im 19 and i dont have much exp with more mature girls. 23 is hardly mature...certainly more "mature" than 19...but not by much... 1
CC12 Posted February 29, 2012 Posted February 29, 2012 Who cares if there is "potential"...? If you like her, then ask her out. I've spent the better part of my life waiting for 100% "potential" before making a move...I probably missed out on a lot of opportunities... Yeah. Use this guy's learning experience for your own personal gain and just ask her out. There doesn't need to be concrete evidence of mutual attraction to simply ask her out for coffee or something. If she says no, so what? It was just coffee, anyway.
Author RidePenny Posted February 29, 2012 Author Posted February 29, 2012 Ya you guys are so right about everything. I should just ease into this. It's just I'm not usually this bothered about something like this. It's kind of unusual for me. Anyway it's a nice nickname. Not negative. When we're alone there's a handful of smiles and eye contact. She doesn't ever look uninterested or unhappy about being around me. But we she's with her friend, her friend does most of the talking. Idk I feel super comfortable talking to her friend, just cuz we respect ea other as friends. So yea
kiss_andmakeup Posted February 29, 2012 Posted February 29, 2012 I agree that 23 is not necessarily "mature," but it definitely can be. That's only a year younger than me, and I can't imagine dating a 19-year-old. OP, confidence is going to be the most important element in your approach. Women are already apprehensive to date younger guys because they tend to be less self-assured, confident, and experienced than their older counterparts. So that's what you have to compensate for. You never know...maybe you'll pull it off. Good luck!
sigurpol Posted February 29, 2012 Posted February 29, 2012 While the gap between ages might intimidate you, nipping any potential you might see early on could result in a boost of confidence. People like when that shows. Assertiveness must take over! Just do it, mang'
Author RidePenny Posted February 29, 2012 Author Posted February 29, 2012 While the gap between ages might intimidate you, nipping any potential you might see early on could result in a boost of confidence. People like when that shows. Assertiveness must take over! Just do it, mang' yea the age diff is definitely intimidating me! and i know that her preference is for the mature type and maybe older, but i'm so immature heheh. On the other hand, I like to think that Im consistent with having good self-confidence. these things really shouldn't matter, i'm just psyching myself out -__- I was talking to a friend of hers and she told me she was kind of weary about hanging out with me before, but when it actually happened, it worked out pretty comfortably. Ultimately, I'll try. I don't think I want to rush into anything though. I'll see what happens.
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