rubyleo Posted February 29, 2012 Posted February 29, 2012 My boyfriend after a year decided he has fell out of love with me. It's only been a few days, and he wants to be friends. The truth is, he is still married and has been since I met him but only heard about this about 6 months ago. The ex lives far away, and I just asked him what the status was and he got and he just seemed bothered by it. Then a day later I get a goodbye email. This really sucks.
sweetheart5381 Posted February 29, 2012 Posted February 29, 2012 My boyfriend after a year decided he has fell out of love with me. It's only been a few days, and he wants to be friends. The truth is, he is still married and has been since I met him but only heard about this about 6 months ago. The ex lives far away, and I just asked him what the status was and he got and he just seemed bothered by it. Then a day later I get a goodbye email. This really sucks. I'm sorry, this must be painful for you. Hard to find out after 6 months together he was married. You were likely in love with him by then. Don't let this person drag you down. He is not worth the effort... I could say plenty of nasty stuff about his type of personality but really, you have to take care of you. You are here for you, not him. Don't be his friend, don't hang on, just let him go. Hard as hell to do, but it has to be done, trust me... others here will give you the same advice. One foot in front of the other, just walk away. All the best.
Falcon25 Posted February 29, 2012 Posted February 29, 2012 Ummmm.......he's married. Do you understand what that means? It means you are being a home wrecker. Get out of this. Go for a man without a ring on his finger. NOW YOU KNOW.
Philosoraptor Posted February 29, 2012 Posted February 29, 2012 My boyfriend after a year decided he has fell out of love with me. It's only been a few days, and he wants to be friends. The truth is, he is still married and has been since I met him but only heard about this about 6 months ago. The ex lives far away, and I just asked him what the status was and he got and he just seemed bothered by it. Then a day later I get a goodbye email. This really sucks. The truth is that if he is still married he has likely not went through the motions to heal. What does "the status" mean? I'm reading it as he got bothered when you asked him how close to divorce were they, and him being bothered likely means he's not ready to cut ties with the ex.
Author rubyleo Posted March 1, 2012 Author Posted March 1, 2012 Hi guys. Well he's been separated for two years now and has no ties with her. Doesn't even talk to her. She lives across country and he doesn't have anything to do with her. I think he might have commitment issues. I am not a home wrecker Falcon 25. Hello..... I am 45 years old with two teenager boys and would never dream of having an affair on someone. Philosoraptor: The status means, "what is going on and how long is it going to be". Instead of him communicating to me, he just said that he is never getting married again and isn't in a rush to get divorced until I received a goodbye email telling me that his child support would be higher when he got divorced. Well, communication. sweetheart5381: You are correct. I need to hear that from you. Thank you so much. You must have been through what I'm going through. You seem very caring and very helpful. Thank you again. It's been 4 days and I've finally started eating a little. I'm not going to give this guy the satisfaction of me getting sick (even though I could afford to lose a few pounds) lol. Thanks all.
Author rubyleo Posted March 1, 2012 Author Posted March 1, 2012 Ummmm.......he's married. Do you understand what that means? It means you are being a home wrecker. Get out of this. Go for a man without a ring on his finger. NOW YOU KNOW. He hasn't had a ring on his finger for 2 years.
sweetheart5381 Posted March 1, 2012 Posted March 1, 2012 Hi guys. Well he's been separated for two years now and has no ties with her. Doesn't even talk to her. She lives across country and he doesn't have anything to do with her. I think he might have commitment issues. I am not a home wrecker Falcon 25. Hello..... I am 45 years old with two teenager boys and would never dream of having an affair on someone. Philosoraptor: The status means, "what is going on and how long is it going to be". Instead of him communicating to me, he just said that he is never getting married again and isn't in a rush to get divorced until I received a goodbye email telling me that his child support would be higher when he got divorced. Well, communication. sweetheart5381: You are correct. I need to hear that from you. Thank you so much. You must have been through what I'm going through. You seem very caring and very helpful. Thank you again. It's been 4 days and I've finally started eating a little. I'm not going to give this guy the satisfaction of me getting sick (even though I could afford to lose a few pounds) lol. Thanks all. Yes, deciding whether a man is "technically" attached or available (going thru a divorce) is very difficult as the outside party. 2 yrs apart is a long time and when a man professes that he is done with the marriage it perhaps is not so and leaves the outside party in a very bad and painful spot. While a man can seem available for whatever reason (mostly his penis) he maybe isn't yet, just soothing his bruised ego with an innocent by-stander. Hate to say it, but "sometimes you're the windshield, sometimes you're the bug". And for those that think some folks are "homewreckers".... no conscientious person would ever, EVER wreck a home. Only the home-owner reserves that right. Just sayin
Falcon25 Posted March 1, 2012 Posted March 1, 2012 Until they are divorced by law, he is a married man. So yes, you are having an affair.
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