BDranger Posted February 29, 2012 Posted February 29, 2012 I'm gonna start off by giving some back ground history. My aunt was married to a huge ******* for about 30 years and he passed away from a heart attack about 3 years ago. So, she tries EHarmony and looks around but first finds a guy named Ed. He is nice at first, things are going well but then he's still a player at 55. Oh well. Then she meets Bud. Even though I hardly know the guy, Bud is one of the people you trust right off the bat. It's difficult to describe his character but he is one of the most uplifting people I have ever met. He seems unable to be taken down emotionally... One of his sayings is the 50/50 chance rule. He tells me, "ya know what, there is a 50/50 chance that during the time of Vietnam you'll get drafted. And there is a 50/50 chance you will be medically qualified to enlist. And there is a 50/50 chance you'll make it through boot camp. And after that there is a 50/50 chance you'll have a job that is considered front line. There is a 50/50 chance that you will even be deployed to Vietnam. Then, there is a 50/50 chance that you will be a hot zone. I'll cut it out now, but you get the point. Life is a complete gamble. Why think so negatively when you could be out giving yourself that 50/50 chance to meet someone really great? So back to the story of how my Aunt and Bud met.... Bud tries EHarmony and at first finds gold diggers. He keeps trying and still nothing works. While seeing his matches he sees my Aunt's profile comes up and says to himself, "this woman is too georgous for me, I don't have a chance" and logs off. A few days later my Aunt sends him a message talking about some of their favorite music. After the first date Bud thinks he's got no shot, she is absolutely stunning. "A woman that beautiful would never fall for a guy like me." He sweats through the first month of getting to know her and damn near mentally chokes himself. Bud's other saying is "I think there is a soul mate for everyone out there. I think there is someone absolutely perfect for you out there. You just have to go out there and find em." The way I see it: I'm deploying again in 2 months. I spent my last month sleeping with 30 other men in a small tin can (literally). I'm about to be abstinent and sober for the next 7-8 months and right now I'm talking to a real sweet girl at a college about an hour away from me right now and she hasn't responded to my text about getting dinner together. Yes, it sucks, I do think she likes me a lot because she no **** apologized for missing my coming home date/would-be first date together. Why should I settle for less? If someone didn't take the time to really know me, forget it. My best friend's sister who I was talking to - I don't know if she was just having a hard time with a looming deployment and or school/work/4 hours distance, **** it. If they wanted me like I wanted them, they'd give up their security blankets, they'd throw away pride, screw the dating rules, "I WANT YOU BACK, I'LL DO ANYTHING!" thats about the only response I want to hear. Bud has said atleast once a day to me, "I'm happier now than I've ever been in my entire life. I'm having more fun now than I've ever had. Even if we lived in the ghetto without all the niceties I'd be having the best time in my life right now." Love is supposed to be a good feeling, so why do we always screw it up? just let it go, forgive yourself, forgive stupid people, if it was meant to be - let it. 1
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