She says I'm self-absorbed and never go out of my way?

[xdarkn3ss]

Ok so first off, just joined because I have seen some useful advice here in the past and now I have a really tough problem I need help with.

 

I am 24

She is 25

 

I have been with my girlfriend for 8 months now, she lives over 30 miles out of my way (the complete opposite direction of where I work) and I have been staying with her, I think since we got together there have been maybe 8 or 9 nights that I wasn't with her. She refuses to let me pay rent despite numerous attempts to do so, our basic living situation works though, she pays the rent, I pay for the movies, eating out etc. so it's by no means even but I am not mooching off her.

 

I drive the extra mileage because I'd rather be with her than anywhere else, I buy this girl flowers all the time just because I love to see her smile, I surprise her with gifts and concerts and all sorts of things on a regular basis. I've gone out of my way to show her I care at every opportunity that presents itself. Her family is a lot closer than mine ever has been, she has taken me to many family functions to which I attended to make a presence and let them know I'm serious about this girl. She has only ever gone out of her to be with me on a handful of occasions, she drove to my residence a couple times, she took me car shopping when I didn't have any other ride, and on occasion she has been the driver when we go to comedy clubs and stuff like that. Anytime she drives I offer her gas money, more often then not she'll take it and that's not a problem at all because I feel it's owed.

 

Last weekend she took me car shopping, on saturday I told her once I got a car I was going to take my extra cash and go get some tattoo work done, she was perfectly fine with this on saturday, I didn't end up buying a car saturday but ended up buying one on sunday. For some reason this pissed her off when she found out I was going to the tattoo shop after i bought the car, however I ended up cancelling that because of her attitude because I felt she wanted me around for some reason. I go home and she accuses me of altering her plans to go to the park that day and acts like I screwed up her life, by the end of the night she had calmed down and was fine.

 

The next morning all hell breaks loose and I'm being accused of being self-centered, only ever being around when it's convenient for me, and only thinking of myself, she told me not to come home even though almost all of my stuff is there...pardon my lack of a better term but wtf?

[Stellar Wench]

Does she like picking fights, or does she just prefer all her men be pussy whipped? Should she ask you not to come home again, certainly oblige her.

[xdarkn3ss]

Does she like picking fights, or does she just prefer all her men be pussy whipped? Should she ask you not to come home again, certainly oblige her.

 

I'm already obliging her right now lol, she's never picked a fight before and never acted like this ever, she has always been impressed (or so she says) by my nice gestures etc...I'm one of those guys who doesn't cave in when it comes to stuff like this. She thinks she's owed some sort of apology although for what I have no idea, I'm picking my stuff up tonight if she doesn't find her brain and start acting like an adult.

[veggirl]

You might wanna post this in the Dating section, you'll prob get more replies.

 

Your GFs reaction is puzzling. Did you guys have plans for Sun that you were breaking?

 

There has to be more going on here. There's something else bothering her and for some reason this is what caused her to blow up.

[xdarkn3ss]

You might wanna post this in the Dating section, you'll prob get more replies.

 

Your GFs reaction is puzzling. Did you guys have plans for Sun that you were breaking?

 

There has to be more going on here. There's something else bothering her and for some reason this is what caused her to blow up.

 

Thx, I will take your advice, but to answer your question no plans were ever discussed, like I said she (on her own without my knowledge) wanted to go to the park with her neice and nephew but didn't tell me this until after I had made plans and after I had cancelled them because she seemed pissed off.

 

I know something else is afoot but she's not telling me, I've talked to a dozen friends and it never makes sense to anyone...without knowing whats going on I can only speculate that maybe shes feeling guilty about something else and is lashing out at every little thing to make herself feel better or something!?