Piggledow Posted February 28, 2012 Posted February 28, 2012 i'm not sure what i wanted to say now i've started typing i think i just want to get this out there my boyfriend of almost 2 years left me on the 6th of february. after three weeks of utter confusion for me. he hardly spoke to me for a week, then after going round and forcing him to have a talk with me to find out what was wrong with him. we then parted, agreeing to go see the show we had tickets for the next evening. for that week he let me think everything was fine after the show. everything was like cardboard, he held my hand and spoke to me but it was very... rigid feeling. but from what he said and the way he acted, i thought we were having another go. he hugged me and kissed me passionately every day that week. on the thursday he visited me and we were intimate. when he left he said he would see me on sunday, but that was it and he went back to hardly speaking. sunday came and went and then a week had passed, he refused my offer of taking him out for the evening. the following monday i was heading to the park with my dog and recognised a car parked on the street, it was him saying he wanted to talk i took the dog home and got into the car where he ended it, saying the spark was gone, he didn't love me any more that was it, but he'd like me as a friend. after making an ass of myself, i said fine but it's going to take time. i blocked him from everything the next morning after sending one last text. some time in the next week though, he decided to remove me from everything, shortly after i contacted his mother (nice lady, i wanted to apologise to her. not sure why) but that seemed to be the end of it. so in the following weeks i've felt dreadful. i've so wanted to go round to his house and destroy something, to hit him or just... something. to make him hurt as much as i have been. i've not done anything though. i had a couple of outbursts of replies to him on twitter. as he unfollowed me, i saw that as open ground for me to vent. how wrong i was. (more on this later) so that was that until yesterday when i got up the courage to call him and ask for the stuff i left at his house to be gathered so i could collect it. i froze on the phone and completely failed to do anything other than annoy him. as he took the opportunity to say it was late and he was tired, this morning at 7am when i woke (as i do most mornings) i sent a text. which was utterly foolish. and resulted in my receiving an email this afternoon from one of his friends, basically painting me to be a monster, i'm the reason he's been miserable, i'm mental, i'm depressive, i've got no idea what love is, what i'm feeling is something completely different to love. it also confirmed that the person who a few months ago apparently loved me is now already seeing someone else & couldn't be happier. meanwhile i'm here with a knot of pain and hopelessness in my chest and just pure anger that this person i've never even met decided to stick his oar in, and worse - to an email address i don't have listed anywhere. my ex hates me that much that he passed on my address just so that someone could belittle me, call me a monster and accuse me of cruelty to animals. i don't know what to do. i don't want to contact him ever again, i don't want to feel how i do. i need to get my stuff out of his house. and everywhere there are just reminders of him. i felt like i was moving forward before the weekend, but now i'm just back to square one. i know it gets easier... but when? i don't want to eat, i don't want to be awake, but i can't sleep i'm pathetic, i know i know.... i thought maybe being able to vent would help. not sure about that one.
Chi townD Posted February 29, 2012 Posted February 29, 2012 ahhh...you got a letter from the friend stating that he's already with someone else huh? and just a few weeks after the break up? Hmmm.... Look this guy is a douche rocket. How important is the stuff over at his house? Because if it isn't much and you could do without it, I would just leave it. Don't give yourself an excuse to see him again. So, you want revenge? The best revenge you can get on him is to lead a damn good life! First, get a new hairstyle and get a new wardrobe. Everything new. Go to school and do well so you can get set up with a kick ass job. And if you've finished school, go back so you can get a better job, with more money! Get a membership to a gym, a lt of gyms have kickboxing lessons. Sign up! Run on the treadmill and push weight. Get and absolutely toned bod!! Save your money and take a trip to somewhere you've always wanted to go and bring a girlfriend with you! Skiing in Denver, or go to the Bahamas or to Europe! And do you what's going to happen? He might get word on how totally awesome you look and the great job you have and the fantasic trips you've been taking WITHOUT HIM, and you know what you'll say? SCREW HIM!!! He had his chance. Get motivated and get revenge!
pie2 Posted February 29, 2012 Posted February 29, 2012 What Chi said (I loved your post)! Especially the kickboxing part! Can you call his mom to help you with your stuff? And bring a friend so things stay neutral.
CC12 Posted February 29, 2012 Posted February 29, 2012 and just pure anger that this person i've never even met decided to stick his oar in, and worse - to an email address i don't have listed anywhere. This person did not witness the private moments of your relationship and had no business emailing you, so they don't deserve a second of your energy. Let it go. It's almost akin to someone on this site telling you you're terrible. It will bother you, but you'll quickly forget about it because nobody here knows you and what we say really doesn't matter. Treat it like that, like some random internet person talked trash to you, because that's basically what happened. i need to get my stuff out of his house. Do you, really? Are those material possessions more important to you than moving on and forgetting about him? Getting those things back will likely be an awkward, painful experience for you. It's probably not worth it.
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